Husband is a chronic liarBy Abigail Van BurenIr if77 bf OHo* Y Ntwi %ni* l»c 1DEAR ABRY I have Ixvn married for 10 years to aman who has told some of the most outrageous lies I’veever heard We have an 8 year-old sonBefore we were married. John used to tell some tall tales, but 1 thought he was just trying to impress me 1 told him I loved him for what he was. and he didn’t have to make up any lies He promised he'd stop but I still catch him lying to me Heaven only knows what he says whenI’m not around.Last week a friend of ours died 1 wasn’t able to go tothe wake, so John went alone Yesterday when I caller! on the family they told me they were sorry that my hus hand has spent the last three weeks in the hospital being built up for surgery' 1 almost fell off my chair hut saidnothingWhen I got home 1 asked John why he had made up that story, ami he said he was ashamed because he hadn’t gotten around to visit his friend when he was sick 1 told him he would have been better off not to have made any excuses Abbv, I just can’t live with a man who lies but I can’t leave him because of our Min Is lying an illness and can if tie cured9 JOHN S WIFEDEAR WIFE: Lying is an • illness' only when the liar can't distinguish facts from fiction Your husband's lying appears to he more of a character deficiency. It's also a sign of imniaturilv. so perhaps if you scolded him and let him know how disappointed you were in him. he mightshape up.DEAR ABBY How good a mamuge prospect is a 4 vear old bachelor who still lives at home with his parents’1 He is an only child and when his parents move fr *11 one city to another, he moves with themI have known him for years vet when 1 write to him.his mofhcr is the one who answers rm letters She willwrite and say. “ says to tell you, blah blah, blah, and even tho rm letters 11 him have !* ome more {ersonal since Ik* proposed marriage on the long-distance telephone, he hares my letters with his folks and they keep telling me how much they all enjoy my letters'Now 1 am informed i not consulted, but informed that after our marriage, we will live with hm parents He is a sweel person, hut he has let me kn w that 1 will either dothings his way or else1 am Ixygmnmg to wonder what I am getting intodo you think’ HAY INC SECOND 1’HOI (HITSDEAR HAVIN'!; I suggest you have some third, fourth.and fifth thoughts atHuit this \nd when you get to siv sell'DEAR ABBV 1 am a married woman who ho- tieen in love with anather woman's husband for four vears WeWcan’t divorce and marrv each othe; for all Oh- usual reaWsons, but we keep telling ourselves that ours is i sjxicial thing, and we are not the same as all the others in thissituation, and there will be a someday for usAll the letters 1 have read in vour column from womenWhatin this situation have lieen negaove rtiey’ve all thought as we do, but for some reason there is never a happy ending Is it possible for our dreams to come true Or are we just fooling ourselves?1 would be interested m hearing from others, if indeed then* are any who started off vvit an affair, and finally realized their “somedayHave they really found the p: nr- they thought was there’’ Or did they find themselve in the same rut thatcaused their first affair? Sign me WONDERINGDEAR WONDERING: I'll askDEAR ABBY My hoys club putting on a play Since there are no girls, some of the boys have t play girls parts and I have the “female ’ lead1 have to weai women s clothes and nvlon stiK kings and heels Also .i padded hra 1 don t need a wig because my own hair is lung but they curl it so 1 will look like a girl But what 1 hate the most i that 1 have to kiss another Imiv I just can't do that. Abbv Please tell me what to doA WORRIED BOYP S At rehearsal I found out why girls hate brassieres DEAR BOY: Ask your director how to appear to bekissing the boy without really kissing him If you keep your back to the audience, I’m sure you can fake it convincinglyIf*. S Break a leg! That's show hi/ for “good luck “1