Syracuse Herald Journal (Newspaper) - February 26, 1999, Syracuse, New York
C6 Syracuse Herald-Journal. Friday, February CNY Celebrities File photo JIM CARREY dropped in on a concert by his "Man on the Moon" co-star, Courtney Love. File pholo COURTNEY LOVE was her usual, uninhibited self at an MTV- sponsored concert. Carrey shares private moment in Love's lair By George Rush and Joanna Molloy New York Daily News They stopped playing onscreen lovers last year, but Courtney Love and Jim Carrey still seem attached. The wide-mouthed co-stars spent more than an hour holed up in Love's dressing room at LA's Palace Theater recently, sources say. The funnyman showed up to see Love and her band, Hole, perform at an MTV-sponsored concert Sunday night. Later Car- rey slipped into her backstage lair, where they didn't seem to want to be disturbed. "I don't know what they were doing in there." says one spy. "And no one was knocking on the door to find out. They wanted privacy." The pair grew close while shooting Milos Forman's "Man on the in which Carrey plays late comic Andy Kaufman. One tabloid published photos from the movie set that purport- edly showed the co-stars nuz- zling off-camera. Love's publicist calls Carrey and Courtney "friends" and her with someone ever since she stopped seeing Hd Norton." During the concert. Love was her uninhibited self. When she spotted Maverick Records chief Guy Oseary who co-owns the label with Madonna in the front row, she went ballistic. "What are you doing Love blurted, say witnesses. "MTV. what is this? I don't want industry people here. This is for the Some wondered whether it was a goof on a similar rant Ma- donna did in her movie "Truth or Dare." But Oseary appeared to take the blast seriously. The exec, who was sitting with Red Hot Chili Pepper Anthony Kledis, bolted. Keyshown Johnson takes a hike Oliver Stone has lost another member of the squad for his foot- ball movie "On Any Given Sun- day." Gridiron great Keyshawn Johnson quit the Miami produc- tion Monday following Sean "Puffy- Combs' depar- ture. Johnson apparently felt a little neglect- ed by Stone Co. "Keyshawn would just sit there for 10 to 1 1 hours, and they wouldn't end up using Stone Johnson's agent. Jerome Stan- ley, says his client dropped out because "the character was ill- defined." Keyshawn is still eyeing show business. He's reading for the lead in Spike Lee's new movie, "Love and this week in LA. Woman discovers her husband is a transvestite ANN LANDERS SYNDICATEDCOtUMNIST Dear Ann Landers: My husband has been clinically depressed for most of his adult life. A while back, "Herman" began seeing a fe- male therapist who focused on my husband's early years to see whether something in his child- hood might be the cause of his depression. His therapist discov- ered that during adolescence Herman had been a cross-dress- er. He apparently had worn women's clothing in his early teens but repressed it as an adult. Now Herman wants my permission to express this part of his personality around the house. He says he would not go out in public. This disgusts me. Ann. The thought of my husband in make- up, wig and high heels makes my skin crawl. His therapist told me I need to be more tolerant. She doesn't seem to think his behavior is abnormal or sick. Herman is artistic and sensi- tive, a gourmet cook and an avid sportsman. More important, he is a terrific father to our two sons. I used to think he was the most masculine man alive. Now I don't see how I can ever look at him the same way or slop wondering whether he is gay. I don't want to break up our mar- riage, but if anyone found out about the makeup, wigs and high heels, I would be devastat- ed. need your advice. N. Carolina Dear N. Carolina: You need to have a belter understanding of 3our husband's cross-dressing. Herman is a transveslitc. Some transvcMites are gay. bul many are not. They gel their thrills from dressing up in women's cloihinsi. bul that's all. Please go to the public library and read up on ihe subject. The more you know, the less you'll fear. Mother wonders about daughter's adult behavior Dear Ann Landers: I just read the letter from "Hey. You" in Florida, whose mother-in-law wouldn't call her by name. My own daughter has not called me "Mom" or anything else since she married 38 years ago. when she was 18.1 have never heard her say she is sorry when she has been in the wrong. Nor does she ever say or "thank you." This is not the way she was raised. We see each other often, and she is not hos- tile. Can you explain this? Hey, You in California Dear Hey, You: No, I cannot cxpitiiii ii. iij doii ij ou JM-L her why she never calls you Children ore encouraged to asked disability questions Dear Ann Landers: I am writ- ing in response to "Managing in Mesa." the disabled woman who complained about people staring at her or asking questions. How are children supposed to react lo a person with a disability if they are not allowed to ask questions? While I don't agree with being cruel or rude. I have always told my children that in- siead of just staring they should ask questions. My son once told a lady in line, "That's the nicest wheel- chair I ever saw." She smiled and said, "Thank you. I've had it since I was your age." Although she didn't go into dciail, she ex- plained she had been in a car ac- cident many years before and told my son. "When you grow up. never drink and drive." I'm sure lhai woman, and what she said, made an indelible impres- on ni> sun. So >ou .see, Ann, asking questions can be a good thing. Upfront in Vermont Dear Vermont: Being forth- right and honesi is always the best way to go. That is how chil- dren develop integrity. Go online in search of all sorts of bargains DAVEFARRELL IOADSIDE ATTRACTIONS Have you been bitlen by the online auc- tion bug yel? It seems everyone I know has been. U.. J J. Jud. is making to a week selling things on eBay one of the TTIOSI wirlclv used mic-tion on the Net. He discovered eBay a few months ago, and he has used it to sell all the accumulated junk, er. I mean "incredibly val- uable, one-of-a-kind antiques and curios" he had stored in his attic. garage and basement. He sees no end lo. his new en- trepreneurial venture. "It's he told me the other day. "People will buy any- thing My other friend. Sara, is proof of that. She's been online every day for a week, spending her lunch hours surfing eBay for retro art objects and gadgets. Yesterday she came running into the office with three antique re- cord jackets from 1950s-era chil- dren's records Today the mailman brought her a used Po- laroid One-Step camera (which she bought lor less than I haven't bought anything on hut I spem some time there during the last week. I have to admit, I was intrigued and amused with what I found there. It truly is the mother of all garage sales. The last time I checked there were more than 1.5 million items for sale, ranging from a 1959 Ca- dillac Series 62 Red Convertible to a water hyacinth plant. In fact, there's so much on this site that you could easily get lost poking around in all of its nooks and crannies. If you're new to eBay, you should start your visit at the tuto- rial page This is where you'll learn the rules for listing and bidding on items. The step- by-step instructions are very clear and easy to understand. If you're interested in joining the fun, you'll be up and running within five minutes. Pricelinc.com (www.price line.com) isn't exactly an auction site, but it is attracting thousands of bargain hunters a day. And KIUMTIO 'lii-lipr, tir-l-on- new cars and renting hotel rooms, all at prices they set. How's this possible? Many businesses, such as airlines and hotels, have inventory (airplane seats and hotel rooms) that goes unused because no one has pur- chased or rented it. Through Priceline you can "bid" on air- line tickets and hotel rooms by offering the price you want to pay. (Ridiculously low bids, like for a round-trip ticket from New York to Paris, won't be en- tertained.) Of course, the more flexible your travel plans are, the more likely your bid will be ac- cepted. Priceline will look for a com- pany willing to accept your bid and get back lo you with an an- swer within an hour. Priceline is selling about discount airline tickets a day now, and sales are climbing. Newspapers are filled with sto- ries about this innovative service, quoting satisfied customers who have saved hundreds of dollars by investing a lew minutes on- line. Of course, before you engage in any online commerce, make sure you read the fine print in the cuiuruci or u.sei agieeinciii on me site. It's also a good idea to try to connect with customers who've used the services you're interest- ed in. But if you do your homework and take reasonable precautions to protect yourself, there's no reason you can't use ihem to find some great bargains. Thousands of people are doing just that every day. Seen anything interesting on the Information Highway you'd like to share with others? Drop an e-mail message to Dave Farrell at Ellen Blalock Staff pncc.ographer THE MAKERS of Diet Coke are including the first chapters of books by popular authors in 12-packs after finding that many of their customers like to read in their spare time. Diet Coke Offers Novel Promotion Din, FROM PAGE C-S maybe new readers. If the Diet Coke promotion is unprece- dented in terms of scale, it's not the first time books have been sold with another product. It's a strategy that seems to have been tried most often with romance nov- els, where the tie-ins tend lo be products such as perfume or body lotion, "What we look for is a similar target says Lisa Myles, senior prod- uct manager for Harlequin Books, which publishes romance novels. That audience is women ages 18 to 45, although one of the objectives of cross-promotions is to skew the age up or down slightly to attract new readers. For example, not long ago. Harlequin supplied Coty, the perfume company, with two books that will be paired with two perfumes and sold at cosmetics counters in big baskets. At the moment. Harlequin is doing a cross-promotion with K-Tcl. which is promoting a four-CD set of romantic music on television. When you order the CDs. you get a Harlequin Super Romance novel with a coupon inside for 50 cents off your next Harlequin Super Romance book. The K-Tcl sampling is 50.000, reports Myles, a minuscule number compared to the Diet Coke promotion bul it should be remembered that excerpts, not entire books, accompany the soda. And the ob- jective is slightly different: It's not just a bonus for valued customers but an attempt to get new ones. Hooking new readers is immensely ap- pealing to publishers, but several admit it's difficult to pull off cross-promotions. Issues such as which company is responsi- ble for wrapping, which will stock shelves and the basic question of whether new pairings will sell more of either product often derail such efforts. But Lou Aronica, senior vice president and publisher of Avon books, thinks the essence of the Diet Coke promotion the value added to a regular purchase "is becoming more important than offering consumers a price break." That's because the price ultimately does not determine whether you buy a book. Yes. you might choose a store that discounts deeply, but when faced with a choice between two honks, n dollar differ- ence in price is not usually the determin- ing factor. "But the idea that I get something that isn't offered to everybody is says Aronica. So maybe the something extra for the reader will be notes from the author at the end of the novel. Other value-added ploys Avon has tried include a three-song sampler CD in Bruce Springsteen's "Songs." which the com- pany published last fall, and a demo CD- ROM game inside Raymond E. Feist's "Kondor. the a fantasy novel that was the basis for another CD-ROM game. Did they help sales? "It's almost impossible to admits Aronica. "When I acquired the Spring- steen book I assumed Bruce's fans would buy it. I know it made our accounts happy because they felt they were giving their customers something extra." It all comes down to making an impres- sion on the consumer, which is. ultimate- ly. Diet Coke's goal. Will the first chapter of "Be Cool" sell more cases of Diet Coke? It might not really matter. What matters is making the Diet Coke drinker loyal to the brand. And if the consumer thinks the cola company is doing nice things by including a first chapter of a ncv, book, ihal might be enough lo make that person ask for Diet Coke everywhere. Of course, it would be cool for Dell if millions of Diet Coke drinkers discovered Elmore Leonard and became loyal to him. too. Secret Society of Happy People: Grin and share it The group's founder urges a stop-and-smell-the-roses approach. By Liz Stevens Knight Ridder Newspapers If you're happy and you know it... keep it to yourself, thanks. Happiness, it sometimes seems, has gone the way of Tab cola and Mill! Vanilli, fading into oblivion. It's hip to be hope- less, stylish to be stressed and popular to be a pitiable sap spreading gloom and bad juju. Even Ann Landers seems lo he loeins; the "No one wants to hear aboul your good fortune" line. it's ihe Jerr> Springer effect. Whatever it is. Pam Johnson is tired of it: she's not mad. mind you. because that would be a waste of mental energy. Instead, she is doing something (o coun- teract the widespread negativity she encounters daily. In August. Johnson founded the Secret Society of Happy Peo- ple. It might sound corny (OK. it does sound but Johnson's message strikes a universal chord: We spend way too much time whining aboul our problems and way too little time acknowl- edging the good momenls. "There are 100-something 12-step groups that exist, and that has a place in our society." Johnson says, "but there's really not much out there that says. 'It's OK 10 be happy, just because.' Think about conversations uith friends, family and co- workeis: They'probably locus on negative events. Johnson notes. "If you go lo work and you lell people thai you're happy, people make jokes: they don't want lo hear she adds. On the olher hand. "If you have a horrible morning, you get a lot of sympa- thy." Johnson points to a recent Ann Landers column in which (he ad- vice maven agreed with writers who insisted that people who send holiday cards should omit their good news: "Spare us the details of the Ivy League schools your children arc attending and the honors and awards they have received during the year..." wrote the ornery "Your Cousins in Illinois.'" In response. Johnson drafted a news release calling the column "a blatant public example" of ihe altitude she is combating, and sent ii via overnight mail lo vari- ous TV personalities and lalk- shmv hosts. Johnson, who lives in Ir- ving, began leaching personal empowerment workshops at local community centers several years back. Her clients encouraged her to publish a newsletter, and John- son added a humor column fol- lowing the antics of a fictitious Secret Society of Happy People. But then real people started asking Johnson if they could join the club, and voila: The Web site went up in September, the first newsletter is scheduled for mailing this month, and more than 50 people nationwide have coughed up S30 to become official members. (Each one receives a T-shirt, lapel pin, bumper sticker, quar- terly newsletter and opportunity for a pen pal.) Johnson urges a stop-and- smell-the-roses approach. Give as much time to dwelling on the Croat tilings in life as to (he crud- ely stuff, she says, and encourage others lo share positive ihoughls. "Most people laugh at me at first, and then they gel it." John- son says. "It's one of those things that they already some- what know."