New Braunfels Herald Zeitung (Newspaper) - October 4, 1994, New Braunfels, Texas
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QUOTABLE“Freedom of speech and freedom of action are meaningless without freedom to think.”
- Bergen Evans author, 1946
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United Way aims high1994 campaign already greeted with positive, generous response
Already underway, the 1994 Comal County United Way Campaign will try to meet a lofty goal of $285,(XX) to support local agencies and charities.
Although the goal seems to be high, it is a realistic one after last year’s goal of $265,000 was met and exceeded. From the funds raised last year and every year, thousands of people right here in Comal County are given hope and opportunity.
Recently, the Comal ISD gathered 346 pledges and have donated $18,253 while New Braunfels ISD, a smaller district, has collected more than $10,000 for United Way. Also, local ReMax realtors accomplished IOO percent participation and were able to donate $1,000.
According to United Way Director Joe Wort, this year's drive is currently riding at 35 to 40 percent of goal and the momentum is building.
In situations such as this where a great portion of the anticipated goal comes early, it is easy to become complacent and to assume that "everyone else is taking care of it." However, this is not the case in Comal County where the $285,000 goal might be met early in the campaign.
Those who have given or are planning to give to the United Way know that efforts like the United Way are not about goals, although we certainly try to reach them. It is about people and our willingness and ability to help them.
It is because of these people, and the good people who are working hard for the United Way, that more than enough is not too much.
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Learn to Listen to Yourself
In my last column I shared with you information about how we affect our lives, with our self-talk (self-evaluative thinking). Ongoing feedback we were given by important people in our lives, especially as children, is frequently replayed in our adult lives, but instead of others commenting to us, we comment to ourselves. This self-talk can be affirming and encouraging, or critical and demeaning, or a combination of both. The way we talk to ourselves significantly affects us — we bombard ourselves with commentary all the time.
If that self-talk is primarily negative and discouraging, we end up essentially emotionally abusing ourselves.
This is not to say that we should not fairly and honestly judge our thoughts, feelings and behaviors. We need to recognize our mistakes in order to learn and grow from them. We need to realize our part in problems so we can do something productive in solve or manage them. Self-affirming and positive self-talk is not a blanket belief that we do no wrong. Instead, it is learning to accept ourselves as flawed but striving people, giving credit where due and learning from mistakes.
The Three Rs of helping with this problem consist of Recognizing self-abusive self talk, Rejecting it as irrational or exaggerated and untrue, and then Replacing it with realistic, positive and encouraging statements.
Recognizing self-abusive self-talk involves learning to listen to the way we talk to ourselves and notice when we become irrational and abusive. Our self-talk is usually subconscious, which means it is like background music; although it is not actively attended to, it is heard and sets a mood, and can readily be brought to active memory when we want. Learn to listen to yourself!
Learn to recognize self-critical and self-demeaning statements! *
Rejecting self-abusive self-talk involves casting those thoughts away. You are the sole occupant in your mind. You can consciously “turn off’ the abusive “tapes” of the past. We can and do discard many thoughts and can change our minds. I encourage you to scream silently in you mind, “Stop it (call yourself by name)! Stop it! I choose to cease abusing myself” Repeat as necessary, which will be frequent at first. Tell yourself as strongly as you would like to if you heard someone verbally abusing a child you loved.
Replacing self-abusive self-talk involves considering the situation, accepting appropriate responsibility, and refraining from generalizing the situation to the very situation (such as “always” and “never”). Some words need to be completely banned from your self-talk. (e.g. stupid, dumb, worthless, hopeless). Other self-critical statements need to be adapted to be more realistic. For example, if you f orgot to lock your house, that is a prob lem which you probably want to stop. You could abusively state, “I’m so dumb. I’m an adult supposedly and I can’t even remember to lock die house. IMI never amount to anything if I can’t remember anything even that simple.” Guess what
is likely to happen following this self talk? This person is likely to feel bad about self, become even less able lo concentrate and remember small details, and not address the problem!
In contrast, under the same situation, the person could say to self, “I need to be more careful about locking the door when I leave, because I am frequently Blinking about my day and sometimes forget. ITI try to help myself remember by putting a note across my speedometer in the car when I get home at night until it becomes more a habit to lock the door.” This person can then go on with their day, knowing many problems can be solved.
More difficult situations require more effort to remain positive and self-affirming. For example, if someone loses a job due to mistakes they made, it remains important to learn from the mistakes, while at the same time focus on problem solving rather than being overly critical of self. “I made a serious mistake, and I need to learn from it” is honest and important information for self. “I never learn from mistakes, I’m so stupid that I even got fired” neither solves the problem nor encourages the person lo improve.
The way we talk to ourselves is important to self-understanding and to leading a pleasant and effective life. It “sets the stage” for positive and prixiuciivc living or for negative and self-defeating living. Next week, this article will address how our expectations of self and tither influence what happens in our lives, the “Self-Fulfilling Prophecy.”
(Dr. Logan is a psychologist in private practice in Braunfels, maintaining a general practice to serve adults, adolescents, children, couples and families.)
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With friends like this, Clinton doesn’t need Dole
By DAVE SKIDMORE
Associated Press WriterAnalysis
WASHINGTON (AP) — Clinton administration officials spent countless hours consulting with Republicans to ensure approval of a tariff-cutting world trade agreement before the election.
At every opportunity, they proudly pointed to the administration's bipartisanship.
Bul they overlooked an opponent within the Democratic ranks.
Sen. Ernest Hollings of South Carolina, who calls himself a friend of the president, said he warned U.S. Trade Representative Mickey Kantor back in April that he would stand in Clinton’s way if given a chance.
“I told Mickey ... not to tome in here al the last minute with a we’ve-gol-to-savc-the-president kind of thing,” Hollings told reporters.
But thai is exactly what the administration did when it introduced a bill last week implementing the 123-nation pact negotiated under the
Today in history
By The Associated Press
Today is Tuesday, (X*t 4, the 277th day of 1994.
There are 88 days left in the year.
Today’s Highlight in History:
On Oct. 4, 1957, the Space Age began as the Soviet Union launched Sputnik, the first manmade satellite, into orbit around the Earth.
On this date:
In 1777, George Washington’s
General Agreement on Tariffs and Trade.
Under die special fast-track rules for consideration of Bade bills, Hollings can hold GATT in his Commerce, Science and Transportation Committee for 45 days.
Just before sending the bill to Congress, Clinton met with Hollings at the White House. Administration officials held their breaths, hoping Hollings would permit a vote before the Senate’s scheduled adjournment this Friday.
But he stood finn and now the Senate will have to return for a lanic-duck session on Nov. 30 and Dec. I.
So, the world trade accord, like health care refonn before it, has become another accomplishment Clinton cannot cite before die Nov. 8 midtenn elections.
And the president will be in the embarrassing position of attending
troops launched an assault on the British at Germantown, Pa. The attack lost momentum, and die Americans suffered heavy casualties.
In 1822, the 19th president of the United States, Rutherford B. Hayes, was bom in Delaware, Ohio.
In 1887, the first issue of die International Herald t ribune was published as the Paris Herald Tribune.
In 1931, the comic stop “Dick Tracy,” created by Chester Gould, made its debut.
In 1940, Adolf Hider and Benito
Asian-Pacific free* trade talks in Indonesia in November with GATT still hanging.
GATT supporters are putting the best face possible on the delay. Senate Finance Committee Chairman Daniel Patrick Moymhan, D-N.Y., said GATT hackers have the votes to pass it, plus an assured date for a vole. That knowledge should strengthen Clinton’s hand in Indonesia, he said.
But it’s still not entirely clear the GATT bill is trouble-free. A simple majority of die Senate isn’t enough. It must clear a 60-vote procedural hurdle.
Despite the position he’s put the administration in, Hollings insists he is indeed a friend of Clinton’s. They just don’t see eye-to-eye on Bade.
T he administration says GATT will create a hall-million jobs. Bul Hollings says no matter how much freer Bade helps U.S. interests in such areas as pharmaceutical patents and computer software, it will cost
Mussolini conferred at Brenner Pass in the Alps, where the Nazi leader sought Italy’s help in lighting the British.
In 1957, die television series “Leave It to Beaver” premiered on CBS.
In 1958, the first tram-Atlantic passenger jetliner service was begun by British Overseas Ah ways Corporation with flights between London and New York.
In 1965, Pope Paul VI became the first reigning pontiff to visit the Western Hemisphere and address the U.N. General Assembly.
jobs in basic manufacturing, including the manufacturing of textiles in South Carolina.
And recalling his losing light over the North American Free Trade Agreement, Hollings is not above savoring the fact that he has the upper hand, if only temporarily.
“I said, Mr. President, you beat me on NAFTA,” Hollings said. “So on GATT, you better... get those Republican votes because I’m absolutely opposed to dus free trade nonsense.”
The predicament has Democratic senators stewing over the administra lion’s handling of the trade accord.
“I diink they should have anticipated some of diese objections earlier and handled them earlier,” said Sen. Max Balteus, D-Mont., chairman of the Finance trade subcommittee.
Senate Republican leader Bob Dole of Kansas said Hollings may lie doing everyone a service by allowing more time for high-profile debate of GATI.
In 1970, rock singer Jams Joplin, 27, was found dead in her Holly wood hotel rtxirn.
In 1976, agriculture secretary Earl Bul/ resigned in the wake of a controversy over a joke he’d made about blacks.
In 1978, funeral services were held at the Vatican for Pope John Paul I.
In 1985, the Shiite Muslim group Islamic J iliad issued a statement claiming it had killed American hostage William Buckley.