New Braunfels Herald Zeitung (Newspaper) - November 1, 1987, New Braunfels, Texas
On things our kids want from us
By JOHN I. WALKER, M O.
Every Saturday morning my teenage son and I have breakfast together to talk about the past week’s events We have only two rules: I can't nag him and he can't ask me for money We talk about happy things and generally have a good time
Several weeks ago after breakfasting on Earl Abels' World Famous Thin Pancakes, we decided to drive down to Import Motors and look at the cars that the rich people drive
I ve always wanted to have a Jaguar, but because the price is about $25,000 more than I can think about paying. I instead go down to the Jaguar dealership and sit in one of their cars I like to sit there, smell the leather and imagine. Walter Mitty-like. that I am driving around town in one of those luxurious automobiles Then I remind myself that possessions don’t make an individual happy and I leave the dealership smugly glib about how happ> I am to have my priorities straight
This particular week a fire engine red Ferrari gleamed on the showroom floor. My son and I drooled over it for a few minutes and talked with the salesman about how wonderful it must be to drive that machine As we were leaving the showroom floor my son folded his hands in a prayer-like gesture and jokingly pleaded, "Dad. please, please, please save up your money
and get me that Ferrari 1 11 never ask for anything else the rest of my life.”
I told him. ‘‘Brad. I can't even pronounce Ferrari, much less afford to buy one But I am glad to see you have good taste.”
I then waxed philosophical We talked about priorities and values I asked him what traits he felt were the most important for a parent to have Later. I sought my daughter's ideas Here is a composite of their thoughts
First of all. they said, a parent must be loving Love, real love. means accepting our children exact Iv as they are while encouraging them to grow emotionally, intellectually and spiritually Love means you demand less and encourage more A loving parent is also not hesitant to show tenderness-to give hugs kisses and pats on the back
Good parents respect their children Both Wetide and Brad emphasized this point "Dad. if you want us to act maturely, treat us with respect ” This command is a tough one I'm afraid if I don't guide my children they will wander outside the white lines Parents must master the difficult task of allowing their children enough freedom to make mistakes but enough guidance to prevent the mistakes from being big ones We can be better parents by paying less attention to minutia and more attention to important values-love joy. loyalty
I am now in the "no-nag” phase of parenting I think that’s what my kids wanted when they emphasized a trusting relationship: “Treat us with respect" translates into "Don't nag". I remind them, however, that to be trusted requires trustworthy behavior So far my "no nag” phase works at least my blood pressure is lower
If we are to be good parents we also have good character traits We model good behavior lf we want self reliant children we must be reliable ourselves We must keep our promises to ourselves and others Our actions must speak so loudly that others cannot hear what we are saying Our actions must be richer than our tongue
iiood parents are also loose and forgiving My biggest parental flaw is intensity I have such intensity of purpose that I always want my children striving to excel This in tensity does nothing but make the household tense I'm a better parent when I remember the mistakes I made as a teenager When I think
Pari-mutuel vote to decide longstanding Texas issue
By JACK KEEVER Associated Press Writer
Al'STIN (AP —Texanson Nov 3 will vote on whether to allow pan mutuel betting on horse and dog racing. deciding one of Texas longest running controversies The years have done little to alter the arguments While proponents claim approval of the measure would boost the Texas economy bv SI 2 billion, opponents insist such projections are overblown and that legalized gambling would lead to crime and corruption "The horse racing industry has a long history of over piomising revenues attendance and jobs. " con tends Sue Cox of Texans Who Care, the leading opposition group "We don't have to convince anybody We just have to get them to vote." counters Kicky Knox ex ecutive director of the Texas Horse Racing Association i’m 99 percent sure it w ill pass ”
Tile binding referendum on the statewide election ballot would authorize pan mutuel wagering on a county by-county, local option basis for the first time in 50 years Residents of 56 counties will vote on pari mutuel betting for their coun ties at the same time they cast votes for statew ide approval Cameron County residents will vote on both horse and greyhound betting Local option wagering for greyhound racing will be on the ballot in Galveston and Nueces coun ties The other counties will cote on horse track betting Pari-mutuel is a system in which those who bet and wtn are paid in proportion to the total amount wagered on a gicen race Racing historians say the system began in Paris and the first state to adopt it wa?. New York in 1887 Texas had pari-mutuel betting on horses at st ale-approved tracks in 1905 out it was oui,awed in 1909 as part of a nationwide protest against gambling Race trues betting made a comeback during the Great Depres sion presumably as a source of rev enue
It was legalized again in Texas in 1933, and Vice President John Nance Garner joined a crowd of 12.UOO at Arlington l>owns to watch the return of the sport
by Steven P. Snider, O.P.M.
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back on my past. I am more forgiv-ing of my children’s mistakes On the other side of the coin, our children also want us to have the courage of our convictions They want us to set reasonable rules and follow up with appropriate punish ment for breaking the rules Kids feel more comfortable when parents are strong, decisive and take charge They want firmness and consistency This dichotomy of purpose is w hat makes parenting and life so dif ftcult Its not easy to develop a balance between rules and freedom nor is it easy to establish a middle road between passion and prudence That s why sitting behind the wheel of a Jaguar on the showroom floor makes me a better parent It reminds me of my banker He says. "No", but he says it softly with compassion empathy and with a wistful smile of understanding
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In 1937. during a special legislative session ordered by Gov Jimmy Allred the betting law was repealed Pan mutuel betting on dog racing never has been legal in Texas A half century later, over the objections of a governor who said he would vote against the proposal Tex ans got the chance to decide on resuming pan mutuel betting Then Gov Mark White in 1986 allowed a bill on pan mutuel wager mg to become law without his signature It was that legislation that put the question on the ballot this November "All of my personal and religious values are against it There is no place for it among what I believe is good and right and tiest White said However he added unless the issue was put to a majority statewide vote ‘ this divisive issue will come back again to tie up and even plague future sessions of the legislature Gov Bill Clements who defeated White last year, has delayed appoin ting members of the Texas Racing Commission pending the Nov J vote The fight between the pro and anti racing forces has been a relatively quiet one Texans Who Care a coalition which has received significant amounts of money from Methodist and Baptist churches has campaign ed against betting at the track claiming it will lead to organized crime and public corruption animal abuse, and compulsive gambling which will tear families apart
It s a dying business that raises almost no money for the state said Ms Cox campaign manager for the opposition group Statements filed with the secretary of state's office showed that the Dallas based Texans Who t are had spent nearly Sluuooo by late lust month in its campaign The coalition paid for Alabama lawyer Dale Wallace to fly to Austin to describe the financial woes of the Birm tngham Turf Club the nation s newest track Texans for Economic I>evelopment reported expenditures of nearlv $85 UUU
Without offering any predictions, political scientist Richard Murray of the I niversity of Houston said "Everybody s mind is made up ’
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