New Braunfels Herald Zeitung (Newspaper) - March 11, 1997, New Braunfels, Texas
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Lonely widow cherishes friend’s anniversary letter
Dear Abby: After my father died unexpectedly, I didn't know what to do when my parents' next wedding anniversary came along. I was young — under 30 — and was not aware of the proper procedure. Should I buy my mother a gift, as I had always done for them in the past? Would it be better not to even mention the date to my mother? As I recall, I invited my mother for dinner, no gift, and the only a mention of what day it was when we finished dinner. Now I feel I did the right thing. She knew I remembered, and she was not alone for dinner.
My husband died unexpectedly last summer. Today would have been our 54th wedding anniversary. In the past we had exchanged cards with certain friends and relatives on such an occasion. Yesterday I received a lovely letter from our best man’s widow, recalling pleasant times we shared in the past. That is the only indication from anyone that the anniversary of our special day was today. I appreciated the letter I received so much, but I am sad that no other close friend or relative remembered.
I would suggest that when close friends or relatives are in a similar situation, sending a “thinking of you" card would be much appreciated. I felt so alone and forgetten — and ashamed that I have been guilty of the same neglect of others in the past. I didn’t realize how much it would mean to know that others remembered, too. No name or city, please. Just sign me...
SAD WIDOW IN ILLINOIS
DEAR SAD WIDOW: Please accept my sympathy on the loss of your beloved husband. There is much to be learned from your letter about the value of reaching out to others.
Dear Abby: One of my family members was recently married. She kept her last name and added her husband’s name to it, so that she is now Mary Smith-Jones. Her husband is,-of course, Harry Jones. „
This’ past Christmas^ /n/ jftrtfnri bough|them a gift and aadr&sed the card fO “The Jones Family." My relative threw a fit, complaining that die was not included on the card. My
mother countered that had she addressed the card to the Smith-Jones Family,’’ the husband would not have beep included.
The way I see it, my mother is right, lf the gift were only to my relative, it would be addressed to Mary Smith-Jones, but if it’s to both, it should be “The Jones Family.”
What is the proper way to address the whole family? Do we have to write out Mr. Jones and Mrs. Smith-Jones? To me, that’s just a waste of time when we could simply write “The Jones Family.”
Please settle this controversy and tell us how it’s done.
DEAR FEUDING FAMILY: According to the etiquette books, you will have to make the extra effort if you wish to properly address the entire family. As it says in “The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette, Entirely Rewritten and Updated,” by Nancy Tuckerman and Nancy Dunnan: “When addressing an envelope to a couple when the wife has kept here maiden name (or hyphenated it with her husband’s), write ‘Ms. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. Harry Jones on the same line. lf a couple’s combined names are too long to fit on one line address the envelope on two lines with the woman’s name on the first, and the man’s on the second, preceded by ’and.* The ’and,’ when slightly indented and written out, indicates that the two are married”
CONFIDENTIAL TO “LOVES * PEOPLE” INHLOUISVILLE: Mae West once said “I only like two kinds of men: domestic and foreign.” You’re in good company!
(Universal Press Syndicate)Police Beat
From Staff Reports
A robbery in front of Beall’s Department Store left a San Antonio man without $6,600 of jewelry Friday night. New Braunfels Police said.
Two Hispanic men in their early 20s are believed to be the alleged robbers who pointed a handgun at the man and demanded all his jewelry and wallet.
The suspects were driving a black Pontiac vehicle in the alleged robbery, police said.
New Braunfels Police Department
■ Arrest on charge of public intoxication, New Braunfels man, 36, bond SI 12.
■ Arrest on charge of public intoxication, New Braunfels man, 18, bond $112.
■ Arrest on warrant for three counts of forgery. New Braunfels woman, 22, no bond.
■ Arrest on charge of public intoxication, Boerne man. 48, bond $112.
■ Arrest on charge of disorderly conduct. New Braunfels man, 26, bond $112.
■ Arrest on charges of public intoxication, minor in possession, failure to appear and theft. College Station man, 20, bonds $364.
■ Arrest on charge of public intoxication. New Braunfels man, 47, bond $112.
■ Arrest on charge of theft. Universal City woman, 20.
■ Arrest on warrants for violations of animal control laws. New Braunfels man, 34. bond $531.
State Senate OKs safe schools bill
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Comal County Sheriffs Office
■ Arrest on charges of theft by check and theft, Crowell man, 22, bonds $ 1,200.
■ Arrest on charge of assault. Spring Branch man, 18, bond $200.
■ Arrest on charge of driving while license suspended. New Braunfels man, 21, bond $300.
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■ Arrest on charge of assault, Canyon Lake man, 41, bond $200.
■ Arrest on charges of possession of marijuana, possession of drug paraphernalia and public intoxication. San Antonio man, 20, bond $700.
■ Arrest on warrants for no insurance, no drivers license and failure to stop at stop sign. New Braunfels woman, 39, bond $700.
■ Arrest on charge of public intoxication. New Braunfels woman, 44, bond $200.
■ Arrest on warrants out of Nueces County for driving while intoxicated, Austin man, bond $5,000.
■ Arrest on warrants for failure to appear and minor in possession and possession of marijuana. San Antonio man, 18, bonds $700.
■ Arrest on charge of driving while license suspended, Blanco County man, 36, bond $300.
■ Arrest on charge of driving while intoxicated. San Antonio man, 27. bond $500.
■ Arrest on charge of failing to pay child support, New Braunfels man, 31, bond $800.
AUSTIN (AP) — School districts could expel students for misdemeanor drug and alcohol offenses under a bill approved by the state Senate.
The measure is among three passed Monday to strengthen and fine-tune a 1995 law decreeing “zero tolerance” for drugs, alcohol and disruptive behavior on school campuses.
“That may wind up in more kids being expelled to the street, which is bad. But I believe it is worse to tell a school district you’ve got to keep the kid in school even though he maySuit for control of Kenedy charity foundation settled
CORPUS CHRISTI (AP) — A lawsuit over control of the multimillion-dollar Kenedy Memorial Foundation has been settled with help from two Roman Catholic cardinals appointed by Pope John Paul II.
Texas Attorney General Dan Morales filed a lawsuit in May 1996 against the foundation’s directors and its president, the Most Rev. Rene H. Gracida, claiming they improperly channeled millions from the foundation to the Diocese of Corpus Christi.
The foundation was established in 1960 by ranching heir Santa Kenedy East.
The foundation is required to enlarge its board by increasing the number of bishops and lay South Texas directors under terms of the settlement.
bring cocaine to school with him," Senate Education Committee Chairman Teel Bivins. R-Amarillo, said of his misdemeanor drug offense bill.
Current law requires student to be expelled for felony drug or alcohol violations, but doesn t allow expulsion for misdemeanor controlled substance offenses.
Bivins’ bill would give school districts discretion to expel students for drug and alcohol misdemeanors if they occur on school property or at school activities.
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