New Braunfels Herald Zeitung (Newspaper) - January 15, 1985, New Braunfels, Texas
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Long Journey to Sobriety Begins With Hesitant Steps
DH AR ARRY Thanks fo r printing the letter hmm "Optimistic," the female evil eg* student who said she felt as though she had really accomplished something that day even though all she did w as go to the mailbox She sA»d, "I didn't have the guts to go to a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous, so I wrote and asked for some literature I just read it. and I feel better already ” Abby, please print this message for “Optimistic”: I. too. am a female I'm now 43 and was in your shoes for eight long. wet. miserable years I also sent for the Alcoholic* Anonymous literature and prayed a lot. I even found the guts to attend a meeting about once a year, but I always arrived late, hid in a corner and left early, afraid of being recognised—then complained (to myself! that it was an “unfriendly” organisation
lait year I became so depressed that it was either treatment or suicide Even in that state of mind I knew that treatment offered me more of a future
I contacted the Jefferson Alcohol and Drug Abuse Center here in louisville, and went into its AX day treatment program iB(,t February It's been slow Twenty five year* of drinking takes its toll, mentally and physically, but today I know I am a survivor Eleven months of sobriety is nothing to brag about, but I feel better now than I have felt in years Contact A A again and tell them you don't have the guts to attend a meeting yet. and thev ll send some one to take you. or have someone meet you outside the meeting place (It's always easier to walk into a large group of people with someone else > Go early and hang around the coffee pot and just smile You'll meet a lot of nice friendly people who have been in your shoes Once you make the commitment to try to work the program, your life will improve I know this can be said latter, but never more from the heart I'm still not strong enough to go public, so if you print this. sign me ...
RECOVERING IN LOUISVILLE
DEAK RECOVERING: No one could have aaid it better. Bravo to you, my friend.
By Stella Wilder TUESOAY, JAN. 15
Born today, you are one of those naturally curious and energetic individuals who never stops learn* mg Always seeking new experiences. you will go through life adding to your store of knowledge An excellent judge of human nature, you seldom make a mistake when it comes to choosing companions You can always feel proud to be known by the company you keep, for it reflects your own good taste and high standards The joy you and your friends take in each other is obvious - and enviable
Interested in fame and fortune.
Eou will from childhood nurture igh ambitions and seek great but entirely feasible — goals
To see what is in store for you tomorrow, find your birthday and read the corresponding paragraph Let your birthday star be your daily guide,
WEDNESDAY. JAN. IS CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jsn. 19) -
Involve the family in this weeks leisure time activities Otherwise, you build ill will
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feh. IS) -You will have to be astute to recog mxe the form success ukes today Lf you think you've failed you re wroog
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) -Take the initiative and launch a new project without help if need be You can accomplish much today on your own
ARIES (March 21-Aprti 19) -Seek to please yourself more, even if. for the time being, it means pleasing others less
TAURUS (April 20-May 20) -You may literally stumble across the solution to recent problems orth* home front GEMINI (May 21-June 20) -Don't give up on a project limply because it begins poorly Take steps to improve the situation
CANCER (June 21-July 22) -Make a new start' Recent moderns need not deter you from your mu ti*) objective Keep old goals rn sight LIO (July 2J-Aug 22) - Break away Iron) those who would restrict four investigations Other wise you will never come up wha solutions
VIRGO (Aug. 2 > Sept 22) - The ills you expected today do ma occur at least not with the uourmtf you (eared Basically, a good day LIBRA (Sept- 23-Oct. 22) -
Information you thought of ail* value turns out to bord the key to —coms Take another look at vet bel formulae SCORPIO (Oct. 2Fho«, 21) -be us a putti— to el your fem
DEAR ABR\ College dating pushy. possessive girl with * lot w hone up* What * hest way to dis courant* this relatnMiship'
DEAR CONCERNED: Keep mouth shut until culled* eon feel* sufficiently pushed and possessed to discourage relationship himself. Given enough rope. pushy girl's hang-up* will become apparent.
DEAR ABRY Aller IS vear* of marriage, my husband and I realised that our sex life was practically dead, so we went to a marriage counselor
The counselor ta woman* told us that a good way to put a little pep in our marriage would lie to tell each other about our sexual fantasies
Should I tell bim about mine' He's not in anv of them
DEAR WONDERING: Sharing an occasional fantasy can lie stimulating. Hut if you can't give your husband star billing, you'd better not mention the cast.
DEAK ARMY I ike a lot of other people, the only time I write to some of my friends is during the holiday* M\ problem is that my husband and I are in the process of gelling a divorce Wo have linen married for a number of years and have no children (which makes it easier), but it s still hart!
We are still go«»d friends, but we cannot live together a* man and wife
How do I tell our friends ’ Would it Im* proper to give them the news on a Christmas card while wishing them a happy holiday'’ Or should I just send a normal holiday card like all is well ami write a separate note later'* <hir divorce will not lie final until February
HOW TO TELL
DEAR HOW: Send a holiday card with your signature only, then add Perhaps you haven’t heard that I am separated from my husband.
DEAR ARRY I recently married a wait ar- wbn wa* married before. She ha* I we children, fc and ll My new wifo and her children have a!wa*-* spent Christmas with ber former in-law* Tt’s become a family tradition —erne the kids enjoy and look forward to Re. naturally- they plan to arend Christmas with Grandma and Grandpa Now the problem I would like to spend Christmas at home with my new fawnH and create our own hohdav tradition I wa* not invited to Grandma and Grandpa’s, but even if I had been, I wouldn’t feel comfortable there They live in another oil' and expect rbeir guevta to star with them I dont want to spend CTtriafma* alone Mi own family lives on the East Coast, and I don’t want to fish f,\r imitations from my friends Mi ufo batel to break the tradition of i'hr»*t*ma* with the grand patent* h*o*»>*e the kids enjoy it so much
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DE VK RU ES: I think it’s imperative that von and your new wife be together on Chriwtmna, lf the kid* won Id he heartbroke** unless ihev went to Grandma and Grandpa'*, why not send them there the dav after < ’hriet-mas for a short xisit? If that’s not feasible, perhaps the kids min Id spend some other holrdav with their grandparents.
Ideally, the nuclear family should he together at Chriat-masiime, providing it doe*m*t ■tart a nuclear war.
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