New Braunfels Herald Zeitung (Newspaper) - December 31, 1997, New Braunfels, Texas
Heratd-Zeitung g Wednesday, December 31,1997 Q 3A
Family bonds do not have to break after bitter divorce
DEAR ABBY: The letter from “Minneapolis Reader,” whose divorced brother did not want her to have contact with his ex-wife and therefore his children, touched me. I have been in that very same situation.
My husband’s brother, “Albert,” insisted that we not allow our children to spend time with his children when they were with their mother. Since they lived with their mother, there was little chance for contact. Like a fool, with much hesitation, I complied with my husband’s demand that we yield to Albert’s request.
ALIR offers several new courses this semester
Classes begin Jan. 19
The Academy of Learning in Retirement (ALIR), an educational program of the Institute of Texan Cultures for senior citizens, has added several new courses this fall in addition to the tried-and-true courses filled each semester.
Since there are no prerequisites or grades at ALIR, students feel free to try new fields of interest.
‘“This is where I come to find out about things I never learned in school,” says a watercolor student who is a former engineer.
The Investment Club class, which is new this fall, has proven to be very popular with both beginning and experienced investors.
The new economics course also filled up rapidly.
“ALIR is better than ever,” said a student who had been a member of ALIR for five years. “It keeps my mind alive.”
Most senior citizens missed out on learning to use a computer when they were in school. Now they are able to catch up to their grandchildren by taking classes offered by ALIR. I * “I don’t need ginseng; hhave ALIR to stimulate my mind,” said an ALIR member.
It’s never too late to register. Courses registration for spring 1998 classes on topics ranging from architecture to health and wellness will be from IO a.m. to 3 p.m. Jan. 12-IS at the institute.
Call 210-458-2294 for a catalog and/or registration form.
The membership fee for the spring semester is $90.
Expenses related to textbooks, materials, supplies, trips and social activities will be paid by the participants.
Classes begin Jan. 19.
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I kept my daughters from their cousins’ house on their first invitation to sleep over. That was
the last time they were invited, and I have regretted it ever since. How cruel to punish my girls for a selfish, self-centered brother-in-law. The girls and their cousins loved each other. They had a right, as relatives, to continue the bond that was established when the adults were married.
Tell “Minneapolis Reader” to do the right thing even if no one agrees. Her brother should grow up, live with the choices he has made in his life, and not make his children suffer because of them.
- GROWN-UP IN LOUISIANA
DEAR GROWN-UP: I have said this many times, but it bears repeating: Children need family ties and stability in their lives. This is particularly true when divorce separates their parents. Read on for an example that demonstrates my point:
DEAR ABBY: More than 25 years ago, my parents divorced. It was the greatest tragedy my family has ever experienced. Because they have never been able to put their bitterness aside, we relive the pain on every holiday, birthday and special occasion. One of them has been
absent from all of our graduations, weddings, children’s births, etc., because the ex-spouse may be present. I cannot begin to describe the disappointment of my college graduation and my wedding due to the absence of one of my parents.
Their anger and bitterness has affected all of us children in many ways. We struggle with depression, poor relationship choices and low self-esteem — all remnants of a childhood made difficult by divorce.
Divorcing couples and their families must understand that while the divorce is an end to the marriage, it can be a life sentence
for the children. Children should never be expected to play favorites or choose sides, nor should the other family members of the divorcing couple.
To the brother of “Minneapolis Reader”: Do your children and your family a favor - KEEP THE PEACE. No matter how acrimonious the split, clinging to the bitterness and robbing your children of part of their family is not the answer.
I’m signing my name, but because I speak for many “divorced children,” please sign me
... DIVORCE SURVIVOR
Gay Forties Christmas party
Gay Forties Club conducted a Christmas Party on Doc. 7. “Homa* for th# Holidays — A Vial! to Thro* Family Homaa” waa the theme. Committee members were, seated from left, Jimmie Becker, Roxoiin Krueger (chairman) and Kathy Kinney (whose homes were the ones visited). Standing from left are Mary Jo app, Marlon Benson, Cora Jane Wetsch, Jo Ann Robinett, Nancy David, Genevieve Kahler and Sue Bock.
Celebrate holidays with a run
A magical journey of sight, sound and motion is promised for participants in the first ever Holiday River of Lights fun walk and run Saturday in Cypress Bend Park, the location of the drive-through holiday light display.
The Blue Light Special Fun Walk and Run is presented by the City of New Braunfels and the New Braunfels Running Club as another way to enjoy the first year of the Holiday River of Lights.
Registration for the walk/run will be
on the day of the event. Registration will be from 4:30-5 p.m. and the walk/nm will take place from 5-5:45 p.m. The registration fee is $8 per adult and $5 per child, out of the fees, $5 will go to the Holiday River of Lights and $3 for expenses, including refreshments.
To ensure the safety of all participants, no headphones, bikes, animals, roller skates or blades, baby joggers or strollers, scooters or skateboards will be permitted on the racecourse.
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Hospice offers workshops for bereaved
It can be tough to cope with the everyday tasks of living alone after the loss of a loved one. Hospice New Braunfels has set up some Bereavement Survival Workshops to help with the daily chores of life. ,
Offered each Tuesday froffiz to 3:30 p.m., the workshop sessions are conducted at the Canyon Lake Presbyterian Church, 230 Shepherd Hill Drive. There is no charge.
On Tuesday, a representative from the Better Business Bureau will discuss how to avoid common scams; On Jan. 13 attorney Steve Taylor will discuss wills, probate and other legal matters. Arlon Schult of
Checkered Flag Automotive will be the speaker on Jan. 20 and he will discuss car maintenance and repair.
On Jan. 27, Glenn Leinwebber’s topic will be home maintenance and repair, followed on Feb. 3 by registered dietician Jeannie Loop, . who will give some tips on cooking for one. Bob Smith, president of Texas Commerce Bank, will discuss money management at the Feb. IO
For information, call Hospice New Braunfels Social Worker Betty Moms, LMSW at 625-7500 or 606-1717.
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