New Braunfels Herald Zeitung (Newspaper) - August 31, 1997, New Braunfels, Texas
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Dear Abby: I read with great interest your answer to “Concerned in Florida*” who was worried that her husband might rekindle a romance with his former high school flame (and later his fiancee), a woman they both see socially from time to time. You advised her that such a romance would be highly unlikely, since “Concerned” has had 40 years of a good marriage and so has the old flame.
Abby, your conclusion certainly sounds reasonable, but it is incorrect.
I have spent the last four years researching more than 1,000 couples worldwide who have reunited after many years apart. I have learned that these reunions are quite common, and the flame can reignite at any point. One couple had been separated for 63 years!
As I repeated in my book, “Lost and Found Lovers: Facts and Fantasies of Rekindled Romances,” overall, 72 percent of these renewed loves stay together, and the percentage was even higher if they had been first loves. These are very stable, joyous and sexually passionate relationships the second time around. However, you should inform your readers that more than 30 percent of these couples began their reunions while erne (or both) of them was married to someone else.
These lovers often tell me — sometimes between sobs — that they are in good marriages and love their spouses; they never intended to find themselves in affairs.
The lost lovers met again innocently, often with their spouses present, and none was prepared for the “old feelings” to return full force. They felt torn between their marriages and their lost and found lovers — but not for long.
My advice, based on my years of study, is to encourage single, divorced or widowed individuals to look for sweethearts or old friends from their past, but to strongly discourage married people from doing so.
If “Concerned in Florida” invites her husband’s old flame to his surprise birthday party, she might get
Nancy Kabsh. Ph.D., Professor of ftychology, Calif. State University, Sacramento, Calif.
Forest service issues fire danger warning for 26 Texas counties
LAMPASAS — The Texas Forest Service will continue an Extreme Fire Danger Warning for a 26-county area of the Texas Hill Country. Comal County is included in the warning.
Seven counties have issued a burning ban, suspending all outside burning of any kind. These counties include Burnet, Comanche,
Lampasas, Llano, Mason, Mills and San Saba.
The upcoming Labor Day weekend, which will see heavy recreational activity within the Hill Country area have firefighters on standby. Continued dry weather, hot temperatures and low humidities continue to plague the area.
Since August 16, the Hill Country has experienced 93 wildfires that have burned 4,242 acres.
The largest three fires have occurred in ICimble-Menard Counties (1,250 acres), San Saba County (800 acres) and Llano County (600 acres).
Most of the wildfires have been man-caused. The main causes being improper disposal of smoking materials, debris and trash burning and catalytic converters on cars touching dry grass or weeds.
The Texas Forest Service and central Texas fire officials are asking that no outside burning be done until appreciable rainfall is received.
The fire danger will not decrease until rainfall lowers the moisture content of the vegetation, and more counties will be added to the area as the dry conditions continue.
The area surrounding the Hill Country is in a high fire danger warning.
The Texas Forest Service is asking everyone to use extreme caution when doing any outdoor cooking and urging dun no outside debris or trash burning be done until the fire tfcnger is reduced.
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Dear Dr. KaUsh: Thank yon for informing me of what has to have been a fascinating study, and for wanting to warn my readers.
In the light of your research, I would like to formally retract my advice to “Concerned in Florida.” In the future I will warn my married readers that old flames are potentially combustible: They can ignite without warning, and leave a marriage in ashes,
So, don’t play with fire!
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Commission chairman Carol Belton refused to comment and said he was not aware that the proposal was sent back to the commission.
“Til have to wait until I hear from (council),” Belton said. “I found out it’s not safe to make comments to you.”
Christina Aguilar Friar, a local writer and member of the Greater Hispanic Chamber of Commerce, suggested several revisions to the proposed design in a letter this past week to the commission and the city manager.
• An artist rendering of the old
Spanish mission with ruins visible next to Comal Springs in Landa Park.
• A rendering of an old Mexican cowboy, or vaquero.
• A rendering of a Mexican scout or wagon driver with German immigrants being carried to New Braunfels.
She said she appreciated the German heritage of the city but wanted to include the Mexican heritage in the proposed design.
“Just getting right down to it, (Mexicans) have been around here,” she said. “We’re an indigenous people. By putting the flag the way they have it, they were-polarizing the community. I don’t think they wanted to do that at all.”
What’s on the proposed flag
The Historic Landmark Commission is expected to reconsider its flag proposal at its Sept. 11 meeting. For more information, call 608-2100.
The proposed flag includes:
■ A seal of the 14 German noblemen whose purchase of a land grant several hundred miles northwest of New Braunfels led to Prince Carl Solms purchasing land Jhat became the city of New
■ The German words, “Verein zum Schutz deutscher Einwandrer in Texas," or ‘ Society for the Protection of German immigrants in Texas.”
■ A lone star on the seal, which stands for the Republic of Texas.
■ A bundle of arrows symbolizing the presence of Native Americans.
Friar cited the old mission in Landa Park and numerous Mexican families who lived here before the
German immigration as reasons the official city flag should include symbols of Hispanic heritage.
Dear Abby: May I add my story to your acts of kindness?
Two years ago, a friend who now lives in Israel came to visit me with her family.
I had known her from my hometown back in Orleans, France. One evening, while I was surrounded by my grown children and my husband, she told me a story that I had never heard. She said my father (Leon Levenson), now deceased, had saved the lives of her entire family — seven people — during World War ll by helping them hide their Jewish identity in order to avoid being killed by the invading Nazis.
After hearing this story, I realized that my father, who was short on stature, had been a giant among men and was truly one of those “unsung heroes” who never tell their stories.
I thank God for the opportunity to have known such a person in my lifetime.
Bede Newton, Glendale, Ariz.
Dear Mrs. Newton: And I thank God that we’re living in a country where people will never encounter the horror that was faced by your friend and your father.
He was a man Agreat courage pad conviction. Thank yon for
From Page 1 to approve a rate that was a penny or
two higher. Adding a couple of cents Wednesday. to the rate now would give the
Board president Dan Krueger, who administration time to make sure all
voted against the rate, said a 9-cent requests were included in the budget
tax rate increase would fund the and there were no shortfalls, he said,
budget. However, he said he wanted “I wanted to leave us some room
for margin in case something came up,” Krueger said.
However, Krueger said he could accept that the board majority did not agree with him, and he would make the budget work.
Even if the rate of $1.73 is
approved, the district will have to use about $168,000 from the $8 million fund balance to balance the budget.
TIk board will conduct a tax rate hearing on Sept. 15, and consideration of a tax rate is scheduled Sept. 24.
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The high-speed pursuit ended in a crash in the tunnel that trapped several people in a pileup. The force of the crash crumpled the roof of the Mercedes to door-high level.
Fayed, the 42-year-old son of the billionaire Egyptian owner of London's prestigious Harrod’s department store, was also killed in the accident, along with the chauffeur.
His father, Mohamed Al Fayed, was on hts way to Paris, said las spokesman. Michael Cole.
France Info reported the chauffeur
was a security agent at the Hotel Ritz, owned by Fayed’s father, Mohamed Al-Fayed.
The fourth person in the car, a bodyguard, was also seriously injured in the crash.
Diana died at the Hospital de la Pitie Salpetriere in south-central Pans.
Before news of the death, a Buckingham Palace spokeswoman in London said Prince Charles, now in Balmoral, Scotland, had been informed of the accident.
American tounsts Tom Richardson and Joanna Luz were among the first on the scene.
They told CNN they were walking nearby when they heard the crash and ran into the tunnel.
The car Diana was in “looked like it hit a wall,’* said Richardson, of San Diego.
“There was smoke. I think the car hit a wall. A man started running towards us telling us to go.”
British Prime Minister Tony Blair,
who was awakened with news of the accident, said he was “shocked and saddened” by the ’’devastating, appalling tragedy,” a Downing Street spokesman said.
Fayed’s and Princess Diana’s close friendship became clear to the outside world over the past five weeks, as the couple took a series of holidays together in the Mediterranean.
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