New Braunfels Herald Zeitung (Newspaper) - August 23, 1995, New Braunfels, Texas
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EDITORIALHospital foundationFormation of corporation another smart move to maintain McKenna’s health
Exhibiting the foresight and wise management that has been its hallmark since the origins of the hospital, those who guide and direct the affairs of McKenna Memorial Hospital have set about forming a foundation to help fund the hospital’s future.
The foundation is a corporation separate from the hospital itself. It is needed, hospital officials say, to help find ways to cope with declining sources of revenue such as reimbursements from Medicare and Medicaid, and increasing demands for a variety of services, such as preventive wellness programs and acute care, and for the latest technology in a world where today’s “latest” is tomorrow’s “out-of-date.”
Gifts to the foundation will be kept private and contributions are tax deductible.
A variety of ways to contribute are available, ranging from direct cash contributions to bequests.
A list of the foundation’s leadership can do nothing but instill confidence in the quality of its management.
The foundation’s chairman is Dr. Stanley Woodward; its vice-chairman is Dr. Bill Reeves; its secretary-treasurer is Dennis Heitkamp; and its membership includes Bill Cone and S.D. David.
Speakers are available to meet with civic groups to talk about and answer questions regarding the foundation.
To arrange that, or just to seek more information yourself, call Jennifer Covington at 606-9111, extension 442.
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Children appreciate schedules
This is the third article in a series addressing what children need from their parents following divorce. These are general guidelines only, but can help parents be sure the needs of their children are addressed as quickly as possible. The first article addressed the need for children to be free to love and be loved by both parents (and their significant others as that develops), and to have time with both parents without loyalty binds.
The second article addressed the need for parents to establish and maintain respectful communication with each other. Ongoing conflict between parents is a main contributor to children’s emotional distress and poor adjustment to the divorce. The negative effects of parental conflict are worsened when the hostility is passed to the other parent through the children.
This article will address children's need for predictability of schedule and expectations. The fourth article will address the need for children to be financially supported in a responsible way and given enough quality time with parents.
As a general rule, children (even adults) tend to do better when their lives are managed in a routine. Children usually function better if they get up at a similar time, have a similar daily routine (activities, homework, meals, hygiene, bedtime routine), and go to bed at a similar time.
Routines are typically good for all children, but become even more important when life situations become disrupted and/or when a child (or the child’s family) becomes emotionally distressed.
Frequently, the children I see in therapy have moderate to severe behavior problems. One of the more common aspects of the families (even intact families) with behavior-disordered children is that the children often have no routine.
This may be due to the children resisting routine, or the parents not feeling routine is important, but regardless, the child does not have enough structure or limits.
Some common problems include kids having no bedtime (even two- or three-year-olds up until midnight!), or kids “refusing” to sleep in their own bed and instead sleep with their parent(s). In some families, chil-
dren resist cating healthy foods or using age-appropriate table manners, and instead are allowed to snack all day, eating fatty fast foods with their fingers. Frequently children are not responsible for age-appropriate chores because monitoring that the chores get done or tolerating the complaints appears harder than doing it for them. The list goes on and on.
These kids almost always have problems “fitting in” to society. Parents are not really helping the kids, although it is usually their intent to do so. They want their kids to be “happy” and don’t want their kids to cry or be mad at them. Parents are tired and don’t want the fuss that comes with setting limits. The problem is that the “solution” makes the problems worse!
These problems seem to become even more common when there is a divorce and parents are feeling guilty. When feeling guilty, parents often become too permissive and do not provide enough structure for kids. KIDS NEED STRUCTURE AND ROUTINE, firmly but lovingly enforced! Furthermore, parents who are emotionally hurting may turn to children to help meet their own needs. They may keep kids up later for company or let children sleep with them because they don’t like sleeping alone. They may try to win a favor over the other parent and become more a buddy than a parent.
It is important for parents to remember, that as life gets more difficult, structure, predictability and routine become more important.
As another example, when parents divorce, visitation becomes an issue. The days of the week the child will be with each parent needs to become clearly established and routine. When possible, bed times, meal times, after school routines, etc., should be coordinated to reduce the confusion for children. Kids need to know which home they will sleep in each night, and who will pick them up after school or
Some parents get into what is “fair” sharing of the kids without thinking of the best interests of the children. I have heard of custody arrangements in which the child alternates between parents’ homes each night. Some kids live one year with one parent, and another year with another parent in a different town or state, so the child loses their whole support system every year! These crazy schedules wreak havoc on children’s stability in friendships and/or family consistency. When planning visitation, think of the lifestyle of the children, and their need for friends, social support networks, schools... the best interests of the kids, not just what is statistically “fair” for the parents’ needs to be the guideposts.
In addition to routines, kids do better when parental expectations for behavior are similar. It also helps when parents back each other up with discipline. For example, if a child is grounded from watching TV for a few days for (say) watching TV when suppose to be cleaning the room, it would be great for the other parent to support the grounding and refrain from letting the child watch TV until the time is up.
Agreeing on a routine and expectations is a critical step in accomplishing this difficult task. I encourage parents to work toward common routines and expectations for the good of their children. If necessary, get help to reach compromises, either through joint friends, a psychologist, a mediator, a clergy or some other source. Do what it takes to develop a schedule, expectations and routines that both parents will support.
Children need and deserve a safe, reasonable, consistent and predictable set of standards from their parents to help them stabilize after their parents’ divorce. Expectations and schedules, consistently managed in a loving atmosphere by both parents, will help children adjust to divorce.
Disclaimer: All materials in this column are provided for general information only. It is not intended, nor should it be construed, as psychological advice or instruction.
(Dr. Logan is a psychologist in private practice in New Braunfels.)
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China may try Wu quickly before conference
By TERENCE HUNT
AP White House Correspondent
WASHINGTON (AP) — China may put human-nghts activist Harry Wu on trial in the next few days and clear up his case, perhaps opening the way for Hillary Rodham Clinton to attend an international women’s conference in Beijing next month.
The first lady has pointedly delayed her decision about whether to participate in the conference in hopes of seeing progress in Wu’s case.
“There are some indications he may be tried on charges that are unclear at this point," White House press secretary Mike McCurry said Tuesday. “We’re not certain what that means to his release.”
He said it appeared that a trial might occur in the next few days.
The women’s conference, sponsored by the United Nations, is set for Sept. 4-15. Upwards of 50,(XX) people from around the world are expected to attendAnalysis
the conference and a related Non-Govemmental Organizations Forum.
Republican congressional leaders have urged Mrs. Clinton to boycott the meeting in protest of China’s human rights abuses. Wu’s wife, Ching Lee Wu, also has pleaded with the first lady not to attend as long as her husband is held.
On the other hand, women’s activists say her participation would focus a sharp spotlight on abuses of women around the world. Mrs. Clinton has made clear she is keenly interested in attending the conference to represent women’s causes.
Wu, 58, a Chinese-born American citizen who has secretly filmed abuses in Chinese prisons, was arrested June 19 when he tried to enter China from Kazakhstan. He was charged with espionage, a crime punishable by death.
Publicly, the administration has insisted there is no linkage between Wu’s case and Mrs. Clinton’s decision whether to attend the conference. Yet, privately, officials acknowledge the two are intertwined in a difficult political issue for the administration.
A quick trial and the release of Wu “might open up the possibility” of Mrs. Clinton’s participation in the conference, a senior administration official said.
The U.S. Embassy in Beijing refused to say whether it had been notified by the Chinese of any impending trial plans. Court and government officials in Wuhan, the central Chinese city where Wu has been held, also refused to say anything today.
The expected movement in Wu’s case comes as a I senior administration official, Undersecretary of I State Peter Tamoff, heads to Beijing in hopes of; mending U.S.-Chinese relations, which are in their: deepest slump since the 1989 Tiananmen Square ! massacre of pro-democracy advocates.
Besides the Wu detention, the administration hasToday In History
By The Associated Press
Today is Wednesday, Aug 23, the 235th day of 1995. There are 130 days left in the year.
Today’s Highlight in History:
On Aug. 23, 1927, Italian-born anarchists Nicola Sacco and Bartolomeo Vanzctti were executed in Boston for the murders of two men during a 1920 robbery.
On this date:
In 1754, France’s King Louis XVI was born at Versailles.
In 1785, U.S. naval hero Oliver Hazard Perry was born in South Kingstown, R I.
In 1838, one of the first colleges for women. Mount Holyoke Female Seminary in South Hadley, Mass., graduated its first students.
In 1914, Japan declared war on Germany in World War I.
In 1926, silent film star Rudolph
Valentino died in New York at age 31
In 1939, Nazi Germany and the Soviet Union signed a non-aggression treaty.
In 1944, Romanian prime minister Ion Antonescu was dismissed by King Michael, paving the way for Romania to abandon the Axis in favor of the Allies.
In 1947, an audience at the Hollywood Bowl heard President Truman’s daughter. Margaret, give her
first public concert as a singer.
In I960, Broadway librettist Oscars Hammcrstcin ll died in Doylestown, Pa
In 1972, the Republican national convention, meeting in Miami Beach, Fla., nominated Vice President Spiro; T. Agnew for a second term.
In 1982, Lebanon’s parliament! elected Christian militia leader Bashir! Gcmaycl president. (However,; Gcmaycl was assassinated some; three weeks later.)