Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - September 28, 1971, Lethbridge, Alberta
HUMORED AS COURT CANDIDATE -Pre sident Nrxon is reported to be ser- iously considering nominating a woman for the U.S'. Supreme Court. According to the Atlanta Constitution, Mrs. Itita Ifauser, a York lawyer w h o has served as U.S. representative to Ihe U.K. Commission on Hu- man Rights, is under con- sideration. calendar of f 11 local happening Fort Maclcod square dancers vill hold their first dance of the season at p.m. Wednesda in the elementary school. Jlound dance practice 8 p.m. All square dancers welcome. Wom- en are asked Lo bring cups and a box lunch. Christian Science IcsLimoni1 meeting Wednesday, p.m. in church auditorium, 1203 4 Ave. S. Everyone welcome. Ann Landers DEAR AAN LANDERS: I notice you have a healthy respect Tor live voice o[ experience, so perhaps you will print this letter for the mother of the 29-year-old son who lives at home. I speak from my own life svjry and 1 hope that motiier out there listens. She is blaming her son for being a free-loader when the fault is hers. Why did she lei him Lake advantage of her in such a shameless manner? I hope she wakes up soon and hands (he big lug the mortgage and the bills, and says, "Look you're part of this outfit, ante up." She should instruct Lo do the marketing while she docs the cooking and takes care of the house let him know it's a 50-50 deal. When he entertains, go somewhere, mom. Stay away. lie's not a 15-year-old kid who needs chaperoning. And don't ask any questions if he decides to stay away for the night. I hope you have the courage to change things in your home because if you don't you're going to be stuck for the rest of your life with a sponge of a son who will be sunk when you're gone because no woman in her right mind would have him. Counselled And Wiser. DEAR C AND W: Thanks for Hie benefit of your ex- perience. You make a lot of sense, woman. Refrigerators 3 Ijbfespoons of Cow Brand per quarl of walcr will clean refrigerators remove Him and stains, absoib unpleasant odors. Recommended by ihe leading refrigeralor manufacturers. COW BRAND BAKING sooA DEAR LANDERS: I read a quotation not long ago which might stimulate some thought and self-examination among your readers. "The person who is always knocking a friend will one day find no one at home." Perhaps this explains why certain folks are friendless. What are your thoughts on Why do people do it? Do you have any ideas which might help us to understand these detractors? Lexington DEAfl LEX: The chronic knocker is insecure. Often, the qualities he most dislikes in others are the ones he despises in himself. Mudslingers and back-biters are lonely people. They may attract a small audience of listeners but they have no real friends. ----------------------Tundny, September 71, 1971 THE IETHBRIDGE HERALD 17 Sex change brings relief, happiness (EDITOR'S N'OTK: Pnllla Grossman, Ilic subject of lliis Eton, has been suspend- ed, without pay, from lirr teaching post by the, Ber- nards Township, school board am! dismissal proceed- ings have begun. If the N'ew Jersey Commissioner of Edu- cation decides are suf- tieient grounds for dismis- sal. a public hearing will he held. A decision is expected shortly. Felicia Stitcher, the author, is a reporter for the IScrnardsville, N.J., News.) DEAR AiVN' LANDERS: This letter is for flic girl w "through soir.e inbcup" didn't invite her mother and dad to her wedding even though they lived in the same town The bride asked you if she should remind her mother of her promise of several years back to give her the beautiful set of dishes which has been in the family for a long time. If I were that girl's mother she'd get the dishes all right in a thousand pieces, right over her head. What's the mater with kids today that they treat lieir parenls so lousy? No consideration. No respect. Nothing. I know of parents who aren't invited to their clu'Idren's col- lege graduation. The kids say, "It's no big deal. I may not go myself" and nothing more is said about it. Parents who sweat blood to put their kids through for four years of college consider it a plenty big deal, but the spoiled brats never think of THAT. wouldn't budge an inch to give their parents a little pleasure. If this is the "Now Generation'' you can have it. Charleston. W.Va. DEAR CHARLES: Please don't hang labels with such reckless abandon. Not all kids are selfish and spoiled rotten. Some are a joy to their parents. A girl would neglect to invite her mother and dad to her wedding because of a "mixup" needs move help than Ann Landers can give her and that's what 1 told her. To assume that most kids would behave in such an inconsider- ate manner is grossly unfair. By FELICIA STITCHER BERN ARDS VILLE, (N'EA) On Friday, April 16, 1971, fifth and sixth grade pu- at Cedar Hill School pre- sented their annual spring con- cert entitled "The The performance of the or- chestra, string ensemble and chorus were, as always, wide- ly acclaimed and parents af- terward commended the music faculty for their accomplish- ments. But the evening was mem- orable in another way. Choras director Paul M. Grossman, whose students received en- iastie applause for Iheir rendilions of old-time favorites, was, unknown lo the several lundred parents present, a woman. exactly 42 days earlier, on March 5, Grossman, a teacher of 31 years standing, had un- dergone massive, radical sur- jery in A'ew York's Wicker- sham Hospital that changed lim inlo a woman. The sex re- assignment operation gave the year old father of three daughters something he had not had in 4G years com- P'ele peace of mind. HELP US TO HELP OTHERSI The Salvation Army Welfare Services Needs Clothing, Furniture, Toys, Household Effecti CALL 328-2860 FOR PICKUP SERVICE OR LEAVE AT 412 111 AVE. S. LETHBRIDGE FISH GAME ASSN. WEDNESDAY AT 8 P.M. IE i numuuc run a BINGO IN THE EAGLES HALL 13th St. N. JACKPOT 56 NUMBERS FREE CARDS 3 JACKPOTS (4th, Bth and 12lh) in 7 Numbers NO CHILDREN UNDER 16 Annual YW lea Wednesday The transition from Paul Monroe Grossman (o Paula Miriam Grossman marked the end of what Mrs. Grossman has called most hideous suffering imaginable and il can't even be explained." It also marked the beginning of a struggle lo retain her pro- fessional status in a commun- ity where she had taught for 14 years, a community where some parents who had pre- viously praised her work now suddenly didn't want her to teach their children. Paula Grossman is a trans- sexual and she is among the first to deplore the term's unfortunate connotation. "People conjure up ideas that we are child moleslers, degen- erates or sexual she says. "It's noLhing like that. Transsexuals have no disgust- ing or obnovious sex habits. They are not homosexuals. No one can even recognize a trans- sexual unless they themselves tell you." In layman's terms, trans- sexual means, simply, hav- ing a female mind in a male body or, more infrequently, a male mind in a female body. Victims of transsexual ism can be "doomed to unimaginable as Paula Grossman de- scribes it. She spoke openly of her expe- riences during a five-hour in- terview recently in her com- Doughty, Mrs. J. Bruchel and Mrs. J. Fairfield, wilh mem- bers of Ihe residence and world relationship committees acting as servileurs. (INTERIORS) LTD. SELL-OUT COLONIAL UPHOLSTERED FURNITURE ALSO OUR COMPLETE STOCK OF COLONIAL TABLES YOUR CHOICE 20% OH! The annual membership tea and bate sale of (he VWCA will lie held Wednesday at the YW residence, corner of 6 Ave. and 8 St. S., from 2-1 p.m. Convener for the tea is Mrs. Bea Beadling. Pourcrs Ire j Tollable, 85 year old, three Mrs. R. W. Williams, Mrs. K. f storey shingled home in Plain field. The family's acceptance of her new role is apparent. Her 12 year old twin daughters, Carol and Claire, who were in and out cf the house, were af- fectionate with no awkward- ness. Her 18-year-old daughter was at Ohio State University, registering as a freshman. Mrs. Grossman's wife Ruth, a legal secretary, was at work during the interview. Strong family bonds were evident. Asked if she had ever been advised lo divorce her wife and make a complete break from her family before changing her SON, siie said. have been some fools who have suggested thai." And she added. "I've done nothing I'm ashamed of. 1 can't see any sane, logical reason why she should run away." S'ne freely concedes that, had she foreseen the agony her trans sexualism would bring in laler years, she would not have mar- ried. "I knew 1 was uncomfortable, that my gender role did not cor- respond with my morphological sex. that 1 was physically dif- ferent from the way I wanted to be and felt I should be." she explained. "But I have looked upon it as part of my per- sonality, something I would have to live with." Indeed, until 1952, when George Jorgenscn stunned the world by undergoing sex re- assignment surgery in Den- mark, little or nothing could be done lo alleviate the anguish of transsexuals. The surgery had been rillcmptod unsuccessfully in Germany nearly 40 years ago and. in Ihc aftermath of Ihe .lorgcnscn experiment, was performed in Scandinavia nnd Casablanca. Horn in Brooklyn, N.Y.. in lOlil, Paula Grossman's ordeal began in lilli, ivilh an incident she prefers not lo reveal. "I rccogniml and correctly iden- tified the problem, but I didn't leU she said. Our Entire Stock Sell-Out Priced With Savings up to 0 off! OPEN THURSDAY TLIL 9 P.M. (INTERIORS) LTD. 912 3rd Avo. S. Phone 328-5777 She giew up in a close-knit j f a m i 1 y and remembers her childhood as "wonderful." She has been teaching in Ber- nards Township since 1957 as a music teacher in the junior high school. "These have been very happy she said, "and I've always had a very wonderful relationship with the school superintendent." At about the time of her Ijiilh :r. 1958, her trans- sexual problems became acute. Nine years ago, she consulted the family doctor, who "wanted no pail of it" and referred her to a psychiatrist, Afler one visil, however, she realized he couldn't help. "I knew I wasn't psycholic. 1 hadn't lost touch wilh reality. I didn't think was a Mrs. Grossman said. "I muddled through u n I i 1 about my birthday." she said, "and then knew I had to find help, the suffering was so intense." AbouL a year ago, she consulted a doctor who re- ferred her to an eminent New York endocrinologist. He ad- ministered hormone injections. said, rtlir-H'd Ihe depression lo some rxlcni. But surgery, she hsr only hope for a cure and eventually lliis was scheduled. A a'j-liour operation was per- formed lasl March and she slayt-d m Uie hospital for a week and at a nearby holel two weeks longer to he near her physician. K u I li Grossman, Paula's wife is deeply saddened by the dismissal proceedings about In be started hy the Board of Education. She feels, however, that the townsliip resi- dents were L-ehind Paula Gross- man. "They are good people, we have always had such a marvelous relationship and il j j they only realized the facts. I and prescribed pills, which, she of it." am certain everylfiing would work out. Of course, if Ihe medical profession knows so 1 i I 11 e about Iranssexualism. how can we expect lay people Paula Grossman continued. "1 have had a most interesting life. 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