Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - September 25, 1972, Lethbridge, Alberta
Ann Landers DEAR ANN LANDERS: Your aclvico to "Fraidy Kat" gave me the Courage I needed U> write about a problem that has been bothering me for a long time. "Fraidy Kat" was a widow whose second husband car- ried his first wife's picture in liis wallet for two years. She was afraid to look and see if it was still there. It made lier very sad that lie couldn't give it up. You said, "Don't look. Simply buy him a new wallet and put your picture in it." Three years ago I married a widower. Quite by accident I ran across his first wife's ashes in our garage. The aslics Ere in an urn, packed in a box the same box they were chipped in. I feel uneasy about this but I've never said anything. I believe the best place for the ashes is in a cemetery. What should I do? Second Wife Dear S.W.: Inform your husband that you have come across the "box" and you feel the garage is not an appropri- ate place for it. Tell him that many people who request cremation ask that their ashes be strewn over a lake, or a river, or a favorite meadow. A friend of mine has requested that her ashes be put in on urn and placed in the Pump Room in Clue I'm not kidding. DEAK ANN LANDERS: Our son is 16, dependable, and we were very proud of five months ago when he started to date Ibis girl, who is also 16. Hurt started coming home as late as 1 a.m. after keep- ing tho girl company on babysitting jobs. I didn't like it and said so. He told me I had a drity mind. When I came home from shopping and found Burt and the girl lock- ed in the house, I raised some question las to what they were up to. I was informed that if anything was going to happen it could happen in a car or in the bushes or what have you. Again I was told I had a dirty mind. Yesterday I came home from a meeting at p.m. and Burt and the girl were sitting in the car, necking lika crazy. At first I thought it was just him at the wheel. When I got nearer I saw that she was sitting on his lap. That did it. I told her this was indecent behavior and she was not welcome in our home. Now my son is not speaking to me. All signs point to sex between Burt and this girl. I've been told it is none of my business. If the girl gets preg- nant mil it be my business then? I am sure other mothers are having this trouble. Please help us Gapped DEAR GAPPED: Your son is what I call "Mother Deaf." He has tuned you out. Get professional counselling. Burt is not going to change his behavior unless you change yours. He needs counselling too, but lie would probably refuse it until you learn how to handle your anger and frustration BINGO Monday, Sept. 25fh JACKPOT 52 NOS. "20 ALARM BINGO" Gold Card Pay Double Door Cards (Many other extras) Regular Cards 25c or 5 far ?1 T3rli St. and 6th Ave. 'A' N. No children under 16 aUowftd love is, IT looking at dream houses to- gether. nOTICE The Senate of The University of Alberta The expression 'communication gap has become Quite popular the fast few years The mam purpose of the Senaie of The University of Alberta is to see thai no such gap is permitted TO exist or to devefop between ihe people o( AlbeMa and umversiiy A substantial maionty of the membets of the Senate are persons in various walks of Tife, drawn from widely separated parts of the Province They weie elected 10 the Senate to represent the public's interests, and to hefp break down ihe all too popular "ivory tower" concept of the University The Senate, which wilt hold MS next regular meeimg on November 17, 1972. would therefore welcome submissions from any person or group o! persons having suggestions to offer of ways in which the University's elfectiveness, as a publicly supported institution of higher learning, might be improved. Persons or groups wishing to make submissions lo the Senate forconsirfeiaiion at its j November meeting are requested 10 make them in writing to The Executive Officer of the Senate, Registrar's Office, The University of Alberta, Edmonton, not later lhan October 6, 1972. Submissions received by this date will then referred to appropriate Senate Committees for prcJimmaiy study prior to the meeting of the Senate Persons wishing to appear before the Senate in support ol submissions should advise The Executive Officer to this effect. Any other persons wishing (o attend the meeting should afso contact ihe The Executive Of'jcer of the Senaie NOT LATER THAN OCTOBER MR. A, D. CAIRNS, Registrar The University of Alberta Edmonton, Alberta Mcndcy, 23, 1972 THE LITHBR1DGE HERALD 7 Exciting trip east For western youth PREMIER VISITS CENTRE Premier Peter Lougheed paid a vTsU to the Golden Mile Senior Citizens' Centre on Saturday, to meet some of the more mature voters in the Lethbridge area. The Premier received an honor- ary membership in the organization from Ann Parries president. Ervin, photo Solauge says she's misunderstood Author no hard-bitten political woman MONTREAL (CP) Au- thor Solange Chaput-Holland says if a woman speaks out often enough and loud enough on political matters, people tend to dismiss her as a hard-nosed person with no other dimensions to her life. She says she feels a victim of that kind of reaction. "Perhaps people Hunk that I'm just a hard-bitten political woman with no other view of she says. "Perhaps I make loo many people angry and they don't want to get to know me." Mme. Chaput Holland writes personally of life in Quebec and of her love for her province. She speaks with reluctance of she believes is the inevitability of a separate destiny for Quebec. She is frankly angry that people turn their backs on the province's problems. She can't understand people who pick up and leave. "I adore she said In an interview. "It Is my love and my life. "Don't ever let me know that people are leaving it be- cause they can't sort out what's happening." But it is love and compas- sion, not hardness, which she hopes are the elements that flow through her seven books and numerous newspaper commentaries and broadcast talks. She writes a regular weekly political column for the Montreal Gazette. "Love is to be attentive and she said. "Love is fierce, jealous, full of sin, joy, darkness and light. It has its errors, anger and envy and has you looking in a mirror and confessing that you've done wrong." She loves her husband Andre, who throughout their 32 years of marriage has given her the freedom to be herself and to express herself freely as a QueJjcccr through her work. Once, after breaking a leg in an accident, she gave up working for a year. But when her husband came home one day and said the house didn't Lousy lovers PORTLAND, Ore. (AP) sex and marriage expert say the average American male a lousy lover, "He eats too much. He siL ill front of the tube with glass of beer. He goes to slee on [he davenport. Finally h wakes up enough to go to be and to sleep." Dr. Joseph B. Trainer, sociate professor of physiolog at the University of Oregt Medical School, made the as sessmcrit in a recent Hotar Club talk. The American male is "ove weight, overtobaccoed, overa coholtxi and sa Trainer, adding that he's foun a positive link between ba habits and bad health and poo sexual performance and unsu cessful marriages. Most people enter marriag sexually ignorant, said Traine "and they don't learn fast.' Compounding the problem, h said, is the fact that Che ma! reaches his sexual peak at ag 35 and then begins going dow hill. The female, he said, still going strong at 35 an peaks at 45." ook the same, she realized "I wasn't the same woman any more." So it was back to work. At 53, she is happy that she married young because she enjoys being a young grand- mother now. Her daughter Su- zanne Monange, 30, is a eacher, and her son Claude, 21, is just out of school and undecided on a career. By her own admission, life las been good to Mme. Chap- ut-nolland. She was born into relative wealth. Her mother, Rosalie, came from a family of judges and notaries and her father, Emile, was an Importer of wines. Until she was 12, the young Solange curtsied to her mother. Her education was in French, and histories of civili- zation, child psychology and literature were her main in- terests. But there have been dark episodes. "Twenty-eight years ago I had a son who died. Michael was his name. He lived four days. But do you know some- thing, that child laid some- thing across my heart." It took her Jive years to overcome the bitterness, but now she carries a kinii of compassion from the experi- she hopes to inject into her writing. She said she is not a reli- gious person any more. She is not wailing for God, and she admitted she's afraid of death. She won't stop working, she said. "I'll work until I die. Aid do you know something else? I'm not afraid to grow old. "So long as I can get out of life the same things as any human being and not Just as a woman, I'll be quite contenl to grow HALIFAX (CP) East and West met in Canada this sum- mer when 21 high school stu- dents from British Columbia visited the Halifax area under the Young Voyageurs pro- gram. Ten boys and 11 girls, all from the Nelson-Trail-Castle- gar area, stayed in private homes here as guests of local students during their first visit to the East. Their trip was part of the 41.7-million Summer '72 group (ravel project administered by the department of the sec- retary of state. While in the area, the young people went aboard the'Blue- nose II, attended the Interna- tional Fisheries Exhibition at Lunenburg, N.S., toured the Bedford Institute of Oceanog- raphy in Dartmouth, N.S., and had a night out at the Nep- tune Theatre here, where they saw a performance of Mo- liere's comedy The Miser. "Students can learn more during one trip like this than they do in all of their geogra- phy and social science AI Morrison, a high school teacher who organized the host students here, said of (he Young Voyageurs excur- sions. His group travelled to Jo- liette, Que., during the sum- mer, as well as entertaining their guests from British Col- umbia. COULD EXPLORE The students had plenty of time to explore on their own, 'or with the people who opened their homes to them. The West Coast visitors were also welcomed aboard the Russian freighter Veliki Luki in Halifax Harbor; some of them spoke Russian, it turned out, and were able to converse with the crew. 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