Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - October 30, 1972, Lethbridge, Alberta
Ann Landers DEAR ANN LANDERS: You told "Gelling II All Togeth- er" thai when a love atfat is over the bcsl way to re- cover is to put away the pictures, letters and mementos, move forward and not look back. I lost someone 1 loved very much and I can't get over it. He died. And he was just 10. The only comfort I have is looking at his picture, re-reading his lellers and poetry, playing our favorite rec- ords and reliving, in my memory, the wonderful times we had together. These tilings help me feel closer U> him. It's been only a month but I wonder if it will ever lie any different. People have assured me that time will ease the pain and that one day I'll be happy again. But how docs one gel through the present? Broken love affairs arc often repaired. People gel back together again. But in my case it will never happen. He is lost to me forever. The finality of it all has crushed my spirit. Please give me some words o! wisdom. I Empty, Empty. DEAR FRIEND: When a love affair is over, the pre- scription is Ihe same, whether the separation was caused by a misunderstanding, mutual agreement, or death, look ahead, make a new accept the realities. A month is not very long. The wounds are still fresh, but you will not help them heal by keeping Ihem open and dwelling on the pain. Consider your dream castle a delight- ful place to visit, but don't try1 to live in it. Life is for the living. t DEAR ANN LANDERS: This question I want to ask is a highly personal one and I am reluctant to ask anyone we know. It places not only me, but my family in a very unflattering light. Can you help? In the last montli two relatives passed away. Both times we received huge boxes of clothing from the families. First, let me tell you that we are not poverty stricken, although I guess one might say we are probably the least affluent mem- bers of the family. Many of the garments were twenty years old and in need of dry-cleaning. Shoes were included, heels run down, holes in the soles, and broken laces. There were several pairs of faded socks, torn pajamas and underwear and shirts with frayed collars, with missing buttons. Our first inclination was to return the boxes but my husband ind I decided that no insult was intended. Those people are just ignorant. We sent the few wearable suits to the dry- cleaners and then to Goodwill Industries. The rest of the clothes we will use as polishing rags. Now the question: Should we acknowledge receipt of the boxes? If so, what should we say? Not TILAT Poor In W. Va. DEAR VIRGINIA: Acknowledge the boxes. Say: "Thank vou." Period. ._ Monday, October 30, 1972 IHHBRIDGE KE9AID 15 In case of arrest, know your rig his Ily JOE MA Herald Staff Writer There are certain rights citi- zens of Lcthhridge should know in case of arrest. Remember you are innocent until proven guilty in court. The following material is re- produced from a paper distri- buted by the FBI at a recent sex crimes seminar sponsored by the Lethbridge city police department. If an officer tries to arrest you, he should have a warrant, unless a misdemeanor (minor violation) or a felony (serious offense) has been committed in his presence or he has reason able grounds to believe you are ;uilty. If he has no warrant and does not explain why you are unfer irrest, go along, but under pro- cst, made before a witness II wssible. Do not resist physical- y. Give no information until you have talked to your lawyer. An- swer all police questions with, not guilty and I'd like to speak to my lawyer, please." Otherwise, your silence witnesses may be construed in court as assent. Do not sign anything unless told by your lawyer. Take num- bers of arresting officers. Under no circumstances have Die police the right to manhan- dle, beat or terrorize you. Re- port all such incidents. A GIFT OF FANTASY Left, Carol Fengsled and Tom Prepchuk model some of the new casual styles which will be shown at the Daughters cf Ihe Nile's third annual fashion show. A Gift of Fantasy, to be staged at 8 p.m. Wednesday in the Yales Memorial Cenlre. Right, Don Cameron and Elisha Rasmussen display some of the lat est formal fashions to best advantage. Groenen, photos DEAR ANN: How about settling an argument? My hus- band and I go round and round about this every time we at- tend a funeral. I can't imagine anyone being so dumb as to think that a bereaved person really wants company in his home after ho has just put some dear, departed loved one to rest. Granted, there COULD be such people, but I still maintain that this is not the real reason bereaved people invile all who attend the funeral to come back to the house for luncheon or whatever. I say the invitation is an expression of appreciation to those who have taken the time and the trouble, particularly Ibose who come a great distance. Often attending a funeral means the loss of a day's wages. It could also mean skipping breakfast and lunch. "Come back to the house" is a nice way of saying, "thank you for putting yourself out." Who is right about this, he or H. DEAR MRS. II.: You are both right. All your reasons make sense, and so do his. Do you feel awkward, Welcome to the club. There's help for you in Ann Landers' booklet, "The Key To Popularity." Send 35 cents in coin wilh your request and a long, stamped, self-addressed envelope to Landers Reader Mail Chicago Sun-Times 401 North Wabash Ave. Chicago, III. Religious laws criticized Israeli woman9s pop _W Laleiular d-ocat McKillop UCW imits will meet as follows: Carofoot: B p.m. Monday, Nov. 6, wilh Mrs. H. Ander- son, 2220 18lh Avc. S. Madlll: 2 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 7, wilh Mrs. T. Rcynar, 2D Spruce McKague: 8 p.m. Tuesday, PUBLIC BINGO 16 GAMES 2 JACKPOTS LETHBRIDGE ElKS LODGE ROOM EVERY THURS-8 p.m. Nov. 7, wilh Mrs. A. Cumming 1605 Hth Ave. S. Castles: a.m. Wcdnes day, al Ihe church. Thornton: 2 p.m. Wednesday wilh Mrs. R. H. Thornton, 2314 14lh Ave. S. Myers: 8 p.m. Thursday, with Mrs. J. R. Heed, 2206 19th Ave. S. The ladies of the Old Timers Pemmican Club will hold a regular meeting at p.m. Wednesday in the club rooms. A good attendance is requested. i A rummage sale, sponsored by the Whit more- Johnston Unit, will be held al the First Uni- ted Church from 7-9 p.m, Fri- day and 9-11 a.m. Saturday. HAIFA, Israel (AP) Mar- eia Freedman, the 33-year-old American-bora leader of Is- rael's Women for a Free Society, a group of 100 Jewish feminists, says "the popular image of the Israeli woman as a sexy, gun-t o t i n g desert lighter is a big myth. "In reality, she's seldom more than a housewife or a says Mrs. Freed- man, a philosophy professor at Haifa University who prefers the Ms. title. Even in the army, she ar- gues, some only do clerical vork, parachute packing, nurs- ng and teacliing jobs. As for Israel's women pre mier, Golda Meir, Ms. Freed- man says "she is no of women's equality in Israel today. The pinnacle she reached is a leftover from an earlier Israeli society when men and women together." Ms. Freedman complain: about "sexist religious and points to discriminator statutes g o v e r ning women wages, taxes and pensions. The rabbinate, which has las word in al! matters concernin a woman's marital status, an JOB OPENINGS! PHILLIP'S CABLE PLANT IN SENTINAL, ALBERTA MALE EMPLOYEES REQUIRED Good Wages and Fringes CONTACT: CANADA MANPOWER CENTRE IN BLAtRMORE, AlBERTA A.N.A.F.- A UNIT 34 DINUU Cor. Sth Ave. and St. S. Tues., Oct. 31-9 p.m. -1 a.m. IN THE CLUBROOMS Firsl 12 Games first Card Olncrl 2St each lit No. Jockpot Increoie Weekly 2nd No. Jackpot Increase Weekly BLACKOUT IN 59 NUMBERS OR LESS Extra S Games Cards 25c ouch or 5 for All rcnu'tu gnmes pay double t> you wm in 7 noi. or less. ____ MEMBERS AND INVITSB GUESTS he labor ministry confirm I lat: Women and men have dif- ercnt pay scales Housewives are ineligible or social security; A married w o m a n's pos- essions, and the woman her- elf, are the property oJ her bus- and husbands can ask for divorce; A dead man's brother must the v; i d o w official per- nission to remarry. If (he irother is not old enough to >errnit remarriage, she must t until he attains his raajor- ty. If and when the widow re- ceives permission, she musl perform a ritual of pulling off the brother's shoe and spitting in his face. "That's small recompense for :he dishes and diapers thrown in our says Ms. Freed- man. LEADERS SPLIT Asked what Israeli feminists are doing about their gripes, she said the movement's lead- ers have split up to raise women's consciousness and to fight for equal rights. Ms. Frccdman's eight-month- old group meets weekly to dis- cuss Ihe issues of inequality in work, birth control, abortion and child care centres, which the government provides onlj in welfare cases. Because of tiny Israel's "babics-for-the-state" ethic, so THE BETTER HALF Barnes Jsn ana of- town Rev. L. D. Hankinson will }ca tile annual tea and bazaar 1 the Women's Federation of t. Andrew's Presbyter! a n hurch at 2 p.m. Wednesday, in he church hall, 1S18 5th Ave- ue South. Sharing pouring honors will >e Mesdamcs H. H. Skcith. R. iaird, d. Russell, A Walking- haw, A. L. II. Somervillc, H. Groenentxwm; C. Wiskerki, W. J. Armstrong snd J. II. T. McLean, assisted iy Mcsdames W. J. Penny, II. R. G. Train and DeArmond. ,Serving the guests will be .lestlamcs J. A. McNally, G. A. Hollingson, W. Plomp, R. B. Irighton, D. aowllaml, D. J. H. Wiskerki, G. W. Long, C. VanPcIt, L. G. Robinson, A. F. Kimbcr, A. Craik; C. W. Mowers, M. Grant, R. McHardy, L. 11. Blackbnurne, J. S. Clarke ami A. P. Baines. Miss M. Webster is in charge of kitchen arrangements, assist- ed by Mesdamcs .T. Peebles, p. McNab, J. On', J. A. Norrie, A. dcrKreck; I. Gray, A. VanEdcn. A. Van- Egmond, P. Hanhart, W. Van- derKooy; G. N. Young, ,1. Vcntmis, T. Burnett, M. Faulkner and Miss L. DeArmond. A nursery will be provided during Ihe afternoon-, in charge of Mesdamcs E. Baker, A. Voori, L. Bruyckere, A Van- Kesscl, P. Kchippcr and M. Bolokoski. Misses M. Coupl.mrl and C. Ramage will act as cashiers while Mrs. K. C. Reid will be in charge of the door prize. "I'm afroid it's going to need a motor transplant." a my al workers and the state ealth service do no, offer ad- icc on birth control or issue ills, says Ms, Freed man. hortiona are illegal, and those hat are performed are poorly one and expensive. Claudes- abortions bout S200. While Ms. Freedman Israel cost edu- ales her former member of parliament Shula- mit Aloni is at Ihe barricades ighling for equal wages and vorking conditions, and a say n women's personal slalus un- der law. The 43-year-old lawyer re- cently organized women labor- ers at a Tel Aviv candy fac- ory and closed the plant in a strike that achieved near-parity with male workers. Mrs. Aloni also has cam- paigned to install a woman on School seminar Saturday Current trends in education will be examined at the annua convention-workshop of Are: Eleven of the Alberta Horn and School Associations b e i n i_ held Saturday at Gilbert Pater son School. Coffee will be served at a.m., during registration. Thi will be followed by a short bus ness meeting and a film on choice of futures. Group discussions led by re- source personnel will com-1 mence at 11 a.m. Topics incude finance: early, basic and spe- cial education; resources, per-1 sonnel facilities; and curricu- j lum and research. I An informal luncheon and an address by Mr. L. Haney will be followed by an open question period, a fulurcs forecast and reports and recommendations for submission to Edmonton. Everyone who has a child al- tending school is invited lo at- tencl along wilh representatives of all associations. Registration will be held in the audio-visual-aids room, and the fee will cover Ihe meal. WeeWhimsy John 1 ttn oi Till VJMtruy. yout> Won., Oct. 30th JACKPOT NOS. "20 AlAFM BINGO" 51 Gold Card Pay Door Free Cardl (Many oilier exlras) Regular Cards 25c or 5 far 51 13th St. ond 6lh 'A' N No children under 14 ollowtd Lhe commitlee that chooses Is- rael's chief rabbi. I Women's rights have never been a large issue in Israel. Ironically, Ihe problems facing Israeli women's lib came from Ihe women Ihemselves. Secure and happy in Iheir Iraditionai roles, many reject any drastic change in their status. Another problem is that more than half of Israeli womanhood come from Oriental commu-. nities where, as one Moroccan- born Israeli says: "A woman's place is in the oven." SIMPSONS-SEARS SEWING MACHINE RENTAL Lola of me'Jing lo do? A wedding A y6" lo be crealive? Rent and Sew with a gorgeoui KENMORE ZIG ZAG from Telephone 328-9231 Or Drop In At Simpsons-Sears, Centre Village Mall For Complete DolalU BINGO RAINBOW HALL 1101 sth Ave. N. TUESDAY, OCTOBER 31st at 8 p.m. First Jackpot in 56 Nos. 2nd Jackpot in 55 Nss. Frca and Oames, 25c per Card, 5 Cards 3 Fres Games Door Prize No children Under 16 Yeari Sponsored by A.U.U.C. Association UKRAINIAN GREEK ORTHODOX CHURCH BiNGO TUESDAY, OCT. 31st, 8 P.M. JACKPOT IN 52 NOS. JACKPOT 4 CORNERS ONLY UP EVERY WEEK 5 CARDS 25c PER CARD No One Under 16 yrs. 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