Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - October 23, 1973, Lethbridge, Alberta
TUMday, October 23, 1073 THE LETHIRIDGE HERALD S The greatest individual challenge By William Sailre, New York Times commentator WASHINGTON Eight times as many couples are liv- ing together today without be- ing married as cohabited 10 years ago. That judgment it's really my guess is based on a new study being made by Dr. Paul C. Click, the U.S. census bureau population division's senior demographer. In 1970, unmarried persons told the census takers they were living with a partner of the opposite sex, compared to in 1960; ob- viously, there are millions more who do not volunteeer this information to strangers, but a trend toward cohabita- tion outside of wedlock is dis- cernable. BERRY'S WORLD What's the reason for it? When the subject of singlehood is explored, it usually centres on the swing- ing blessings of the bachelor existence, but let us narrow the question to those couples who are not single but who are not about to get married. Lauren Hutton, who wears the mantel of "nation's most celebrated which over the years has graced the perfect shoulders of Jinx Falkenburg, Jeanne Paget and Suzy Parker, told a Time magazine interviewer that she has been living with a male friend for eight years and con- sidered marriage "great for taxes, necessary for children, abominable for romance." 1973 by ME A. Inc "Since the Arabs are making it tough to buy their oil. we ought to hit 'em where they live, and make it tough for them to buy Cadillacs and Lincolns." I have no cheekbones to pick with womannikins lib, but I think the matter of a change in the mating procedures of the human race deserves a lit- tle discussion before being hailed, winked at or tut- tutted. Many couples who will neither marry nor kick the cohabit say that their in- between status perfectly suits their needs. They usually do not want children (and the birthrate has been declining, partly because of the accep- tance of contraception) and they often want independent careers (the biggest increase in the labor force in the past decade has been Moreover, parental pressure on daughters to marry early seems to have abated: the number of women in their twenties who remain single has risen by over a third since 1960. Time was, girls would dread the moment when the nagging question, "How come you're not married yet9" would subtly change to a mildly curious "Why is it you never Local cultures differ, but that moment seems to come later today if it comes at all. Proponents of living together singly say, with Miss Hutton, that it is good for romance: That is, the lack of a legal document enhances a relationship, keeps both partners on their toes, staying together because they prefer to, rather than because parting together because they prefer to, rather than because parting would be too com- plicated and expensive. Peo- ple who settle down soon set- tle up. Thus, to them, the absence of legal ties helps strengthen emotional bonds. Unmarried cohabitors never say they maintain their status because it's daring and chic and and they are under pressure to conform to the nonconformist lifestyle, or because they want to flaunt their sophistication by flouting morality. But sometimes that enters into it. Conservatives find it hard to react to this cohabitation trend; they are torn between traditionalism, which sternly condemns any assault on the sacredness or permenance of the family unit, and liber- tarianism, which holds that people not hurting anybody by their actions should have the personal freedom to do what they want. People who want to live together outside of matrimony (the word's root is which says a lot about the purpose of marriage) should neither be stigmatized nor applauded. If no children are involved, that's the couple's business; if they are young, it can be their tragedy, if they are old, their Book Reviews Encourages learning "Guiding Your Child to a More Creative Life" by Fredelle Maynard (Doubleday, 369 The recently deceased author of "The Lord of the J. R. R. Tolkien ap- parently felt the word "creative" to be greatly overused, saying "there is only one Creator." A professor of English in an American university. Richard L. Greene, says that "creative" is the only word forbidden in his classroom. Certainly it seems to have joined a long list of jargony" words in our day. Perhaps Fredelle Maynard uses the word in a different sense in her book. She seems to recognize that every child is born with the urge to learn and to grow in his own unique The Royal Bank is pleased in depth money management to present aids for TEACHERS This education service comprises: A "Teacher's Kit" containing six booklets, each with a set of transparencies for class room overhead projectors, and supplemented by a "Teacher's A 40-page booklet primarily designed for the public, but available in class sets for students, "Your Money with extensive sections on budgeting and the intelligent use of consumer credit. A series of short films suitable for discussion starters are available on loan. Information on how to order these films is contained in the teacher's kit. These easily understood money management teaching aids are compiled without bias or sales pitch and are available to any interested group. If you would like to include this vital topic in your curriculum, please call your local Royal Bank manager. ROYAL BANK serving Alberta way. Her book is offered to help parents encourage a vital and exciting growth ex- perience for their children. There is considerable prac- ticality in her words. She com- bines theory with specific suggestions about how to evaluate and choose children's literature, records, pictures, toys; she talks about the importance of music and dancing and rhythm in a child's life; she makes suggestions about games to play, trips to take, arts and crafts to make. Conscientious parents will appreciate her book lists of suggested supplemental reading. Guiding Your Child to a More Creative Life is full of ideas for helping youngsters from babyhood to 10 years of age to discover the exciting possibilities which surround them. In this sense, then, of discovering and using what is 'new' to a child, perhaps Dr. Maynard is accurate in her use of the word "creative Dr. Maynard was born in Canada and is well-known for Raisins and Almonds, a book which tells of her childhood spent in Birch Hills, Saskatchewan. She is highly qualified to write a guide for parents, having been recognized as an authority in the field of child development and family life. She has written extensively for Woman's Day, Seventeen, Parent's Magazine and Good Housekeeping. ELSPETH WALKER "Massage: The Oriental Method" by Katsusuke Serizawa, M.D. (Longman Canada Limited, paper, 78 At long last the do-it- yourself book on oriental massage in English. The theory of this therapy rests on the belief that organic distur- bances may often be traced to nervous disorders. Through centuries of practice and refinement of various traditional methods the peoples of the Orient have found the places in the skin and musculature where cer- tain nerves produce certain organic disorders. By stimula- tion of these nerve nodules or tsubo all kinds or ailments and influences on the human body can be relieved. The theory of tsubo is basic to all oriental medicine and treatment and the book explains this theory and basic massage techniques and their applications with great detail, illustrations and many line drawings. GERTA PATSON "A Two Car Funeral" by John Hough, (Little, Brown and Company Limited, 216 pages, John Hough is interested in the plight of his less5 fortunate fellow citizens. He has worked in American ghettos and for private institutions concerned with the welfare of prisoners. This is his first novel. It tells the story of some of the inmates and staff of a reform school for delinquent boys. The daily routine of the school is a sordid and dreary ritual that isn't likely to reform anyone. Attempts to change the institution soon sink to the level of political expediency and the welfare of the delin- quents becomes a minor con- sideration. Much of this story must be based on facts that the author has culled from his own knowledge of penal in- stitutions. It has helped him to write an interesting and provocative novel. TERRY MORRIS happiness. (If they are very poor, they have been doing this for years, but this is not today's There is this weakness in the cohabitation's argument: If a "piece of paper" should not be needed to hold people together, why must that marriage certificate be per- mitted to become a licence for mature people to drift apart? The unmarried state of peo- ple living together is less a mark of independence than a mark of uncertainty; less an expression of the strength of mutual respect than a confes- sion of the weakness of people tp commit themselves to each other; and less a challenge to society than a refusal to rise to the greatest individual challenge of all to sym- bolically make permanent a union with another indepen- dent person. They don't hate their neighbors By Eva firewater, local writer COUTTS Lights are dimming all over the oil-thirsty world, yet judging by general com- ments the Middle East war appears too far away for most people to consider it in terms of lives involved. Since we seem to be just one more explosion away from a world conflagration, it may be time to think of the reluctant combatants on, at least, one side of the conflict before it is too late. If ever there was a country in our life time that proved what miracles can be achieved by peaceful co-operation, Israel is that example. Look at the rocky, barren battlefields between the Golan Heights and Damascus and you see Israel (or Palestine) as it was 30 or 40 years ago. Look at the Sinai desert on your television screens and you can perceive what the land would have become but for irrigation and afforestation the Jewish settlers made possible with their devoted, un- tiring labor. Over the past 25 years and many visits I have watched not only a desert bursting into fruitfulness but have seen so many children, both Arab and Jewish, grow up in Israel that I now feel I know personally every dead or wounded soldier lost in battle. The fact that our brains often reject what we actually see and hear, may be a built-in safety mechanism designed to preserve our sanity. Instead of accepting the finality of these young men's death or mutilation, I can only visualize them as I saw them last only a few short months ago: installing irrigation in a new orchard, ploughing a field, teaching Hebrew to Rus- sian immigrant children, or riding their horses over green pastures to round up their cattle. I remember them working side by side with young Arabs they trained in advanced methods of agriculture, showing them how to operate combines, how to adjust the moisture level required for different crops and taking their meals with them in friendly, animated conversation. These young Israelis did not hate their neighbors, did not regard them as enemies, did not want to fight. Their one ambition was to make the desert bloom all around them and to help other underdeveloped countries achieve the same high standard of living Israel attained within one generation. Can anyone believe for one moment that the pioneers and their children who have made Israel what it is today want to leave their land to become soldiers? Nor, for that matter, do Israeli Arabs want to be involved in the senseless destruction of their own achievements, their modern homes, agriculture, their children's education and opportunities, unparalleled in other Middle East countries. None of them want to fight and kill but, with their backs to the wall or, rather, the sea, they will fight to the last man, woman and child to defend their right to live, to work, to reclaim the desert and secure borders against the forces of regression. And what for? The cause of the Palestinians? Nonsense. That problem could have been solved years ago, had all parties been allowed to sit down together to solve it. Vast areas of land and un- imaginable sums of money now wasted in a costly, futile war, could have been more profitably used to settle refugess. Israel's know-how, if accepted in the spirit it was offered, would have helped them to prosper. Instead, Israel and her Arab neighbors are pawns, enmeshed in a deadly power game for supremacy and oil. It may be top far away from this continent for people to identify with and be seriously concerned about its fate but, if Israel were destroyed, nobody should imagine that a free flow of Arab oil would better light our homes. We would find this planet an even darker place to live in without the hope and options a unique experiment in co-operation offered to the poor nations. That is, if super-power in- volvement permits anybody to go on living. REPORT TO READERS DOUG WALKER The time flies Twice in one afternoon visitors to my office made snide remarks about me doing some work for a change just because I was hunched over my typewriter pecking out the words of an editorial. Then when I went to the composing room later I was subjected to in- nuendo about getting paid for doing nothing. It has been my fate to have spent my adult life in virtual idleness in the eyes of an un- comprehending public. There were six years at university where, as everyone knows, students learn the ways of indolence. These were followed by the better part of a year as a YMCA secretary, playing games with kids. Then I put in 21 years as a minister, on the fir- ing line only one or two hours a week. And latterly, for over five years, I have hidden away in a newspaper office fiddling away the time not spent golfing or scheming to avoid having to build a fence. Nobody who has not lived close to a minister can appreciate the endless claims on his time and nervous energy, seven days of the week. There is nothing to do but shrug off the jabs and jokes about the soft touch of a one-hour working week. The same may apply to trying to cope with remarks about what an easy job it is to be the editorial page editor of a paper so I propose merely to give some pic- ture of how my time is consumed not how much work I do. Generally I put in a full eight-hour day five days a week. In the golfing season I sometimes leave a half-hour or even an hour early but that's more than made up in time directly devoted to the job at home where I write all my book reviews, fillers, columns and some editorials. I also turn up on many Saturday mornings for an hour or two. Every day begins with a visit to the com- posing room to get the editorials put in the page and to deal with any problems that might have arisen in the makeup of the rest of the page. This can consume up to half an hour depending on how long it takes to find the material and getting it to fit. Then I spend about an hour reading the commentary that has come in the mail or over the wire, setting aside the pieces that I would like to be able to use. Following that I set about laying out the next day's editorial page on a dummy sheet. Decisions about which commentaries and cartoons to use and how to place them on the page have to be made. The amount of space each feature will take has to be calculated by counting the lines (seven lines of wire copy or three lines of typewritten copy) make an inch of one- column type. Often the commentary has to be cut (I took out 13 inches of one long piece recently) or cartoons reduced in size. Frequently I do some preliminary editing of copy while reading and cutting. Sometimes, for instance, commentary arriv- ing early in the week was written at the end of the previous week and there may be references to things happening "this" week that then have to be changed to "last" week. Most of the copy editing, is done by Mrs. Chris Stewart, my associate. She also writes some of the heads. By this time it will be 10 or and I am ready to turn my attention to page five Another hour is consumed deciding what material feature article, columns by local writers, book reviews, reprints to use, editing the copy, laying out the page, writing the heads. An astonishing amount of time can be con- sumed in checking spelling and searching the style book for guidance in the use of hyphens, capitalization, abbreviation and punctuation. And when a person is not an inspired headline writer, as I am not, wrestling with a headline can be very time-consuming this is es- pecially so when all heads are one-liners as they are on the editorial pages. Around noon I should be finished with the copy for page five and have checked the work Mrs. Stewart has done on the material for page four. Then I deposit the copy, heads, cartoons and dummies in their appropriate places and it is time for lunch. In the afternoon there are a variety of housekeeping chores to get out of the way: marking the daily record of material used (people and agencies have to be paid at the end of each month for their attending to correspondence; handling book review details, reading more copy that has come in later deliveries. Some time goes to reading and consultation with the editor, Mr. Cleo Mowers. Then I give our paper a quick perusal and try to pick out a subject for an editorial I try to write one a day but don't always succeed. Whether or not I succeed in producing an editorial depends on how many visitors I get, if I am involved in some public relations work (representing the paper at some function or speaking to a class at a or run into some other contingency. Before I can leave on any day I must go over whatever editorials have been written (I am assisted by Mrs. Jeanne Beaty, Mrs. Chris Stewart, Mr. Mowers and others oc- casionally in this department) and deliver them, with heads, to the composing room. Then I can go home to read and do some writing. It doesn't sound like a very onerous job and it isn't from some standpoints there are others at The Herald who have much heavier responsibilities but I never seem to be lacking something to do. ON THE USE OF WORDS By Theodore M. Bernstein Enough, knave! A reader thinks that dic- tionary makers "sure have made some blunders." "Take the word laugh, for ex- he writes. "Why isn't it spelled laff? Or take the word knife; the k is not even pronounced." One answer is to tell the reader to take a look at the cuffs of his jacket. What are those two or three or four buttons doing on each cuff? They are totally useless, but they have come down to us from past generations and no self-respecting tailor would dream of omitting them. Similarly, words have come down to us from long-gone centuries. Their spellings derive from, and shed light on, the forerunners of present-day English. Laugh and knife both had their origin in Anglo-Saxon words. Their spellings may not conform to today's pronunciation, but they are not nor are they as useless as those buttons on the cuff. Minor error. Occasionally you will hear someone utter a sentence like this: "He rare- ly ever reads a book." He (or she) shouldn't. The rarely establishes the time element; it means infrequently. It is sufficient unto itself. Adding ever to it introduces another time element at any time a time ele- ment that is superfluous and perhaps even confusing. But obviously rarely if ever is perfectly acceptable when you examine what .the words mean. Everything that has been said here about rarely applies also to seldom. Don't say seldom ever, but seldom if ever is quite all right. And so are hardly ever and scarcely ever.