Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - October 12, 1973, Lethbridge, Alberta
rinimj, vsciouer it, i riE kcincmuuc ncriMLU Ann Landers Dear Ann Landers: Yester- day I read the letter from the girl who had been in bed '.vith so many guys that she nad lost count. It seems she was hop- ing for a genuine love' relationship and found only re- jection, self-recrimination and deeper depression I could have written that letter myself three years ago. My problem started with a brutal sexual encounter that robbed me not only of my virginity but my self-respect. I had a strict religious upbringing and felt so defiled that the only way I could con- vince myself that I was human was to have sex with After each boy friend dumped me 1 hated myself more and felt more worthless My thoughts kept inching toward suicide. I knew if I didn't get some help I'd probably kill myself Of course, I had no money for a psychiatrist (I was 16 years but I remembered your advice to others. "See your school guidance counsellor." I decided I had nothing to lose. With that man's help I am a new person. I actually owe him my life Several years have passed but I still keep in touch with that incredibly in- sightful and compassionate high school counsellor Because of him, my relationships with men are on a completely different level I hope this letter will help someone who has taken the wrong road as I did years ago. Keep telling them, Ann, that they don't have to stay in the mud if they don't want to Counselling might not be the answer for everybody, but it was for me. My Name Is Not Important. My State Is "Contentment" Dear Contentment: Thank you for a letter that may provide others with the im- petus they need to move in the direction of help. You per- formed a more valuable ser- vice today than you will ever know. Dear Ann Landers: I run a U office, staffed by seven competent women. In the last several weeks there has been a mysterious disappearance of many small items and in- significant sums of money from our handbags. All the circumstantial evidence points to one girl as the guilty person Since I am the manager it is up to me to straighten it out. But how can I tell this girl that she is the suspect7 My desk is the only one that can be locked. The other girls keep their belongings in the lounge area on open shelves. Lockers would be impossible because of lack of space. Thanks for your help Tender Hooks Dear T. H.: You simply can't accuse a girl of stealing on the basis of the "evidence" in your letter. It would be un- forgivable Surely every employee's desk has a drawer on which a lock can be installed. This is the best solution, and well worth the few dollars it would cost Dear Ms. Landers: You will notice 1 have addressed you as Ms. Landers, although I know your writing name is Miss Landers and you are married and therefore a "Mrs How do you feel about the "Ms." title? Do you like it? Do you dislike it' Are you in- different? A Frank Ques- tion Dear Friend: Your frank question deserves a frank answer. I don't like "Ms." I prefer Miss or Mrs. or even Occupant The Ms label is for females who figure it's nobody's business whether they are married or single and they would just as soon not say I am not in that category and I don't wish to be placed there. Family allowance hike effective in January At the wall Margaret Trudeau looks towards the mountains after climbing the Great Wall of China, 40 miles north of Peking Thursday. Mrs. Trudeau did some sightseeing while her husband held talks with Premier Chou En-Lai. Sudden burst of energy sends Margaret up wall By STEWART MacLEOD PEKING (CP) Margaret Trudeau, six-months preg- nant, hiked up the Great Wall of China today after watching, her prime ministerial hus- band make a dubious debut in archery. These were among the side- lights of the official visit to which both members of the family ap- peared to delight in The 24-year-old Mrs. Trudeau, her limousine dod- ging bicycles, horses, donkeys Lots of reasons for long skirts Eager and willing Sheryl Maynard of Calgary is shown purchasing the first ticket for the KINstakes lottery sold this year. Sheryl, a grade 5 student at Sir James Lougheed School, suffers from cystic fibrosis and is aware that a portion of the KINstakes proceeds will be committed to Cystic Fibrosis research in Alberta. Mrs. Lily McNab, president of the Calgary Cystic Fibrosis Chapter, looks on approvingly. r Service still comes first at Canadian Western canaoian uuesTern naTuraL oas company LimiTeo Serving Albcrlans Since 1912 By BERNADINE MORRIS New York Times Service NEW YORK "Everybody's wearing said Patricia Bugnet, a French student, strolling down the Avenue Montaigne in Paris last week. "It makes you look pretty." "I started wearing them when the weather got said Verdie Walker, an ac- countant, rushing along 57th Street on her lunch hour the other day. "They made me feel cool." These two explanations just about cover the reasons why young women in cosmopolitan cities such as Paris and New York as well as resorts such as St. Tropez say they took to long skirts this summer. Oh, there are other reasons given: "My legs are too skinny" (or too fat) "They're more comfortable than short skirts." ''Mid-knee hems are so boring "I'm getting tired of pan- ts But chances are the fact that everybody's doing it is probably the most influential reason. Plus the fact that long skirts are an anti- establishment move, like blue jeans Designers on both sides of the Atlantic are apt to look at the long skirts in the street and wonder, "who told them to do After all, when they attempted to lower hemlines a few years ago, all thev got was trouble. But now they seem to have erupted spontaneously everywhere. In New York, the long skirt can be a tailored affair, a pea- sant or gypsy style with ruffles, or made of blue denim, like jeans. All of these styles appear in Paris too. but one design heads all the rest It turns up almost as often as jeans, and it's just as prevalent on the Left Bank as it is in the chic purlieus of the right. Americans tend to refer to it as the swirl, referring not to the housedress by that name, but to the way the skirt is con- structed. Bias-cut panels in different colors or patterns swirl around the body from the waist to the hem The way the skirt is cut, fitting smoothly through the hips and flounching out at the hem, is flattering to most figures. It turns up in small flower prints, graphic black and white panels and, use everything else, in blue denim. The wearers are not likely to worry about where the idea came from. If asked, they're apt to mention the name of the small shop in the suburbs where they bought the skirt. Even the French designers profess not to know where the ubiquitous swirl skirt originated, but English visitors are more helpful They point out that John Bates designed the prototype for Jean Varon in London about three years ago. Another English concern, Sterling Cooper, copied it almost im- mediately and it became known as the Sterling Cooper Skirt This year it crossed the English Channel, and while it is most prominent in Paris, sightings are reported in Madrid, Rome, Milan and St. Tropez. where the sunworshippers are on a romantic kick this summer. They tend to wear a long skirt and an English garden-party hat: when they're not stretch- ed out on the beach, that is, in a bikini or a bikini-bottom. The garden party hat, in natural straw, with a flower plunked over the brim in front, turns up in Paris, too. Some say it was inspired not by the English but by the hat worn in the film. The Last Tango In Paris. The French are like that The shoes worn most fre- quently with iong skirts at high noon are high platforms in glowing colors, such as neon yellow or lacquered red. If platforms somehow aren't available, clogs or plain san- dals will do. Some see in the outbreak of long skirts a yearning for the superfemmine clothes of the past Others view it as a lingering remnant of the do- your-own-thing vogue of a few years hack and camels for the 40-mile trip to the Great Wall, sur- prised everyone with her burst of climbing energy. Sev- eral times her Chinese host, Mrs. Siu Han Ping, wife of the Chinese foreign minister, urg- ed her to stop and other members of the party kept re- minding her of her pregnant state "It would certainly be his- toric if I had the baby right here on the she said at one point. "It would certainly be well someone replied, with a glance at the panting pack of photographers and re- porters. COUNTRY RUGGED Mrs. Trudeau, dressed in a heavy sweater, seemed spellbound by the ancient magnificence of the" Great which threads its way over some of the most rugged country west of the Rockies Although she has photos of her husband on the wall in 1960, this was Mrs. Trudeau's first view of the construction marvel. Her party included Joyce Fairbairn, legislative assist- ant to her husband, and Jean Small, wife of the Canadian ambassador in Peking. Earlier in the day, before Trudeau began his first full afternoon of talks with Pre- mier Chou En-Iai, the prime minister and his wife spent 90 minutes visiting the Institute of Physical Culture, a student institution whose stu- dents are state experts in various forms of sport. He watched children play two fantastic sets of table ten- nis, a series of comedy dances that could only be attempted by gymnasts, basketball, volleyball, ballet and swim- ming. It all reached the ex- cellence of China's dis- ciplined displays And when he came to the archery, Trudeau couldn't re- sist After watching the senior male students thud the arrow into the bull's eye, the prime minister took bow in hand, and to the delighted applause of the students, he skimmed two arrows along the floor. The third he whacked into the target. Some Canadian officials said Trudeau's participation was significant because the bows were made in Canada But a check revealed they were a few miles off target. "Made in Michigan" was seen on the bows, although there was a reference to a Cana- dian patent number CASH BINGO ST. BASIL'S HALL-Cor. 13th St. and 6th Ave. N. FRIDAY, OCT. o'clock 4th and tlh Qarms in 7 Jlh Game t CAHDS FOR OR Each BLACKOUT JACKPOT 56 NUMBERS LUCKY NUMBER DRAW WORTH 3 FREE GAMES AND DOOR PRIZE WEEKLY DRAW WORTH 110 IB Net Allowed SPONSORED BY 3T. BASIL'S MEN'S CLUB EDMONTON (CP) Fami- ly allowance payments in Alberta will range between and a month per child starting in January, Premier Peter Lougheed told the legislature here. He announced the payment schedule, approved by the cabinet for Alberta, is in line with the federal government's plan to increase the general level of family allowances starting in the new year. In Alberta, mothers of children up to six years will receive a pay- ment for each child. For children seven to 11 the pay- ment is for 12 to 15, and for 16 and 17, the premier said. flPPfl PHONE anywhere you'd like to reach, not run. Add a phone. Add a smile. Add colorful convenience in your choice of styles and colors from warm white to razmataz red. Your choice of exciting extensions includes those shown plus Chestphones, Cradlephones, Ericofon, Spacemaker, Starlite, desk and wall phones. Call your nearest AGT business office or come in and see the full selection.