Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - November 28, 1972, Lethbridge, Alberta
THE LETilBBIBGC Tuesday, November 28, 1974 Doris Clark Successful living... IMWIIBBIIIMM pcnsion- DEAR DORIS. Does the mother of the bride a'ways wear white gloves? I am sure I read that some place but can't see the point. Why bother to get shoes dyed to match your dress and a hat to match and then wear white gloves? Also regarding the uninvited guests: Docs the usher offer his arm and escort them to their seats? A Faithful Reader. DEAR FAITHFUL: White gloves are popular but not essential. Pick the shade uhich will go with your outlit avoiding black. Neighbors who slip into the church to sec the ceremony but arc not wedding seat themselves in the unreserved portion al tlie beck of the church. DEAR DORIS: I am M yea-s old, horn in Cinada, and married a Euro- pean 30 years ago. My hus- band has resided and been em- ployed here for over 30 years. Will we be eligible for Old Age Tension? Anxious To Know. DEAR ANXIOUS TO To claim the Old Age Secur- ily pension: (1) You must have resided in Canada for 10 years just before the date on which your application is approved, or <2) you musl have resided in Canada after reaching age 18 for a total of 10 before the dale on which your appli- cation is approved. At time of application you msy then be living where you please. II you continue to live in Canada until you are G5 (and can make your you will be eligible. If you were to move to another country be- fore that, you could draw the pension; but husband would need another 10 years here to qualify lor in-absence. DEAB DORIS: What do you do with a hus- band who insists he is always right? I will admit I am wrong sometimes but he seems to enjoy getting a fight going. If I clam up he says I think I am too good for him. We have two chllcVer so, as he works late, I am stuck at home. He and his folks blow their top if I go out in the after- noon to visit someone so I have just withdrawn. I hate to face people any more but my hus- band says I just think I am loo good for other people. I asked him if he would see a marriage counsellor with me and he said he didn't have to, he knew he was right, but he would go just so I would find out I'm in the wrong. Where do you get counselling ser- rices? Depressed. DEAR DEPRESSED: Any man who has to insist that he is always right must have a terrific inferiority com- plex. He has to sound off in order to keep himself sold on his brilliance. You are the fall guy the person who finally gives In for the sake of peace. Perhaps your silence does look like superiority to him. But I do know one thing: If you don't get out and circulate, see happy people and get some change from being home all the time, your own mental health is going to become in- ferior. Contact the Lclhbridge Fam- ily Service, 1120 7th Avenue South. If he keeps the appoint ment, there may be a surprise in. store for him. "Aging Some Rules To Go By" would help her and me to cope with the future. What would we do without your column? Your advice is so sensible and appreciated more than you know. Grateful DEAR GRATEFUL: Good for you and your motrt- er. You are not just going to let the future happen to you but plan to do something about it. The leaflet is on its way. Confidential to Ashamed: A lack of bladder control at 63 is not a trouble that anyone but a doctor can diagnose and treat. And when a man is sick which your man is, even II he is up and around he is no longer the one who should be issuing the orders about him- self. In other words, now is the time for Wifey you to lay down some laws. Part of his bluster and bad temper are due to his own feelings of shame; and it would be a secret relief to him if you were to insist on taking him to the one person who can offer help. If you can't manage this your- self, either get your brother to help persuade him, or get the doctor to come lo the house. (Doris reserves the right lo ignore anonymous letters. If you have a legitimate beef, sign your name to your note about it. AH names are kept confi- dential.) YAMAHA 433 SNOWMOBILE QUICK QUIET QUALITY QUICK CHANGE GEARS 2 speed georin0 one tor deep powdor, climbing er pulling _ one for moving out ocrou the flail. YAMAHA AHEAD OF EVERYONE RSE Yamaha Cycle Sales Service 1519.3rd Ave. S. DEAR DORIS: I am 29 years old, married lo a wonderful man and have five children from eight years to two years. Doctors have made many tests and they just say "nerves." The "nerve pills" do DEAR nothing. My symptoms are: I have a mother who is over dizziness, sweating, difficulty in 80 and I'm sure your leaflet breathing and swallowing, see- ing double the odd lime, pains all over my body. I sound like quit ea mess, don't I? Well, believe me, I feel I am living in Hell! Can you help me or do you know of anyone who can? I don't think I can hang on much longer. Suicide has been in my mind for some time and it scares me. Four Terrible Years. DEAR FOUR: Any woman with five young children is entitled to nervous fatigue; hut you sound worse lhan that. I'd want to know about any emotional turmoil you are bot- tling up: what gives when it comes to sex relations; worries about children or money or in- laws. We humans arc a mixed np lot: we arc physical and men- tal and emotional beings, and you can't keep this assortment separated out. Perhaps If you were lo talk with a social work- er and get help in straightening out your human conflicts (even if you Hunk you haven't your physical pains would go away. (Write for 11, Doris Clark, 66 Roscdene Ave., Hamilton, Ont., enclosing 20 cents for the leaflet and an eight-ccnt-stainpcd Bolf- addrcssed AUTOLUBE mixing of oil No meuy and gut. Phono 31B-6977 is ahead for ice fishing in southern Alberta is difficult to say. The cool nights two weeks ago formed a thin layer of ice over many of the water especially the shallower ones. But, last week, the stiff westerly breezes, some- what on the warm side, started to re-open some of the lakes and ponds. It means another delay in ice one of the most-favorite pastimes of many anglers in the south. j One of the most productive impoundments ww Goose Lake, just south the Montana broder. GooM Lake is about straight north of Duck Lake and half way to the border. i Goose Lake is heavily stocked with eastern Brook and, at times, the natives are rather touchy about anglers going over the tilled land to the lake. They just don't let anglers in. Contact should be made with the tribal band be- fore embarking on a trip lo Goose Lake. Some ang- lers have been allowed in during the past two weeks and they have had some terrific luck. Goose Lake is heavily stocked with Eastern Brook trout and there has been hardly a fisherman at the lake all summer. To get into the lake, a vehicle should be either a four-wheel drive, or at least have a high clearance. Roe from the brookies, wrapped in sheer netting or stocking have been the best bait. Although maggots and earthworms haven't been bad either. Thickness of ice on Goose Lake has varied from two inches along the west shoreline, to four inches on the shallower bays. Duck Lake, meanwhile, has had ice formation only on the bays so far. And, some fairly decent trout continue to be taken on the open waters at Duck. SCORES OF YOUNGSTERS will again be receiv- ing their first 'real' gun for this Christmas. Parents are already around looking at the various makes and models. Before making a purchase a good many parents are extracting a promise from their youngsters. They will have to enrol in the first hunter safety course that is available. Fish and game clubs and other organizations in- terested in the betterment of young people should all be very aware of this need. They should be preparing now their gun safety and outdoor survival courses for the new year. The fish and game clubs in all parts of the south country should have a particular interest in 1 li e s e young people. They will be the sportsmen and con- servation leaders of tomorrow. Failure for them lo take the proper course at this time could mean real trouble ahead for all those who take to the field. Mothers particularly, are shocked at the thought of purchasing their youngster a gun. They are sure someone will be shot, perhaps even killed. Yet. they think nothing of turning the family car over to junior where he can be in 10 times as much danger. Parents should remember to make their pur- chases from a reputable dealer where the sales- man knows what he is talking about. And, as far as other outdoor adventures arc con- cerned, this is the time when some the best deals are made. Many dealers are attempting to get rid of last year's stock before the carryover is counted. Floriculture course Jan. 3 A commercial floriculture program will start at the Olds Regional College Jan. 3, 1973. It is being given in response to results of a survey of the four western provinces that was carried out by Flowers Canada to determine the need for such program to support commer- cial operations. The program, which runs un- til Oct. 26. includes six months on-thc-job training, c o v e rs growing (mainly under glass) flower crops; floral design and business courses related to pro- duction and shop management. Graduates will receive a cer- tificate and be qualified for po- sitions in commercial houses as growers and man- agers; and in retail flower shopi as designers and managers. Applicants should have an Al- berta high school diploma cr the equivalent or be in years of A maximum of 15 stu- dents will be accepted for the course, and the deadline lor re- ceipt of applications is Nov. IS. Tncy should be sent lo the reg- istrar, Olds Regional College, Olds.