Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - November 17, 1971, Lethbridge, Alberta
-Wtdnttday, November 17, 1971 THE ICTHBRIDGE HESAID 23 Ann Landers DEAR ANN LANDERS: What has happened to dignity and respect for the deceased? I was horrified to road of the "drive-in funeral parlors" where you don't even have to get out of your car to view the remains of a loved one. I wouldn t be surprised if the next move would be a TV segment that shows all the corpses in the local mortuaries. Then people won t even have to go to the drive-ins. They can stay home, drink beer and see their loved ones on the idiot box. Yesterday a woman I work with said, "My father s fun- neral was so lovely. I still feel a sense of peace." I asked her when site had buried her fattier. "This she replied I was shocked. If my children can't lake off two or three days of work to pay their respects to ir.e when 1 die, I'll feel that I did a pretty poor job as a mother. The tilings that have been happening lately make me ashamed to be a member of the human race. What about DEAR OUT: My Chicago funeral consultant, Mr. Jules Furth informs me that there are no drive-in mortuaries. One was opened in the South last year as a publicity stunt. Morticians all over the country were outraged by the cloddish- ness of the gimmick The drive-in was closed promptly. Insofar as your children are concerned, it's not how long they take otf work when you die that matters, but how they treat you when you are living. DEAR ANN: You've helped a lot of people. Will you please help thousands more by printing my story 1 could have died eight years ago when I was 27. I might have committed suicide or refused surgery when my hide- pended on the removal of the large intestae and bladder Tdidn't know that nearly a million North America, had undergone that kind of surgery and were now livingfu1 and active lives. These people are "ostomates. They have had a small alteration in their route of excretion, necessitated by birth defects, cancer, and other diseases. My problem was iterative colitis. The doctors operated on me and I awoke with a surprise ileostomy. Today no one couid guess Those I tell are fascinated. I have no die or odor problems. I have earned a PhD., taught school full-time, and I have a good marriage. We camp, hike and enjoy swimming. My life has been more active and rewarding these past eight years than before the surgery. Those who have had colostomies have outdone me. They have had babies, they compete in athletics, fly planes and practice law and medicine. I hope your readers who have had such an operation, or are considering it and need emotional support, will contact the International United Ostomy Asso- ciation at 1111 Wilshire Boulevard, Los Angeles, California 90017. We have established 180 clubs and we publish an in- formational magazine No one knows better than I that a good life requires un- derstanding, courage and a sense of humor. If one happens to have all his internal organs, so much the better, but they aren't necessary -Carol H Calif. DEAR CAROL: Here's your letter plus my thanks and heartiest congratulations. DEAR ANN LANDERS: In a recent column you said a physician is able to tell if a woman has given birth to a baby. Can a doctor tell if a woman has had an Inquiry DEAR DEN: If the abortion was performed early, a phvsician would not be able to tell. If the abortion were per- formed late (after the 12th to 15th week of pregnancy) it is possible that a doctor could tell, but not likely. DEAR ANN LANDERS: Congratulations. It's about time someone said a good word for psychotherapy. Infantile patterns can be hard to stake. How many men are afraid of their wives the way they were afraid of their mothers? How many women are disappointed in their husbands when they compare them with their fathers? How many sexual problems" in marriage impotence, frigility and promiscuity anger misdirected? A good therapist docs not change your simply helps you understand yourself. It cannot be done with- out pain Ycm can't get tranquility from tranquilizers any more than you can lose weight without experiencing hunger. The people who scream that psychiatry is quackery are the ones who need it but don't want to subject themselves to the agonizing reappraisal. Maybe happiness can't be bought, but I am spending some hard-earned bread on therapy and it's as close to buying happiness as a person can come. Please quote In Chicago DEAR STRUGGLING: Sounds as if you're winning the battle. My heartiest congratulations and my thanks for s superb letter. Please send inquiries and requests to Landers Reader- mail Department, Chicago Sun Times-Daily News, 401 North Wabash Ave., Chicago, 111. 60611. For Those Who Core To Give the Best Give Comfort Give Warmth Give Genuine SEALSKIN BOOTS Prompt attention given to mail ordlrl. Wi Pay Poitaoe. NO UNIFORM Lucienne Gelinas, a 12 year veteran of the Winnipeg police force, prefers to work without a police uniform. She says the eight women on the force don't want youngsters to think of us in of a uniform, but rather as concerned people who are trying to help." Veteran officer on force aids juveniles in trouble WINNIPEG (CP) Huddled in the corner of the cruiser car, a j'oung offender waits for Due of" the police officers to apeak. He knows glue sniffing is against the law, but every- one else is doing it. Why should le be odd man out? Some fears are dispelled when the woman officer turns o him, places her hand gently on his and says: "No need to remble, we're here not harm yon." In the police station, the lad s asked some questions, his >arents are notified. He is hun- gry and is given a sandwich by he policewoman who has not eft his side. She talks, jokes and ques- ions. But he knows she means Business when she says cer- ain things must change. He is ed why she preferred to be without" a uniform. "Most of the people I deal with know me without a uni- form. As far as juveniles go, it would act as a deterrent. We don't want them to think of us in terms of a uniform, but rather as concerned people who are trying to help." However, "we are not social workers although we do some to help, counselling. More often than not we will refer juveniles with problems to the proper agency." In the juvenile branch, the I police officer's work generally j takes the form of preventive programming. "We do Uie same work a detective would do. We try to establish the reasons why an offence occurred such as the background of the child, the environment in which he was living, and the circumstances agreeable when told he lave to attend weekly guidance :lasses as a first offender. j Not every juvenile is fortun- surrounding the offence.' ate enough to come to terms with a drug habit in this man- ner, but there are enough to make a policewoman's job worthwhile. WEAR N'O UNIFORM They wear no official police uniform, although the acting chief said he would like to see them worn on a regular basis to "identify them to the pub- lic." Lucienne Gelinas. a 12-year reteran of the force, explain- Retarded selling Christmas cards Featured in the selection of Christmas cards now being sold by the Lelhbridge Association for the Mentally Retarded is a design by Jane Jensen of Leth- bridge, a student at the Dor- othy Goodcr School. Miss Jensen was the winner of a Canada wide contest for designing Christmas cards. Interested persons may ob- tain the cnrds from the Asso- ciation's office, 1813 5th Avc. S.. or by phoning 327-2911 or 328-3097. MANY RELATIVES DENVER (AP) Twin sons horn lo Mrs. Robert A. Edwards i h a v e 10 grandparents and 1 all of tliom paid a visit lo the hospital to see Ilii catenae f- local Tan Chapter, Beta Sigma Phi, will be participating in the Carnival Days bazaar at Centre Village Mall on Thurs- day. Lethbridge Old Time Dance Club will hold a dance at As- sumption School, 24 St. and 14 Ave. S., on Saturday at p.m. with Westerners Orches- tra. Everyone welcome. Old time dance classes will be held in Tabcr from 8-9 p.m., with western square dance I classes from 9-11 p.m., on Thursday in the Dr. Hamman school. Vic Dash of Lethbridge will be instructing the latter part of the program. Everyone welcome. This is being held in conjunction with the recreation department.