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Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - November 12, 1974, Lethbridge, Alberta Tueaday, November 12, 1974 THE LETHBRIDC'fc HtHALD 17 Rape: Remember, it's you or him Excerpted Irom ivipe M J'a Medea and Kathleen Thompson Copyright icl 1P74 by Andra Nv-dea and Kathleen Thompson by arrangement with the puLmshor Farrar. Suaus and Giroux Inc B> ANDKA MEDEA and KATHLKEN THOMPSON (Newspaper Enterprise Assn.) (Fourth in a series) Think about the amount of abuse you're willing to take before fighting back. You have to decide the value you place on yourself and the value you place on others, especially men. Again and again women have explained to us that they didn't use available weapons against their attackers because they were afraid they would hurt them. They had clearly met with disbelief when they admitted this to other people, and this led to a confusion on their parts which sometimes lasted for years. If you don't understand a situation, if you've never fought back before, if you don't know how it will affect you, it's going to be difficult to grab the lamp from the bedside table and bring it crashing down on a man's head. One of the subtle limitations we face as women is the prejudice that a woman is incapable of effective violence. People say thJit a woman will only get hurt struggling against a man. That s true. Struggling will only get the woman in- jured; fighting may work. In an all-out fight between an average, untrained man and an average, untrained woman at close quarters, the man will win. to be sure. But a rape situation isn't necessarily go- ing to be like that The key here is that a rape attack will not necessarily be an all-out fight. The objective is not to beat your opponent, but to surprise him by resisting and then to take the oppor- tunity to flee An attempt to fight off the attacker may result in your getting hit or injured this is something you have to expect and prepare for. If you kick your attacker, then find yourself being punched in return and give up at the slightest injury, you may just as well not have fought at all. Because women have not had much experience in fights, they tend to think that they must give up before the real fighting begins. Be prepared. This is not a game. You must be ready for a blow, take it, and then go on. It's the fear of being struck that is paralyzing, not the reality. In a confron- tation you probably won't be aware of any injury until it's all over with and you are recovering your senses. Women may fear that if they ever let go, they'd kill the man. They are over-estimating themselves. People aren't that easy to kill, and you are fighting for a chance to escape, not to murder. It's a good idea to learn to Uiink out a situation in terms of action and cooi-headed practicality You may well have a great deal of time to think about it. It's rare that a rapist suddenly leaps from the shadows Once you know that an attack is imminent, scream. Make sure that anyone listening understands that you want Pot-pourri Friendship Lodge recenth honored four of their members with anniversary gifts. Receiving 50th anniver- sary gifts were Mrs. Annie Miron and Mrs. May Bissett. 25th anniversary gifts were given to Mrs. Audrey Kesler and Mrs. Grace Hing. Kujipa Chapter, Beta Sigma Phi. recently held a preferen- tial tea at the home of Mrs. Shirley Christie to honor Gay Bowen. Janis Varzari, Wendy Miller and Trudy Walker. Another new member, Ruth Laychak from Fort Nelson, B.C. has joined the chapter. Friendship Lodge No. 729 WILL NOT HOLD A TEA BAZAAR BAKE SALE THIS YEAR Instead we will have a SALE of WORK Including home made quilts, Fancy work and novelties and home baking at the College Mall p.m. Thure., Nov. 14th Hearing Aid Workshop LETHBRIDGE HOT. I3tt and THURSDAY, NOV. 14th a.m. to p.m. Marquis Hotel 4th Ava. S. MR. STAN HILL and MR .RVIN WIRTZFELD !n attendance for SERVICING REPAIRS TESTING FRESH BATTERIES ADVICE It you can't come in, call for home appointment. No obligation. This Service Centre ia available for wearers of all Phone 262-2839 HEARING AID CENTRE 212 Lougheed Bldg., Calgary help. Many people who might rush to your aid if they hear you calling, "Help, call the police, might stay away if they hear, "Get away from me, leave me alone." Then concentrate on your attacker's weaknesses. Don't underestimate him, of course He wouldn't be confronting you if he didn't think he could handle you. But you have cer- tain advantages in being on the defensive. You have one ob- jective, and that's to end the encounter. Another possible ad- vantage is the degree of the rapist's determination. He ex- pects you to go along with him. In some cases, serious resistance may be enough to discourage him. On the other hand, it may not Thus, we offer suggestions that should be practical in potential situations. They require a minimum of practice, prefefably with another person. Think positively, but remember, nothing we suggest is magic. You may kick someone in the knee only to find that he has a wooden leg. So always provide another tactic as a stand-by. First, keep strangers at a distance. If you can't, keep them from making contact with you. Scream if they manage to grab you. Break away; if you can't, immediately attack; if you can't, wait and see what you can do. A good course in self-defense is the best preparation; a good karate course the next best alternative. If both of those are impossible, remember the following: The best way to deal with any grab or punch is to deflect the man's arm before it reaches you. Make a fist and hold your arm out a foot or so parallel to your body, with your fist at eye level. As an offensive tactic, it's best for a woman to rely on kicking. A man will be likely to grab for you or perhaps punch, but your kick is longer than his reach. Your best target is his knee; it's low. difficult to protect, and easily knocked out of place. Unless you're very fast, we don't recommend kicking to the groin. A man naturally protects the groin, and he may grab your foot, perhaps throwing you off balance. Don't use hand strikes unless you are able to jump back, or he lunges in after you. The basic fist is a clenched hand with the thumb outside, lying along the fingers. Aim for the head or throat If a man aas rushed you, however, you may not have room for a punch. Use the heel of the palm to slam into the side of his temple, or into his ear. If you're very close to him, you can hit him with the heel of your palm, coming up under his chin or under his nose If there is a wall in back of him, try slamming his head up and back against it. A sharp poke to the hollow of the throat will have an effect. The faster and more abruptly you react, the better. Try not to telegraph what you are going to do next. If you break his hold before he has a firm grip on you. it's more likely that you'll get away. Also, the longer he has a hold on you, the weaker your muscles will become from lack of circulation. Even though we have suggested any number of unarmed defenses, you'd be better off carrying a weapon of sorts for emergencies. While we recommend Mace, please remember that it isn't magic. If you are more old-fashioned, and carry something like a knife, we certainly hope you know how to use it. If the man has a weapon, you shouldn't try to fight unless absolutely necessary. If you have to fight, keep moving as fast as possible Don't try arguing with a man with a gun; it is too efficient a machine to tackle with your bare hands. (NEXT: Trial can be as humiliating as the crime) Community calendar There will be an Anne Campbell Singers choir prac- tice Friday at Southminster from 5 to 7 p.m. in preparation for the forthcoming "Singing Tree" performance. Kappa Chapter. Beta Sigma Phi, will hold its regular meeting tonight at 8 p.m. at the home of Barbara Dawson. 1318 20th St. N. The program 'prayer and happiness' will be presented by guest speaker Father Bi'll Kelly. Co- hostesses are Susan Giffen and Sharon Jagielski. The Lethbridge Chapter of the Sweet Adelines meets every Wednesday from 8 to p.m. at St. S. in the church basement. Women interested in singing four-part harmonv are invited to attend. The regular monthly meeting of the Dr. F. H Mew- burn O.B.E. Chapter I.O.D.E. will be held Thursday at the home of Mrs. C. F. Steele. 618 15th St. S. A Christian Science prayer and testimony meeting will be held Wednesday at p.m. in the church auditorium, 1203 4th Ave. S. All interested per- sons are welcome. The annual Holly Tea will be held by the UCW of McKillop United Church on Saturday from 2 to p.m. in the church hall. There will be a sale of home baking, a gift bar and white elephant stall. The CGIT will sell calendars. The regular monthly meeting of the Wilson White Community Club will be held at the home of Mrs. George Niedermier on Thursday at 2-30 p.m. PUBLIC BINGO A 16 GAMES BLACKOUT (Pliycd Until Won) LETHBRIDGE ELKS LODGE ROOM (Uptlcirt) EVERY THUBS.-8 p.m. Leftbrifce Dl Mnn Wednesdir fish I Cam Asset DIHUU ML JACKPOT IN 52 NUMBERS 3 Jackpoto tin 10th in 7 GOLD CARDS PAY DOUBLE FREE CARDS EAGLES HALL 13th STREET N. FREE GAMPS No Children Under 16 LOYAL ORDER OF MOOSE 1234-3rd North REGULAR WBD. MIGHT BINOO 8 P.M. 25 GAMES DOUBLE MOSEY CARDS MANY EXTRAS This week'a Jackpot 50 in 52 5 CAMS SI CMOS PAY DOUtUE DOM PWZt vp I "f- LEGION BINGO EVERY WEDNESDAY at 8 P.M. S500 JACKPOT BLACKOUT IN 53 NUMBERS OR LESS one numrwt wnl ?D o m Thursday and Friday 9 30 a rn 10 9 00 D rn Cenire Village Mail Telephone 328-9231 ;