Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - November 8, 1974, Lethbridge, Alberta
22 i He LbiHBRIDGE HbRALD frlday, November 8, Credit cards possible future of retail grocery business Rape: By MURDOCH MACLEOD Herald Staff Writer Credit cards aren't accepted in Lethbridge super- markets, but they could be part of the future of the Canadian retail grocery business. Community calendar The Minus One Club will hold a dance from 9 p.m. to 1 a.m. Saturday in the Polish Hall. Music will be provided by the Moonglows. Southminster Circle Square Dance Club will hold the regular dance at p.m. Saturday in Southminster Hall All square dancers welcome. Regular lunch. The University's Women's Club's joint meeting with the Home Economics Association scheduled for Nov. 12 has been postponed until Nov 25 at p.m. at the Lethbridge Public Library. Pilot projects and funds available for school lunch programs will be the topic discussed by Edna Clark, provincial organizer. The possibility has caused some concern in the grocery trade. Some chains in Ontario and Quebec are experimenting with acceptance of bank credit cards for grocery purchases. The October issue of "Cana- dian Grocer" reports three stores in Ontario and a Hypermarche in Quebec accepting credit cards. It also reported Safeway outlets in Vancouver accept Master Charge credit cards. Bob Kemp, manager of the downtown Lethbridge Safeway store, and Ed McLaughlin of the College Mall Loblaw's, both said credit cards are not accepted here. The managers of the three 7-Eleven stores in the city all said their stores are cash operations. But Ken Jensen, manager of a 7-Eleven store in the 2000 block of Mayor Magrath Drive, said he favors bank credit cards. "If we went Chargex or something like that, it would be a good thing because they buy everything else with he said. Alex Weir. Calgary area manager for Woodward's Stores Ltd., said the chain's -The Herald Family own credit cards are good for any purchase in the stores, including groceries. Food floors are a big attraction for Woodward's because of credit and the selection available, he said in a telephone interview. The Woodward's Store in Lethbridge Centre will have a food floor. But Woodward's doesn't accept bank credit cards because they are the competi- tion for the company's own credit department, said Mr. Weir Meanwhile, in Winnipeg, the first vice-president of the Canadian Grocery Distributors' Association said widespread use of credit cards would have an inflationary effect on food prices. Wayne Smith said some Canadian banks and credit card companies were con- ducting an "intensive cam- paign" to sign up new members. Fees charged by the com- panies would be passed on to consumers, and both credit and cash customers would face higher food prices, he said. Credit customers might also be assessed interest charges of 18 per cent if they failed to pay their accounts on time. He said the institute the largest and most comprehen- sive group of its kind in Canada has not adopted a firm policy for or against credit card food purchases. "However, the institute wants to make certain that both its members and the Canadian public are aware of the inflationary effect of such service on the final cost of food to the consumer." TERSE ADMONITION The first coin authorized by U S. Congress, the 1787 Fugio cent, bore the words "Mind your business." Planning, teamwork and courage have resulted in a positive gain for every employee in the general service bargaining unit of the provincial government. per month or whichever is greater, will be added to their salaries as an interim adjustment. Our mem- bers' steadfast support of their union resulted in these positive negotiations. And you can be sure that future negotiations will result in even more gains. Civil Service Association of Alberta Erosion of self-respect By ANDRA MEDEA and KATHLEEN THOMPSON (First in a Series) Rape is any sexual in- timacy, whether by direct physical contact or not, that is forced on one person by another. If you are subjected to this kind of violation every day, a gradual erosion begins an erosion of your self-respect and privacy. vnu lose a little when you are shaken out of your daydreams by the whistles and comments of the construction workers you have to pass. You lose a little when a junior executive looks down your blouse or gives you a familiar pat at work. You lose a little to the ob- noxious drunk at the next table, to that man on the sub- way, to the guys in the drive- in. In themselves, these in- cidents are disgusting, repellent in fact, in- tolerable. Acceptance of them as normal is dangerous. This is one of the many ways in which women are prepared to be victims. Learning to avoid being hassled in the street is as much a part of living in the city as learning to cope with public transportation. To see a black man subjected to this kind of abuse would make one sick. It would be painful to watch him as he lowers his head and tries to get past a' group of whites unmolested. Today blacks are no longer expected to "know their although deliberate humiliation and discrimina- tion against them still exists. But women face this kind of badgering and taunting, and accept it. They have come to think of it as an unavoidable part of life. The reasons for this are complex. They certainly include the fear of actual physical attack, but they also derive from something much more subtle. Early in our lives there is instilled in us a desire to please, or at least a desire not to offend. This is not part of our nature: it is drilled into us from the moment we are dressed in pink booties. And it is done well. We reach maturi- ty with a sometimes pathetic desire to please others. Even when we have otherwise over- come our rigid stereotyping, we have -this need for approval. It can be debilitating, and can twist our lives in undreamed of ways. And so we think we have to be pleasant to the man in the street who approaches us. We have been taught not to dis- please anyone. Later, when we try to explain how we got ourselves into such situations, we usually mention that we were afraid of physical at- tack. That is something that others will understand, but it is not always the reason behind our actions. We often back down and capitulate when the threat of attack is minimal. Consider the subway car or bus riding molester. These men are so maddeningly pre- sent in any major urban center that many women have run into several. The astonishing thing is not that there are so many men who have the nerve or the inclina- tion to do this, but that women are so often intimidated by these disembodied hands. Part of the problem is that women are afraid of drawing attention to themselves. How often have they endured these men rather than make a scene? If the woman does make a scene, the man should be humiliated, but somehow he never is. He will calmly close his coat and join the other passengers in staring at an obviously crazy woman. She is the one who feels degrade'd. And it seems that she can bear a lot of degrada- tion as long as she is the only one who knows about it. This kind of man rarely threatens any further attack. Crowded subways and buses are not the ideal places for a man to attack or rape a woman. But even without fear of physical harm, women put up with the maulings. They have been conditioned to be afraid of men under any cir- cumstances and to be afraid of offending them even where there is no possible basis for their fear. One woman told us that she allowed herself to be taken into a dark alley because she was afraid of offending the man by implying that he might rape her. He did. In retrospect the woman seems terribly naive. But put yourself in her place at that moment and remember all of the similar situations in which you did not "rudely" avoid a man for fear of offending him. It is this kind of everyday oc- currence that sets women up to be raped. What happens if you are walking down the street and a strange man tries to pick you up? However charming and friendly he may be, there is always the potential for hostility on his part if he meets with a strongly negative reaction from you. Perhaps he will open with "Mind if I walk with You try to get rid of him, but politely. This will go on as long as you keep it up, or as long as he remains interested. The only way to avoid all of this is U demand from the very beginn- ing the right to your own time to your own life. Don't get int( the game at all. It is reallj nothing more than a simple matter of self-respect. It is difficult, however, to achieve that self-respect. It if not a part of the feminine ideal. A woman who believes that she belongs to herself will be described as cold, hard, un- feeling, stuck-up, bitchy or, worst of all, aggressive. Women are not supposed to take care of themselves, to be independent. They are taught that it is appealing to be weak, that it is attractive to be helpless. Few people would object to a little boy's learning to defend himself, but in a group of women who had gathered to work against rape, one woman worried about encouraging women to learn self-defense because, she said, it would be a "brutalizing" experience. It is time for women to take their lives into their own hands and start fighting for their self respect, not only because that is the best way for any human being to live, but also because to live any other way is damned dan- gerous. Women accept too many things as simply "the way things are." The condi- tion of their lives has become intolerable. All the daily encroachments on their existence as human beings, whether subtle or blatant, prepare them to be victims of rape. The time for a woman to start fighting is before she gives it all up fighting for the right to herself, her pride, her body, her time. Excerpted from "Against Rape." by Andra Medea and Kathleen Thompson. Copyright ici 1974 by Andra Medea and Kathleen Thompson by arrange- ment with the publisher. Farrar. Straus and Giroux. Inc (NEXT: Even the man next door can be a rapist) (Newspaper Enterprise Assn.) Cooking school needs students Golden Mile AALBORG AKVAVIT AALBORG AAIBOR6 DRY I Scr.c i" '-'r rich' "in ol tdncnjn'11-TUT.ll j kiffn I ll i- ill I (ii-niidi in if. AKVAVIT AALBORG Would-be gourmets are be- ing given a last chance to hone their culinary skills in a four- lesson cooking school to be held at the gas company auditorium beginning Nov. 20. Sheila Nieman. a home economist with Canadian Western Natural Gas, says the cooking school must have an enrolment of approximately 55 people or it will be cancelled. Jointly sponsored by the Department of Agriculture home economists and CWNG. the cooking school is being offered at a cost of for the entire course, scheduled to last four successive Wednesdays ending Dec. 11. "Entertaining with a Gourmet Touch" is the theme for the school Registration forms may be picked up at the gas company; for more information, call 327- 4551 Open Monday through Fri- day 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday 1 to 5 p.m. Next Week: Monday: Holiday, open at 1 p.m Tuesday: Singing 10 a.m. Dancing 2 p.m. Wednesday: Potluck lunch 1 p.m. There will be a dance at the centre at p.m. for members and guests. Thursday: Keep-fit 10 a.m. (for this occasion French p.m (for this oc- casion Friday: Creative decoration classes p.m. for members only. 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