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Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - May 5, 1973, Lethbridge, Alberta Saturday, May 5, 1973 THE LETHBRIDGE HERALD 17 family life by MAUREEN JAMIESON HPHERE are occasions when I get the impres- sion my Wiilyum thinks I'm a little less than perfect. I sometimes detect a faint trace of irritation when I un- consciously double check on him. Like when I ask him very politely to toss some towels into the washing ma- chine. Five or ten minutes later, I'll just as politely ask him if he has put the towels in the washing machine and he blows his stack. What he can't seem to real- ize is that it is nothing per- sonal; just an automatic re- flex. Mothers get programmed to double check as a matter of course. They have to do it at least a couple of hun- dred times a day. No mother in her right mind, for instance, who asks her offspring to put out the garbage, really believes down deep that the garbage will end up in the garbage can at the back of the yard, un- less she remembers to double check. Naturally, she is perfectly aware the kid intends to do the job. Indeed, he will fre- quently go as far as reach- ing down under the sink to pick up the soggy brown bag, but will soon be distracted by a puddle forming under a leaky pipe. Eventually, he may even try mopping it up with the sleeve of his neu, dry-clean- only sweater. Once mother manages to get him out the door with his burden, there are ants for him to watch, to dig tip and poke, a friend he has to follow to the gsme three blocks away, and two empty pop bottles lying in an alley to be taken down to the store and traded in on a bunch of candy. Three days later, a large policeman is likely to appear on the doorstep. He carries an ominous look on his face and the tattered re- mains of the bag tucked un- der his left arm. A strong feeling of fore- boding assails the mother, as she waits for him to drag out the handcuffs and haul her off to the pokey, siren scream- ing so every kid in the neigh- borhood can come and watch her get busted. Actually the policeman's look is ominous because he was the body delegated to burrow the yuckey eggshells, potato peelings and musty apple cores to find Ex- hibit A a discarded en- velope with her name and address on it. So he's in no mood to be- lieve that the garbage was snatched from her innocent hands by a passing thief on a motor cycle or a Commu- nist spy hovering overhead in a helicopter. The cop's baser instincts tell him the evidence had been deliberately abandoned on city property, and he in- tends to have the satisfaction of zapping her with a fine for littering. Carefully I point all this out to my husband, explain- ing that these things are rou- tine and it becomes just a normal everyday chore for any v.ife and mother to go through the double checking business. Unfortunately, as he points out right back to me, my kind of double checking is not re- stricted to household trivia like laundry and garbage. I have bean known to phone him at work to ask him if he's mailed off his income tax. arranged his vacation schedule, or remembered to send his petty cash vouchers to head office. And recently I phoned three times to dou- ble-check that his pay cheque was in the bank. Do you suppose there's any truth to his snide insinuation that I'm carrying things a little too far? 'Awfully lucky' alcoholics By MAUREEN JAMIESON Family Editor was 15 years old When she had her first and her first blackout. Mary is one of more than women in Canada the Alberta Alcoholism and Drug Abuse Commission estimates are alcoholic. She is also a member of Al- coholics Anonymous, an organi- zation of men and women "who share their experience, strength and hope with each other" to help themselves and others overcome their common problem. "I seemed to be more 'with- it' with sometliing under my belt. I could talk and turn on the tears. I could do just about said the quiet, un- assuming mother of three. She wasn't scared when the blackouts started. "At that she pointed out, "a per- son thinks it's rather smart, and tries it again which I did several times. "I went on like this for al- most 15 years. I went through two marriages and my parents were about ready to disown me." Work only added to Mary's problems. "I had a job where there was drinking around she said. "After closing time and first thing in the morning, I drank. This was common at that par- ticular job. "Most of my escapades were one-night she added. Five years of sobriety She joined AA, had a' brief fall from grace, and rejoined the organization. "That was five years said Mary, whose third husband is also involved in AA, "and I've never looked back since. "I've been awfully she claimed. "I don't have any qualms, because AA has be- come a way of life with me." However she still doesn't take unnecessary chances. "I very seldom go into she grin- ned, "but at a wedding or some- thing like that, liquor doesn't bother me." Like Mary, is married for the third time and to a man in AA. She also has three children. In fact, Kathy recol- lects Mary at the first meeting she attended. "I was 21 when I began Kathy said. "Uy hus- band drank and all our friends did. But within six months after my first, I became a daily ex- cessive drinker. "I changed from a very shy person. It seemed if I had a drink I could be gay and witty and I wasn't afraid of my (first) husband any more. "In the last year of my drink- ing, I was practically oblivious. It's horrifying to wake up and you don't know if your car is there. And if it is, you run down to see if there are any dents "It's an unexplainable kind of feeling not knowing how you got Kathy admitted. A sober fanatic "I was probably rather a fanatic in my sober moments. I didn't want anyone to say my children were dirty or my house untidy. "I always made sure I had a good sitter." Mary had reacted differently. "My children were rather small at the time. My oldest was nine, and when I had so much to drink. I didn't particularly care about them one way or the other. "My oldest said Kathy, "is probably more mature than average, because she's had re- sponsibility since she was six or seven. My second is very with- drawn. And the youngest has a definite behavior problem in school. "I went to Kathy con- fessed, "simply as the last con shot that was left to me. "Welfare was at the point where they were going to take the children. My parents weren't going to cover any more cheques, bail me out of trouble or care for me when I was sick. "My doctor asked me to leave the hospital. He wanted to give the bed to someone who'd made use of it. "I thought if I went (to AA) for three months." she said, "everybody would think I was a nice kid and get off my back. "I got drank after that first meeting, and got to thinking maybe just maybe I couldn't stop all that easy. Why isn't important CASH BINGO TONIGHT, O'CLOCK HUNGARIAN OLD TIMERS HALL A SI00 Blackout Bingo played for till won every Saturday plus Jackpots JACKPOTS NOW AND 5 Cards for or 25c each (totaled Next No. 1 Firehall) GIRL GUIDES OF CANADA CHINOOK AREA STORES Full line of supplies BADGES, UNIFORMS, PUBLICATIONS GIFT ITEMS 217 12th St. 'A' S., Lethbridge SCOUT-GUIDE HALL Hours: 1-5 p.m., Ar'on.-Fri. Phone 328-0733 Auxiliary don.ales equipment A Hoyer lift is a handy device, used to help patients unable to move by them- selves. It is one of several pieces of equipment purchased by the Lethbridge Auxiliary Hospital with a recent donation from the hospital's 70-member women's auxili- ary. Other purchases include two standard Theadyne wheelchairs and one with re- movable arms and elevated leg rests, one overbed table and two electric barbecues. Demonstrating the new equipment, left and right foreground, are Elaine Thacker, vice- chairman of the hospital management board and hospital administrator Andrew An- dreachuk. Rear left and right are Hyacinth Eurch and Effie Jones, secretary and presi- dent, respectively, of the Women's Auxiliary to the Lethbridge Auxiliary Hospital. YWCA becomes youth hostel This summer, a youth hostel will occupy the south section of the Lethbridge YWCA res- idence at the cornei- of 8th St. and 6th Ave. S. The announcement has come from Myrtle Christie, president of the board of directors of the local YV7CA. vrho said that the project had been approved by th.2 city and that approval from the federal government was ex- pected momentarily. Jim Laing, federal co-ordma- ters. Meals -will not be served. Sew Knit SIR Learn to Sew S-T-R-E-T-C-H Fabrics the New Exciting Way CUSSES BEGIN p.m. to p.m. You will learn to sew S-T-R-E-K-H In Class For enrolment phone 327-8877 or 327-8818 or write WHITE 408 5th Street South, Lethbridge The hostel will open at 4 p.m., Friday, Slay 18. the beginning of the Victoria Day weekend, and will be in operation until Aug. 31. It will accommodate 11 i- A 36 persons. The building will be really pLased that v tor for Canadian Youth Hostels, was in Lethbridge April 30 to inspect the facilities and was reportedly very impressed. He likened them to European hos- tels. "We are it is going through and that are the ones to have Mrs. Christie said. "We feel we are doing a service for the commu- nity, one that is needed.'1 The role of the YWCA in the project is that of a lessor. The city is funding lh.2 building and the federal government is fund- ing the staff. An advisory committee, con- sisting of Gregor Carleton, a Lethbridge lawyer; Kenneth H. Moriyama, a local chartered accountant; G. J. Grintals, of the provincial Department of Health and Social Develop- ment; Judy Burgess, co-ordina- tor of the Birth Control and In- formation Centre; and Ian Mor- rison, a community worker, are responsible for the operation and for liaison between staff and community.-Daniel McCaw is the staff director. In funding the project, the federal government stipulates an overnight charge of 50 cents. It also stipulates that there be no liquor, drugs or j weapons on the premises and I that there be segregated quar- gvery day a until 4 p.m. and will have one or two staff members on duty during all open hours. "I still thought that drinking too much was a moral prob- Kathy said. "I didn't tell my doctor when I was getting off a bender. I'd much rather he thought me a mental case than tell him I was drinking. "I lived in hell." she said simply. ''I could see my life turning into nothing see I was destroying myself, my chil- dren and my parents. I just couldn't stop. "I still had to drink: no mat- ter how disgusting I was, no matter how sick. I don't know why! "Why isn't important any Kathy said. forgave myself, and I started to get bet- ter. Accepting the AA way of life was no easy task. "I think it's probably the hardest thing I ever did in my life. Kathy grimaced. "Learning about yourself she said. "The easiest part of the AA program is to put the glass down." Probably because Kathy and her husband are both members of AA, the program is discuss- ed openly in their home. "There are no she said, "so the children probably live the program as much as we do. Mary said that her nue-year- old knows his father and moth- er are alcoholics and remem- bers when his father was 'prac- tising'. "We don't have alcohol in our she explained. "We have had occasions when some- one brings it into the house, and he'll look at me and look at his Dad, and he'll head out the door "You think they forget." Kathy said, "but they don't. Our oldest girl it was months before she really believed it when I said I wasn't drinking. "Probably the nicest thing in my Kathy said, "is I'm not envious. I'm just so thank- ful to have my family and a husband who is concerned about me. "People who have so much and never jeopardize it just don't realize what they've got. "You put all that in jeopardy and get a second said Kathy in awe. That's really some- thing. Mary Kaitiy were borrowed specifically for this THE BETTER HALF By Barnes Yd like slightly crisp bacon, soft scrambled eggs, end light brown toast. But I'll settle for ihe usual." HELP US TO HELP OTHERS! 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