Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - May 4, 1970, Lethbridge, Alberta
Mlndoy, May 4, THE UtTHHIDGE HERALD 13 Ann Landers DEAR ANN LANDERS: My eon who is a college freshman doesn't know it but I learned, by accident, that he not only uses marijuana but is selling the stuff to his class- mates. Yesterday I discovered lie has introduced his younger brother to it. If my husband knew about this he would kill the kid. I am so torn up I can't eat or sleep. Please tell me what to do. Frantic Mother. DEAR MOTHER: You need two things information and courage. Learn from a lawyer the penalties for possess- ing and selling marijuana in your state. Then speak to your son (the pusher) calmly and firmly. No hysterics. Explain what he is letting himself in for if he is caught. Let him know there will be no pot in your house and if he insists on smoking he will have to get out. If he says, "The law is on my side. I'm a minor and I don't hlave to get tell him: "If you want to get technical, I can get technical, too. If I catch you smoking pot in this house I will turn you over to the juvenile authorities." If push comes to shove, make good the threat. Then speak to his brother and explain the dangers of pot. Encour- age him to talk to your family doctor or to a school authority. You don't say how old the younger brother is. If he is not yet in high school, be aware that most junior high schools now have trained counsellors who do a fine job. And good luck to you dear and to all others who have to face this problem. It's one of the roughest. DEAR ANN LANDERS: I'm enjoying your running battle on pornography. The reader who observed that some very bright people enjoy it was an understatement, to say the least. And this is the only part of the story. Are you aware feat one of this country's most distinguished Ameri- cans also enjoyed peep shows? Would you believe Oliver Wendell Holmes? You can print this without fear of being sued by his relatives because it is a matter of record. Look it up any Old Historian. DEAR OLD HISTORIAN: "The record" says nothing about peep shows. It is a well known fact, however, that the distinguished Supreme Court Justice occupied a regular seat at the Gayety Theater in Washington, D.C. And just to keep the record1 straight, Dad, burlesque in those _ days showed less than can now be seen at any soda fountain, or 'on any bus. DEAR ANN LANDERS: Jerry and I were married 15 months ago. I was 17. He was 19. We went steady for two years and it was heaven. Last night Jerry told me he wants a divorce. I asked why. He said, "Because I hate being tied down. Marriage is like jail." I've been crying all day and can't stop. My hands are so ahaky I caii't hold this pen. My folks were against our get- ting married so young. So were Jerry's. How tan I face them? I'm afraid Jerry is mixed up with a girl who works with him. She is divorced and very sexy. What can I Of DEAR OUT: From the sound of your letter I'm not opti- mistic about your chances to salvage the marriage. Talk to the clergyman who married you. Perhaps he can help. Are you listening, students? What French1 kissing? b it wrong? Who should set the necking limits the boy or the girl? Can a- shotgun wedding succeed? Read Ann Landers' booklet, "Teen-Age Sex Ten Ways to Cool It." Send 50 cents In coin and m long, self-addressed, stamped STRAWBERRY TEA WED., MAY 6th, 2 to 4.30 p.m. Moose Home 1234 3rd Ave. N. BINGO-BAKE TABLE-DOOR PRIZE ADMISSION Sponsored by WOMEN OF THE MOOSE Got a money problem? Bring it to us! We'll be happy to lend you the money you need for paying bills... buying a car... fix- ing up your home... or solving any other problem. For a promptJoan on terms your budget can handle, borrow with confidence from Household. Apply for your loan by phont. We'll supply your loan by mail. MOUNT Of II 41 II mtullH i 11 a meitlu J6.12 H.35 32.86 a in till IBDt HDD HOC UN 28.37 51.24 91.56 92.59 123.46 113.31 151.17 Mid Jnhml tn4 w HOUSEHOLD Fl UTNMHBM KM-4NI Avinut Soutti-Ttkphoiw J27-1511 Ask about our evening hours Troublemakers Pose Threat Teachers Need Solution By JEAN SHARP CP Women's Editor TORONTO (CP) chronic troublemakers should be allowed to leave school when they are 14. Teachers say some solution will have to be found for deal- ing with them. They contend that in the climate of increas- ing freedom in schools, such students are expensive. They cost the time of other stu- dents, the money that tune costs taxpayers, they are re- sponsible for theft and de-. struction and sometimes for moral and physical damage to other people. Teachers say allowing them to leave is not the irrevocable act it once was. They may be able to go back to school later. .Some have, and are considered interesting people to have in a classroom. Two teachers and an admin- istrator in the Metropolitan Toronto school system talked in anonymous interviews about what it is like to be a teacher now. They agreed that in a com- paratively permissive social and school atmosphere, the disruptive student looms larger than he did hi a strict, authoritarian school setting. The teachers say they enjoy the new freedom and the stu- dents, but with less authority invested in the teacher and school staff, they feel some way must be found to deal with the problem children. "The normal kids are fine. I like the kids. They object as strongly as we do to the small group of selHeclared out- laws. Letting this run loose al- lows a small minority to make the whole system run scared: "It poses a threat, a reac- tion to a newer, freer system of education. We don't want to go back to strapping the kids. "The time to talk about it is when you can do something modest. You don't wait until someone has been killed in an accident before you put up a red light. "Parents don't -realize what they are doing when they leap to the defence of some of them." The administrator says the problem is real, but he does not think sn earlier leaving age is a solution. "We must develop ap- proaches, strategies that will Uy oLocal The Oldman River Potter's Guild will meet in the Potter's Room, Bowman Centre, Tues- day at p.m. Featured will be a special film and slide ex- hibition. t. Mary's Anglican Church Women will meet hi the parish hall at p.m. on Tuesday. Mrs. C. Ryan will be hostess. St. Patrick's CWL will hold its monthly meeting on Wednesday with mass at 8 p.m. in St. Patrick's Church. Instal- lation of officers will take place after the mass. The general meeting will follow in the rec- tory meeting room. Members are reminded that May is n, 'own Bride-elect Miss Peggie Me- Dennett was honored by 35 women of the Hope Reform Church at a bridal shower. Hostesses were Mrs. Sharon Voort and Mrs. Hennie Van den Lenden. The bride-elect was as- sisted in the opening of her gifts by Mrs. Voort and Miss PeMe. Mr. and Mrs. Me Hustad were hosts recently at the Park Plaza Hotel in honor of Mr. rlustad's 92nd birthday. Guests Deluded their son-in-law and daughter, Mr. and Mrs. Geoff "Patsy) De Boer, and grand- daughters Dawn end Leona; and Mr. end Mrs. Ed1 McMil- an. Mr. Hustad is pioneer of he Clareshoun area. HIGHEST AWARD MONTREAL (CP) The Beaver Award, highest award given by the Girl Guides of Can- ida, has been presented to Mrs. ttugh Starkey of Montreal, retir- ng provincial commissioner of the province of Quebec. The award was given at the annual meeting of the provincial asso- ciation in Montreal April 3. Refrigerators 3 tablespoons of Cow Bnmd per quirt of water will clean refrigerators remort film and stains, absorb unpleasant odon. Recommended by the refrigerator COW BRAND i soii membership month and, dues should be paid as soon as pos- sible to Mrs. J. Lacey, 327-4820. The regular meeting of the Victoria Lodge No. 116 will be held Tuesday in the Scouts' Hall, 3 Ave. S. at 8 p.m. Hostesses are Sisters E. Usher- wood and A. Ryan. The last meeting of the local associations of brownies guides and rangers will be held Tues- day at 8 p.m. in the home of Mrs. P. Nicas, 1243 6 Ave. S. The Lethbridge Womens In- stitue will hold its sewing meet- ing at the home of Mrs. J. Black on Wednesday at p.m. Tea Hostesses: Mrs. J. Black and Mrs. D., Anderson. Women of the Moose, Leth- bridge No. 328, will hold their regular' chapter night meeting on Tuesday, at 8 p.m., in the Moose Home. The membership committee will have the pro- gram. All co-workers are asked to turn hi their tickets for the tea draw. Plans for the tea will also be finalized. Green Acres Lodge will hold its 10th annual tea bazaar and bake sale on Wednesday from 2 to p.m. There will be a door prize. Everyone is wel- Ladies Aid of St. Peter and Catholic its regular St. Pauls Greek Church will hold meeting on Tuesday at 8 p.m. Hostesses for the evening will be Mrs. J. Kundrik and Mrs. G. Mihalik. get kids. We must find out what it is they're having trou- ble with. Is it the bells, the boredom, their families? "We must find some way In which the child can continue to learn. Maybe he's removed from classes or the school structure, but he's still .en- gaged with a counsellor, still learning." GET NO BACKING The teachers', professional association has been discuss- ing the problem with the in- tention of talking it over with school administrators and with the hope of making the public aware of how severe it is. They say they feel they get little backing from school boards or administrators if they want to remove a student and a parent howls that his child's.right to an education is being threatened. They say they get no backing from most parents of problem stu- dents because these are usually problem parents. Without a return to heavy- handed authoritarianism, they say they would like a clearly defined policy. "For instance, the standard of dress became silly when fashion changed. We made fools of ourselves if we tried to enforce it. A kid figures if he got away that one, maybe he should try some- thing else. "Students get a lot of rules they know aren't enforced. How are they to know which ones SINK OR SWIM They feel there must be some revision in the "half-se- cret percentage of passes nec- essary." "The student has a certain amount of freedom now, and the teacher, has no authority to make hini keep up in his work. "Surely with this goes the right also to sink or swim. Don't force teachers to pass 85 per cent of the students. The kids know we must, and it's a. joke. Most teachers have the experience of a kid saying, 'Aw, you can't fail me anyway.' "In our society everybody's conscious of freedoms, but surely the value of gaining privileges on the basis of demonstrated ability has been proven. "Freedoms should have some relation to the people to whom they are given." OLD PAYMENT ST. JOSEPH, Mo. (AP) Mrs. Manly Witt of St. Joseph received a letter' from Gower, Mo. recently. In it she found in currency and >n unsigned note which said the money was to payment for an "old doctor bill." Mrs. Witt's father was Dr. J. C. Guinn who practised medi- cine to Gower for many He died 32 years ago. Victoria! Order Of Nurses Annual Meet, May 7-8 CUT-OUT AND PIPED IN WHITE-Two suits in a stretch fabric of "Antron" nylon by Maxine of Hollywood feature the bare look for '70. The swim tunic over bikini pant is vented to the empire waist line, piped In white and sprink- led with daisies for an airy summer effect. Featuring cutaway sides and back, the second suit is ribtextured in ottoman fabric. THE BETTER HALF By Bob Barnes "If you're up to removing some arrows and paint-- ing out the words, 'California or we do have something in your price range." YWCA News Ladies keep fit and swim classes will be held as follows: Monday keep 'it: 7 to 8 p.m., 8 to 9 p.m., swim: 8 to 9 p.m., 9 to 10 p.m.. 'I'uesday and Thursday morning keep fit: to a.m. swim: to a.m. Please note that for the balance of this session keep fit classes will be held at a different location on account of the Civic Spoils Centre being closed for renovations. Tuesday and Thursday morning classes and babysitting will be held at South'minster church hall, Mon- day evening classes in the west room at the Bowman Arts Cen- tre. All swim classes at the Fritz Sick Pool as usual. Babysitting provided for all morning classes. Agnes Davidson Blue Tri- angles will hold a candy carni- val at the school on Tuesday from to p.m.. All other Blue Triangles and Deb Teens are now finished for tJiis term. English classes will be held at the north side library on Wednesday from 2 to p.m.. LA. TO F.O.E. BINGO Monday, May 4th JACKPOT NOS. "20 ALARM BINGO" Gold Card Payi Door Cardl (Many other extral) Regular Cards 25c or 5 for I3lh SI and 6th Ave. 'A' N. No children under 16 allowid Summer Auditions MONTREAL (CP) Annual auditions for the National Thea- tre School take place in every major Canadian city from St. John's, Nfld., to Vancouver each summer. Candidates must have completed high school and be between the ages of 17 and 23. The acting course is three years while the production sec- tion is two years with an op- tional third year. O.O.R.P. TEA WED., MAY 6th-2-5 p.m. ELKS CLUB BAKE TABLE RAFFLE DOOR PRIZE ADMISSION CHILDREN FREI Sponsored by ORDER OF ROYAt PURPIE LETHBRIDGE LODGE WINNIPEG (CP) Theme of the annual meeting of the Victorian Order of Nurses here May 7-8 will be development of an effective partnership for better health services between governments, hospitals, volun- teer agencies and the public. Speakers at the meeting will include Dr. V. L. Matthews, head of the Department of Pre- ventive and Social Medicine at University of Saskatchewan; Jessie Williamson, director of Public Health Nursing of the Manitoba Department of Health and Welfare; Lloyd Lenton 'of the Community Wel- fare Planning Council in Winni- peg; Mary Gibbon, district di- rector of the Guelph-Weffing- ton-Dufferin Branch of the VON; and F. W. Lamb, presi- Learn to help your family through prayer to Ihta ChrMlan "THI FAMILY OF MAN" by Harold C.S. niHDAY, MAY Jth p.m. If. Puritll Hull -llth St. and 4th I. 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