Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - June 28, 1974, Lethbridge, Alberta
Friday, 28, 1974 THE LETHBRIDGE HERALD Ann Landers Doctors' pig' ideas destroy marriages Dear Ann Landers: I'm a fool to write this letter. You'll never print it. Everyone knows you are in the hip pocket of the physicians and psychiatrists, but here goes anyway. My particular subject is "Psychiatric Help." It's nothing but a jungle of quacks, incompetents, and counsellors who are crazier than their patients. Under the guidance of two therapists, I exerpienced two divorces and have seen my daughter turn so trashy and foul-mouthed that when she left home, I was relieved. According to my first psychiatrist I needed treatment for "a childish need to be dependent." The symptom: My husband spent (by actual count) 67 hours a week at home, including sleeping. The rest of the time he was out carousing around. My therapist told me I exhibited a pathological dependence by bothering my husband with such details as, "Should we have the children's tonsils I was informed that I was creating a feeling of "mistrust" in my daughter (age 13) because I told her I was appalled by her sneaking out of the house after the family had gone to bed and wouldn't stand for it. After several months of therapy (at and an hour) I was made to feel that my judgment was faulty and that I had created most of my own problems because of some "inadequacy in my personality." When I asked my therapist, after four years, "How long will I have to be in he replied, "How -long did it take you to get PUBLIC BINGO _ 16 GAMES BLACKOUT (Played Until Won) LETHBRIDGE ELKS LODGE ROOM (Upttairt) EVERY THURS.-8 p.m. I wondered if that meant that because I was 44 I could look forward to another 40 years of treatment. I am not trying to make it appear there is nothing wrong with me. There is plenty wrong, which is why I got into this whole psychotherapy mess in the first place. The point is that finding a therapist with competence, compassion and common sense is so chancy that a person is probably just as well off to talk to himself and it would be a lot cheaper. Sign me Crazy As Ever But A Lot Smarter Dear Smarter: Psychiatry has done beautifully for some, very little for others, and has been downright destructive for those who fell into the wrong hands. Of course there are some nutty psychiatrists. In fact, some of them selected the field in search of solutions to their own problems. Your mistake was staying too long with therapists who weren't helping. Don't damn the entire profession because you drew a couple of losers. For many patients, therapy has been a life-saving experience, and I've received hundreds of letters to prove it. Dear Ann Landers: My husband keeps nagging me to get a facelift. I am 47 and think I look pretty good. He talks incessantly about a woman in his office who had her face done and looks 20 years younger. I don't want to spend the money, take .the time off from work, or go through the pain. Yet, if it means so 'much to him, maybe I should. What do you say? L.S. Dear L.S.: It's your face and your husband has no right to pressure you into a lift if you don't want one. Furthermore, not all lifts come out peachy-keen. I've talked to many women who are sorry they messed around. And bear in mind, the results are not permanent. The best lifts last only five or six years at the most. IT'S NOTHING NEW Skiing dates back to 2500 B.C. By MANFRED JAGER Special to The Herald TORONTO Women in general, and particularly the wives of physicians, must raise their sons and daughters differently than they themselves were raised, the head of the Ontario government's status of women council told 250 doctors' wives here this week. In fact, if they don't, Laura Sabia said during a meeting held in conjunction with the 107th annual convention of the Canadian Medical Association in the Royal York Hotel, they'll just perpetuate an evil which has led to a particularly high divorce rate among members of the medical profession male chauvinism. Women need three things, said Mrs. Sabia: equal oppor- tunity, equal responsibility and equal that order. And in time they'll get it, even though it may take a while for them to break out of their traditional subservient role. Interviewed after her address, Mrs. Sabia said doctors "tend to be chauvinist pigs, to be quite blunt about it. "They are used to their role as the all-important male in the hospital, assisted by subservient nurses and other female personnel and they tend to bring that role and status over in the home, where more and more wives find it harder and harder to accept is why the divorce and broken marriage rate in doctors' families is so high." For years women have been considered "handmaidens, misbegotten males and castrating bitches" by ancient philoso- phy, the medieval church and modern male chauvinism re- spectively, said Mrs. Sabia, making it very difficult to wrest them out of the inferior self-image that has been with them for so long. "I find it much, much easier to convert men to women's lib- eration than women Mrs. Sabia said. She predicted "tremendous changes in the next 10 years in all areas of women's involvement in society. We must keep the ball rolling now, because it is rolling very well.' She said Christianity has been the greatest deterent to the advancement of women's rights. "Just look at the maleness of the church from time immemo- rial. There are no women to be seen anywhere. Popes, cardi- nals and bishops have been making the most personal decisions about women's bodies without even asking the women, let alone making them together with women, they've told us we can't have contraceptives, can't have abortions. "Now we are not just to the church but to medi- cine as making these decisions ourselves from now on." Turning the subject to what she refers to as "sexterior typ- ing" of women, as in textbooks and advertising, Mrs. Sabia said: "It's an abomination of desolation. It is incredible to me and always has been, that we've allowed it. "Everything today is sold over the body of a naked woman and when 1 complained about this in a television debate with Charles Templeton, he told me the reason for this is that men love the sight of female nudity. "When I told him that he should then accept the fact that many of us like to look at men's crotches, too, he became very embarrassed and the discussion didn't last very much longer." Mrs. Sabia added: "I can sum it all up by saying to the male world 'love us less and give us more, damn it." If Canada had a woman prime minister aged 53, said Mrs. Sabia, and she went to Vancouver one day to marry a 22-year- old man, "They'd be starting impeachment procedures against her by the time she got back to Ottawa and the men would try to make sure she was finished in politics. "Yet when our male prime minister did this very thing, the people admired him for it and said 'isn't he virile.' "Well, the fact is that it .would be a much more dramatic demonstration of female virility if it happened the other way it would never be recognized for this as things stand now. "That's why things have to change." THE BETTER HALF By Barnes Fall fashion outlook undecided "I've decided to strike back if the boss doesn't okay my pay raise-today, I'm going to invite him home for i Club corner notesj A calling reception will be held from 5 to 7 p.m. Sunday at the home of Mr. and Mrs. T. C. (Bill) Heninger of Aetna in honor of Mr. and Mrs. David H. Heninger (nee Marilyn Johnson) who were married June 8 in Calgary. Friends and neighbors are invited. 'The Minus One Club will hold a family picnic beginning at noon Sunday in Indian Battle Park. Members are asked to bring refreshments for the group. Coffee, pop, ice cream, plates and cups will be supplied by the club. GAMES DATE BACK The first known Olympiad was held in 776 B.C. NEW YORK (CP) Acces- sories may find difficulty steering the perfect course between the two fall fashion moods. The trendy new look runs to bulk, but many of the more conservative houses are resisting the big skirt, tent- type coats and the droop shoulder. They are continuing last season's ladylike elegance with even more conservative restraint. Accessory firms seem to have decided to play it safe. You'll find head-hugging hats and big droopy brims, neat small handbags and big totes, narrow belts and wider widths. However, shoes have made a firm stand on two details. High platforms are definitely out and higher heels are definitely in. So what accessories go with what styling? Certainly a small tight-fitting hat isn't compatible with a big bulky costume. You need some counterweight, otherwise your head and face become insignificant. On the other hand, a bulky, big-brimmed hat on top of a big bulky costume makes you topheavy. If you're buying into this new big-skirted, blouson-top look, buy the clothes first and then wear them when you shop for a hat, a handbag and even for shoes. The bulky look demands a total commitment. If you're following the more streamlined, ladylike look, you have more choice. You can achieve a bulky accessory look to keep you in the fashion picture with a large tote bag or a big-brimmed hat. Or you can remain entirely in the classic mood with a trim envelope bag and a nostalgic cloche hat. In the fall millinery show previewed during the New York Couture Business Council's press fashion week, every type of brim appeared on the runway, opening the fall scene with a giant fedora in soft moss green felt by Mr. John. There was also a safari front-dip brim, a skimmer and a huge padre type. But all the evening hats .were small and close-fitting, mostly with small veils and glitter. Mufflers and scarves also play their part in the fall scene. Long knit mufflers can add more bulk tor those who like a really big look. Scarves add another dimension to casual clothes and, long and fringed, add glamor to evening occasions. In handbags, there's a strong emphasis on handbag hardware, says Moskowitz, and he showed several bags with burnished metal luggage locks. He also has designed a miniature "doctor" bag, to be carried especially with capes. Another fast-moving fashion accessory is attache cases for the growing number of business women. 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