Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - June 17, 1972, Lethbridge, Alberta
Junt 17, THf HTHMICOI KWMD t Ann Landers DEAR ANN LANDERS: My ex-boyfriend is Involved with my mother. The reason he Is my ex Is becaust didn't treat right and I told him to get lost. My mother is In her late 30's and divorced. My ex-boy- friend is 19. When we were dating he used to tell Mom his troubles and she gave him advice. I thought when we broke up that would be the end of ft but he still comes over to see Mom. I can't stand to be around them. I guess It was pretty dumb of me not to notice (here was more between them than "motherly advice." The guy has spent time in a mental hospital I know he's a little off but I thought my mother had more than to fool around with a Md young enough to her son. What should I do? It's beginning to get to me. Wit's End DEAK WIT'S: You can do nothing about your mother's company. But if you can't stand to be around them, there IS something you can do about that. When the ex shows up, make yourself scarce. What is really needed here is a therapist with two couches. Your mother could use some help, too. DEAR ANN LANDERS: I am an average middle-class woman with a nice husband. Ho has a small business, we own a modest home and have no big worries. Our only child is six years old and I am pretty certain we will not have more children. The question I am writing about may sound peculiar but I need an answer. If something should happen to both my husband and me, is there a law that says an orphaned child must be raised by a relative? I have one living parent) and my husband has one also. Neither would be a suitable guardian for our cliild. My sisters have not done a very good job with their children and my husband's sister has four kids she didn't want and It shows. Unfortunately we did not name godparents when our child was born. Is it too late to do so? Would godparents be the answer? Pleas a give me some guidance. This thing has been preying on my mind for over a year. Battle Creek DEAK B.C.: Godparents have no legal obligations. My advice is to make a choice, discuss it with whomever you've chosen and learn if they are willing to accept the responsi- bility. If so, make a will and state your wishes In writing. In the absence of a will, your child would probably be placed in the home of relatives. DEAR ANN LANDERS: I am 18 years of age and a re- cording artist with a trio. My career is real groove 10 not the problem. What I am writing about Is my boyfriend. Clyde and I have been going together for two years and I love him more than anybody In the whole world. The trouble Is that Clyde is an Aries very aggressive, jealous, and likes to boss me around. Ha has a hot temper and punches me whenever I say something he doesn't like. This interferes with my public appearances because make-up can cover the black and blue marks only so much. I should tell you that I lie to him sometimes, not to hide anything but because I figure what he doesn't know can't hurt him, or me. When he finds out I haven't told him the truth he gets like wild. The problem is that I ttan't live WITH him and I can't live without him. Please don't tell me to find somebody else. Clyde is perfect except for the few little faults I've mentioned. What should I do Chickadee Dotsy DEAR CHICK: You don't want advice. already told me what NOT to tell you. You just wanted to write a letter and now that written it I hope you feel better. HELP US TO HaP OTHERSI The Salvation Army Welfare Services Clothing, Furniture, Toyt, Household Effect. CALL 328-286O FOR PICKUPSMV1CI OK LEAVE AT 412 lit AVE. S. Forthcoming marriages IT'S WOMAN'S WORK Dorothy Purdue operates n seed drill at the Red Rock tree nursery and research centre in Prince George, B.C. Women comprise about 80 per cent of the staff. They plant, cultivate, lift, pack and sort seedlings for shipment to ranger districts throughout central B.C. (CP Photo) Sensitivity training for men to improve status of women Mr. and Mrs. B. A. (Buzz) R i s 1 e r of Lethbridge are pleased to announce the forth- coming marriage of their only daughter, Judy Colleen, to Mr. Kenneth Robert Moraes, of Calgary, only son of Mr. and Mrs. Stanley G. Moraes of Lethbridge. The wedding will take place on July 22 at 4 p.m. In St. Au- gustine's Anglican Church. Mr. and Mrs. Robert Huttoa of Lethbridge are pleased to announce the forthcoming mar- riage of their daughter, Linda Diane, to Mr. John Charles Thompson, son of Mr. and Mrs. Richard Thompson of Fore- most. The wedding will take place pn July 1 at S p.m. in St. gustlne's Church' Mr. Lloyd Bradford of Leth- bridge and Mrs. Rose Bradford of Edmonton, proudly announce the forthcoming marriage of their daughter, Glennis Kim, to Mr. Francis Wayne Senile, son of Mr. and Mrs. Frank Schile of Foremost, The wedding is to take place on June 23 at 2 p.m. in St. Basil's Roman Catholic Church, Lelhbrldge. Mr. and Mrs. A. D. Mellom ol Castor, are pleased to an nounce the forthcoming mar riage of their daughter Linda Eileen, to Mr. Lawrence Frank Virostek, son of Mr. and Mrs Sam Virostek, of Enchant. The wedding will take place on July 15 at p.m. in Me Killop United Church, Leth bridge. Mr. and Mrs. Date F. Clifton of Taber, wish to announce th engagement and forthcoming larriage of their daughter, Di- ne to Mr. Donald L. Hall- :rom, son of Mr. and ames E. Hallstrom of Hono- ulu, Hawaii. The wedding will be sokm- ized on July 22 in the Alberta Temple, Cardston. Mrs. Joan Heppell Is pleased o announce the forthcoming marriage of her younger daugtv er, Susan Elizabeth, to Mr. R. 3ruce Scott, son of Mr. and Mrs. Gaylen Scott of Mosslelgh. The wedding will take on July 8 at p.m. In Mc- Klllop United Church. Mr. and Mrs. George Lothian ol Lethbridge are pleased to announce the engagement and forthcoming marriage of their only daughter, Sandra Phyllis to Mr. Richard James Blakeley, son of Mr. and Mrs. Phillip E. Blakeley, also of Lethbridge. The wedding will take place at 4 p.m. on August I9th in the Central Church of Christ. Engagements announced Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Weer- stra take pleasure in announc- ing the engagement of their ildest daughter, Wendy Lynn to Mr. David Paul Graveland, son jf Mr. and Mrs. Henry Grave- .and, all of Granum. The wedding Is to take place on August 5 in the Granum United Church. Mr. and Mrs. John Blair wish to announce the engage- ment of their daughter, Neva Luanne to Mr. Robert John McNab, son of Mr. and Mrs. Victor NcNab, all of Leth- bridge. The wedding will take place on August 12 at 6 p.m. at Our Lady of Assumption Church. Mr. and Mrs. Wayne Gough wish to announce the engage- ment of their daughter, Gladys Ann, to Mr. Alan Wayne Litch- fleld, son of Mr. and Mrs. Bert Litcnfield of Calgary. The marriage will take place on July 15 in the Alberta Tenv pie, Cardston. pleased to announce the en- gagement of their only daugh- er, Barbara Anne, to Mr. For- rest Herman Christensen, son of Mr. and Mrs. Heber Chris- ensen of Magrath. The wedding will take place on August 5 at p.m. in the mmanuel Lutheran Church. Mr. and Mrs. William R. Kennedy of Red Deer, formerly if Lethbridge, wish to announce he engagement of their daughter, Laurel Ann, to Mr. Albert William Foord, son of Dr. and Mrs. Wilfred H. Foord, of Red Deer. The wedding is to take place on August 5 at 4 p.m. in St. M a r y's Roman Catholic Church, Red Deer. Mr. and Mrs. George Allen of Lethbridge UNITED NATIONS (AP) Karen Jones, secretary, wife and mother of two, sat in a UN coffee shop and announced that she was tired of being treated like a piece of furniture around the office. 'Another, thing I don't she continued, "is to walk up to a man and have him inter- rupt and say, 'Oh, how nice you look or 'What a lovely Ecarf." Mrs. Jones that isn't her real name is part of a group seeking to change women's status at the United Nations. As an employer, they say, the United Nations is not set- ting standards due an or- ganization with a charter and any number of resolutions af- firming the equality of men and women. They talk about rules and also the little things which annoy them in male-female office relations. MEET THE AUTHOR MONDAY, JUNE 19 HOWARD PALMER WHO WILL BE AVAILABLE TO DISCUSS ANO AUTOGRAPH HIS NEWLY PUBLISHED BOOK, AT THE HOUSE OF BOOKS 319 8th Street South MONDAY, JUNE 19 2 to 4 P.M. ON SALE NOW LAND OF THE SECOND CHANCE Is than o chronicle of names, datel and To quota from the Introduction, ''The story of immigra- tion of people uprooting them- selves and trying to make their way In entirely new circumstances and itory of the struggle of minorily groupi for survival are among that most profound dramas in human his- tory Thfs 288 page paperback contains maps, on annotated bibliography on groups in Alberta, a compre- hensive Index and a Foreword by Jean ChaTrmon of the sociology de- partment of Glendon College In Tor- enfo and a specialist on Canadian groups. Several professional women, ay that the first time a woman walks onto the floor of a con- erenco the men presume she B a she is ild. One observes: "It used to wlher me. But then I decided t was just my prejudice against that kind of work." OFFERED LOWLY JOB A woman with 10 years' working experience alter col- ego recalled the time she olned the United Nations. A wrsonnel officer gave as a lason for offering her a lower rank than she wanted: "You're only a wife." Anolher told of. a female field officer who developed good re- ations with the government of the small, developing coun- try where she was. posted. The rumor spread among men at the headquarters that her suc- cess came from sharing the 'oreign minister's bed. 'Maybe it's time for sensi- tivity training for sug- gested one woman. Many of the women's lead- era say they have little hope ol major changes and blame it on the attitudes of the Third World the loose coalition of developing countries in Asii Africa and Latin America which dominates the UN vote and currently has preference In hiring policies. The aroused women are em- ployees those who work as international civil servants In the huge UN bureaucracy here and around the world, doing the papar work and research for the 132 national delegations which meet to debate and vote. WOMEN INCLUDED Most countries include one or more women in their dele- gations to the General Assem- bly each fall, but the UN women employees do not ex- pect much help from them Women delegates usually are assigned by their governments to the social, humanitarian am cultural committee the 'ladies' committee" of the seven main assembly bodies and one of the least influential The Nordic countries, Bri tain and China are among the few which regularly assign women delegates to the more important political and econo- mic committees. The Unitet States does not, and the cur rent Soviet delegation lacks any woman of diplomatic rank The focal point of the move- ment among women employees is called the Ad Hoc Group on Equal Rights. Its meetings draw fewer than 100 women but leaders soy most profes sional women on the staf support them in principle. The group comes from many coun tries with clothing tastes which range from saris to clingy knits but most of thi activists are North American and Western European. The group works mainly on what it considers discrimina lory conditions of employment. One of them involves home leave. UN professional staf members can visit their homi countries every two years. Mar ried men may take their fam ilies at UN expense. Marriec women may not. Another gripe: the widow ol male employee automatical- i collects his entire pension; widower of a female em- loyee gets only what she has aid into the plan, without the Hatching sum from the United Nations. Another goal of the Ad Hoc 'roup Is the promotion of more women into the higher jrofessional categories. love putting alt your picnic litter in the trash can. Romance., Yugoslav style: newlyiveds to plant trees BELGRADE (Reuter) Weddings in this Yugoslav capi- tal may coon be more romantic and, one Belgrade newspaper, which has the largest circulation ji the country, has suggested that a "Newly-Wed's Park" should be set up to the country. After each wedding at a registry of- fice, the couple would plant a tree in the park. The idea has received a wide response and a number of read- ers have sent in suggestions to improve it. An official the "GoranT Young Mountaineers Movement a sort of Yugoslav version of the boy they would help couples plant the trees and instruct them about their care. And one couple, who were preparing for their 30th anniver- sary, said they would like to plant a tree of their own. A hotel official suggested that restaurants could give meals at special reduced prices to cou- ples who have just planted a tree. After the Second World War, the Communist authorities imposed obligatory civil wed- dings in place of church wed- dings which then became op- tional. The ceremonies were dreary and stern affairs with registrars reading pass'ages from the marriage law. love were frowned was the case in Many persons objected to the name "registration" instead of saying It sounded pedestrian and unromaotic. Dis- plays of jpon, as many other Communist coun- tries. It was only about 10 years ago that the authorities accepted the idea that a wedding is a roman fie event. Efforts were made to brighten up the scene with lots of flow ers, more ceremonial and pho- tographers taking pictures White bridal dresses, formerly associated only with church weddings, becama almost the rule again. will pi VUmto _- scientificatry advanced, nutritionally sound Weight program can help you shed those pre-summer SK Augustine's Anglican Church Uth Street and 4th Avenue 5. 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