Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - July 31, 1973, Lethbridge, Alberta
Ann Landers DEAR ANN LANDERS: Four years ago we moved to Albuquerque. We have a love- ly adobe house with a spa- cious back yard and the air is fresh and invigorating. My parents, who live in a small apartment in the heart of Newark, have been driving out every August to spend a week with us. Before they poll up they always stop at a mar- ket, load the car with steaks, chops, fruits, vegetables and canned goods. They also in- sist on taking us to dinner at a fine restaurant the night be- fore they leave. One could hardly call them free-load- ers. My husband, Karl, starts knocking them mid July. After they leave I have to listen to his small dip for another two weeks. Neither Mom nor Dad has an ounce of malice in them. They are lovely, big-hearted people. I cant understand why Karl dislikes them. DEAR ANN LANDERS: Today I reached my 40th birthday. (I hesitate to use the word and I just read the letter signed "Living Proof." It was too much for one day. It's too late for me but it might help other young men if you would stop spreading fairy tales. 1 never bad a real date in my life. The few girls I asked turned me down. The reason I didn't try hard- er was because I believed, like "living that some day the right girl would come along and everything would turn out fine. Please tell them, Ann, that things don't turn out fine .un- less you work at it. No mat- ter bow frightening or, pain- His folks are a couple of sour apples. At our wedding his father and mother shook hands with me. I have never seen them kiss anyone. (1 often wondered how they hap- pened to produce Karl.) We have invited them to visit us a dozen times but they are too cheap to make the trip. Karl is beginning to com- plain about my folks because they are due here in a few weeks. What shall I say to him? DEAR MAE: Save your pipes and enjoy that lovely New Mexico air.. Nothing you say will make any dif- ference. That poor fish was probably hatched in a tank of ice-water and doesn't know what it is to have a warm family rela- tionship. He resents yours, which is why he keeps chip- ping away at it. Tune him out, honey. ful, they must continue to try for dates while they are young. They mustn't wait tiH it's too late, 4s I did. Living Proof DEAR LIVING: If you think you're going to get off the hook with a "Thank you for you're wrong. What makes you think it's too late? Forty is stfll young by today's standards. There are countless women who would just love to be asked out by a 40-year-old man who is sensitive and smart enough to write a letter like yours. So, my advice to you, Doll, is matter how frighten- ing or to try for dates while you're still young. DEAR ANN LANDERS: I have been extremely nervous for several months. I won't go into detail but there have been serious family pro- blems and illness. The doctor gave me some medication, that has been very helpful. The trouble is the medicine relaxes me to the point where I say anything that comes to my mind. It seems I have no judgment. Last evening a reception was held for a new couple who moved here. I didn't want to go but my doctor in- sists mat I socialize now and then, so I took an extra pill before leaving the house. I managed a few fairly intelB- gent words to the guests, and then I stepped into the re- ceiving hoe. When I met the newcomer I blurted out, "Ob, how pretty you as if she were a four-year-old child. That was all I said before I moved on. Now I feel like a fool. Should I write a note and apo- logize Texas DEAR AB: Definitely not. If you bad said, "Oh, how ugly you that would have been a different story. A compliment is always wel- come and I hope you won't spend another minute stewing about it. AFTERNOON BINGO MOOSE HAIL 1234 3 No. JACKPOT WON EVERY WEEK AISO FEATURE GAMES AND FREE CARDS SPONSORED BY THE WOMEN OF THE MOOSE CMMrtn Undtr Everybody MEACHERS MMHTH VODKA. Coming down the easy way Sliding down a hill might be a little hard on the shoes and pants, but ifs also the fastest and most fun way of covering the distance. The coulees provide interesting spots to visit during the long leisurely days of school vacation. On the downhill express is 14-year-old Bill Anderson of the city. Wife-beating legal on feudal island LONDON (Renter) Brit- ain's most militant women's magazine, Spare Rib, has at- tacked a feudal approach to women'on Sark, a tiny seg- ment of the British Channel Islands. The women's liberation monthly announced an edito- rial campaign designed to bring the women of the island into the 20th century. For more than four cen- turies, Sark women have been legally classified as chattels of their husbands. "It's said Rosie Boycott, 22-year-old news edi- tor of Spare Rib, whose seven-woman staff has offices just off Carnaby Street in the heart of London. "Attitudes to women on Ssrk are completely feudal, that's the only possible word, and we're sending three re- porters out there to bring back the Miss Boycott told Reuter. She said things have hardly changed in Sark since the. 14th century. Spare Rib's campaign was sparked when its editors heard that Sark's parliament, officially known as the Chief Pleas, had shelved plans to do Male teachers required OTTAWA (CP) Little boys need mate teachers so they can develop good self concepts, says Bayne Logan, an assistant pro- fessor at toe University of Ot- tawa. All boys are handicapped from the time they start school because they develop more slowly than girls, he says. Mate teachers are able to make them feel more comfortabh. "The influence of the teacher is simply awesome. I've just i completed a doctoral thesis to 1 show there's no other school in- j fluence to compare with it" He wants to conduct a study of the influence of men in the primary grades but has bit a snag. There aren't enough mate tractors in the lower grades to provide a valid sample for re- search. Dr. Logan thinks school boards should offer merit pay to primary teachers as a means of attracting more men. 'The primary grades are the most important in a child's en- tire school cBTOfen Here be is cilber made into a student or broken." His study would investigate to what extend boys identify with men and to vital extent male teachers affect their academic achievements. something about a property law for married women. Miss Boycott snorted when told that Sark's hereditary feudal ruler, 89-year-old Dame Sibyl Hathaway, bad not only proposed the investi- gation but looked sympa- thetically on the idea of an in- vestigation. "Simply not true, according to our Miss Boycott said. "Just think of the irony. Here is this feudal island, ruled by a woman, and women in the mass have no rights at all" Sark's population of 540 in- cludes a small group of mili- tants pressing for reform. On Sark there are no di- vorce or adoption laws. Le- gally, a wife owns no ting ex- cept trifling personal effects. Husbands are not only en- titled to any money their partners earn, they can beat moderation and without, drawing the women misbehave. John York, a settler from Britain heading a women's rights committee, called for changes allowing wives to dis- pose in their' wills of assets such 0s 'money, investments or furniture. York told Sark's Parliament there was no question of changes in Sark's ancient laws of inheritance. But die- hards objected to any dis- cussion. Packed into the tiny school- room that passes for the Sark Parliament's debating cham- ber, tourists listened in amazement aj flared. Hilary Carre clerk of the Parliament, asked angrily: "What has a wife to win? My wife and I worked together for. the things we have. These laws have worked well for 400 years." Malcolm Robson, one of 40 landowner members of Par- liament, said the laws may have been fine for four cen- turies, but they- are not effec- tive any longer. "A man has it all his own he said.- "He can play fast and loose and throw his wife into the garden if he wants to." A motion to postpone debate was carried by 19 votes to 12, with Dame Sibyl supporting deferment. calendar of local imp There will be a Christian Sci- ence public meeting held Wed- nesday at p.m. in the church auditorium, 1208 4th Ave. S. Everyone welcome. The Original Pensioners and Senior Citizens will be the guests of the Cranbrook organi- zation for Sam Steele Days, with a bus leaving August 11 at a.m. from the civic cen- tre. Members are reminded of the bus fee, and that all seats are filled for the trip. A thermos and light lunch should be brought along for the trip. A mid-day lunch will be pro- vided at Cranbrook and a tour of the city will be taken. THE BETTER HALF By Barnes "She out well-done. How come you're only medium WAIT FOR POLICE MONTREAL (CP) A of the times outside a small vil- lage on the Saguenay River reads as follows: "Atten'Jon. School. Don't rwi over OUT stu- derts. Watt for the police to rive." HEP US TO OTHERS! The Salvation Army Welfare Services Nvea Clothing, ruifiHuie, Toys, llouMltoM CAU J2S-2MO POR PICKUP jEtVKE OR HAVE AT 4'2 AVE. S. ALLIED ARTS COUNCIL SUMMER PROGRAM VACANCIES STtU .AVAILABLE IN OUR PAINTING CUSS 4-16 Yean Aug. 7-17, a.m. One woman settler said Sark women do not really want reform. "It's a matriarchal she explained. It's the wives who have the busi- ness heads. They rate their why Sark is one of nine Channel Islands lying between 10 and 30 miles off the northwest coast' of France. The islands, with a popu- lation of just over are the only portions of the an- cient duketom of Normandy still retained by the British Crown to which they were at- tached at the time, of the Nor- man conquest of igpgiand in 1066. TuMdoy, July 31, 1973 THE ItTHWIDOf HMA10 13 National unity for native women WINNIPEG (CP) After wo previous unsuccessful at- erapts, the National Native Women's Association has taken major step toward the cre- ation of an official national or- ganization. At its third annual confer- ence here recently, delegates approved a draft constitution to >e taken back to provincial or- ganizations for consideration. The'final document is expect- ed to be ready to be voted on within the next three to six months. The draft constitution lists be group's purposes as improv- ing the living and working con- ditions of native women, in- orming them of their legal, rights and cultural heritage and co-operating with other women's organizations with similar goals. Previous attempts to form a national organization for native women failed at meetings in Al- terta in 1971 and in Saskatch- ewan last year when group dif- ferences could not be recon- ciled. The cultural heritage of In- dians captured much of the con- ference's attention this year. Rufus Goodstrlker. who runs an all-Indian dude ranch in Al- berta, said in an interview that interest in Indian languages and religions is increasing. "For yean, we were drugged with white be said. "Now our culture is being re- vived, especially by the young who find that Christianity doesn't work for them." Elizabeth Locke, an observer on the advisory council on the status of women, expressed similar views." "Young people are asking their elders about religion and legend. There is a tremendous revival of the spiritual Indian she said. "Ten years ago, everyone thought the In- dian culture was going to die." PUBLIC BINGO 16 GAMES 2 JACKPOTS LETHBRIDGE ELKS LODGE ROOM (Upttofn) EVERY THURS.-8 p.m. BINGO LETHBRIDGE FISH ft GAME ASSOC. IN THE EAGLES HALL 13th St. N. 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