Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - July 11, 1972, Lethbridge, Alberta
Ann Landers DEAR ANN LANDIifiS. Two years ago 7 learned my husband was a homosexual and had teen one (or most of his life. Our marriage had hccn fairly compatible up to that lime We did have a sex lile, hut it was not very active or satisfactory. He asked [or a divorce because lie wanted to live with amUier miiii. When we told our parents we were separating they In- sisted that we gel counselling. The more we fought it the hard- er they pressed. They kept sa.vinfj, "You two belong together. 717 harder. You can make it My husband became .so frustrated he couldn't uork. He lo.st his job. 1 felt myself going to pieces. All the while my mullicr lieol reassuring, ''II a v e a baby! Have a His mo'.hcr called every day and beg- gEcl me to stand by litr son "in his hour of need.'1 Finally I told him 1 was going lo tell both his [oiks and mine the real sloi-y so they v.-ould leave us alone and we would be divorced. The next moi-nini! f found him dead in the garage from cxhat'sl fume inhalMiun. To Ihi? clay I have no one Hie li'ue story. But there's a moral here. When people announce I buy are splitting up, family and friends should accept their decision and leave them alono. Why must they know all the details before they can approve a divorce? I'm having a hard lime forgiving our parents for their counsel. Thanks For Your S'lonkier DSAR THANKS: Obviously you should have evil loose from both families and gone ahead wilh the divorce. The de- tails are nobody's business. Your mistake was thinking you needed their approval. DEAR AN'K LANDERS: A certain young lady who here owes me money not large amounts just dimes and quarters for snacks from the cafeteria. She says, "f'll pay you tomorrow" or. "Next time it will be on me." Tomorrow never comes and "next time'1 she's nowhere lo be seen. When an office collection is taken she asks me lo put Ihe money in for her then she gels her name OD the card and forgets to reimburse me. This girl is nice in every other way but I am sick of her cheaping out. I hale lo say "no" when she asks me lo bring her a ten-cenl cup of coffee from Ihe cafeleria. Am I being pelty? Should I overlook il? If nol. what does one say La Salle Street Small Loan Committee DEAR SAL: One says, "No charge for the delivery ser- vice, bul Ihe cosls a dime." As for those small "loans'' you should have kept the dales and amounts on a slip of paper. Now you can only work from memory and say, "Sorry, can'l advance you any more monev until you pay me what you owe me." DEAR ANN LANDERS: My husband's brother is a good-hearted person. He'd do anything in Ihe world lor us, but I hale to be in his company because of his filthy mouth. I don't know where he learned to talk so rotten. No one else in the family uses language like that His wife, who is a very refined lady, sits there like she Is deaf. She rioesnM even change the expression on her face. Even when bis mother is present he makes no attempt lo clean up his talk. I can'l undcrsland why his wife doesn't shut him up. Occasionally bis mother will sav, "Watch ytur mouth, Elmer.'1 J honestly think she doesn't realize some of lha words he uses are dirty. My husband has asked me lo invite his brother and his wife over more often hut I am afraid to have him when we entertain our friends. I feel guilty hut f don't know what lo to about it. Please advise. Red-Faced Sisteir-in-Law. DEAR SISTER: Have you ever told your brother-in-law to launder his language'' I mean REALLY told him? Some people assume Ibeir dirly talk is acceptable because no- body tells them otherwise. Elmer sounds as though he's got slipped cable somewhere between his mouth and his brain. If he's incurable, entertain him in a soundproof room sod don't invile anyone except the family. TiHirfov, July II, THE LETHBRIDGE HEUAID ivinot a A. little insanity a big help in solving family problems TORONTO (CPJ A little insanity may be a big help in' dealing wilh family problems, a Toronto psyrhialrist (old the ou AIN'T NATURE GRAND? She may be only four monilis old, bul Melanie Frayn seems to have mastered (he old one-lwo kick white doing Ihe back Parents Robert and Elsie Frayn decided il was time 1o teach lilHe daughler to swim, and Melanie found herself Ihe youngest student at Mom and Tot swim. Doing prely wouldn't you say? Groenen photo 'own Over fifty members of the Original Pensioners and Senior. Citizens Look parl in a picnic held recently at Henderson Lake Park. Potluck lunch was served, followed by several j games and a singsong lead by i I Mr. Halmrasl on the accord-. ion. Special foalure was present- ed by a group of children, dressed as Indians, who sang, danced and enlerlained Ihe i pensioners. Bingo was played following the concert, with bus transpor- j I Lation provided home by Ihe' city transit system. I More picnics and trips are lo 1 he planned for lire summer and I early autumn. AH members are i invited to attend. J Parents Wilhoul Partners con- vention Saturday, Dr. Peter Moore (old single parents, galhered here for the organization's annual meeting, he could speak about single- p.'irenl families because he was in one. It was a happy, enereelic. "if pomewhal kooky, home.'' he recalled, and ad- vised the single parents pre- sent not lo be "loo sane" in dealing wilh their own family problems. Dr. .Moore said a child in such a home has a chance to feel needed and lo develop a of worth through belping (o operate Ihe home. lie said children in single- parenl homes often are belter off Iban children in homes where boUi parents are present. hut "locked in a destructive re- lationship." TV. Moore warned single par- not to rush into new mar- riages 01 rely on married j friends for companionship, and i indicated he approved o( SEX i for the single parent. "I can only say il is a human need and if it is important I o you, yon will be a belter par- enl and a heller person if satis- fied." Psychologist Rnire QuarrinfT- lon discussed the role of a per- son marrying a single parent and warned against the mission- ary approach poor devils, how you need me" and the approach that assumes no responsibility for Ihe chil- dren. He said a newcomer cnler- ing a family is in a Fimilar i position lo an anthropologist i visiting a strange tribe, with 1 ils unique myths and language. THE BETTER HALF By Barnes Cooking a challenge Opera star relaxes in the kitchen NEW OFFICE HOURS Monday thru Saturday inclusive am. le p.m. OPTOMETRISTS Dn. C. A. Polmer R. Fobbi A. Localelli <07 Slh ST. S. 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Soulli (403) 328-7411 President STAN WORBOYS YORK When Metropolitan Opera star Eli- nor Ross feels she is getting si alp. she ducks into her j kitchen and whips up a fancy j dish like lamb artichokes and egg sauce. 111 find cooking relaxing." said the .singer whose so- prano voice has been var- iously described as thrilling, dramatic and "true Verdi.1' "K takes a certain amount of courage lo try out s new dish on a table full of quests. huL it ib a challenge 1 find hard Lo she saJd Courage is something Miss Ross does not lack. In June, 1970, she made her Met debut in a Puccini role that many singers shy away from The fcal prompted the. New York Times music critic (a "There are few so- pranos in the world who would choose the title role of Puccini's Turandot for a Met- ropolitan Opera debut. But Miss Ross made her first ap- pearance with the company in the spectacular part and man- aged the feat well." IT'S A HAZARD Even more remarkable, Miss Ross sang the role on two days' notice after Ihe reg- ular slar fell ill. And she per- formed the difficull role while lier husband of 16 years lay stricken with a heart ailment that was to claim his life a few weeks later- Cooking poses hazards Tor the singer who has been wres- tling with a weight problem for years. She now belongs lo Weight Watchers, an organi- zation of persons waging a war wilh calories. Miss Ross did no! lake up cooking seriously unlil afler her marriage. "I learned because 1 liari a young husband who had lo be fed and In those days we couldn't afford lo eal all our meals in restaurants." Today she cooks for herself, her leen-age son and friends who arc always dropping in at her apartment overlooking Central Park. "I still make mistakes." she said, "bul I love to cook, and 1 learn as I go along." MAKES CHANGE? The singer also likes to im- provise, which leads to some mistakes but oflen results in inlere.sling dishes. "I pick out a recipe thai appeals lo me.'1 said. "then I change il la suil my personal taste." Here is her recipe for Abba- chio Alia Romans, or lamb wilh artichokes and egg sauce: 2 tablespoons butter 3 Ibs shoulder lamb cul in one-inch cubes 2'2 teaspoons sail IA teaspoon black pepper cup dry while wine 'a cup beef broth 1 package frozen artichoke hearts, cooked and drained 4 eggs cup grated Parmesan cheese 2 tablespoons minced par- sley Melt butler In casserole. Brown lamb in il. Season with salt and pepper Add wine: cook till evaporated. Mix in broth: cover and bake in :inO- degree oven for 45 minutes, adding artichoke hearts after 35 minutes. Beat eggs, cheese and parsley and pour over lamb and artichoke hearts. Bake uncovered 10 minutes. Serves six. Good with chilled white Graves. "I'm an endangered species. ,t A real, fashioned bum." LETHBRIDGE FISH ASSOC. IN THE EAGLES HALL 13th St. N. 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