Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - February 26, 1974, Lethbridge, Alberta
LETHBRIDGE February Herald Family Adoption trend leans toward older children HALIFAX (CP) "Every child, no matter how old, has the right to a good home and family life." That's how Elizabeth Bis- sett, co-ordmator of the adop- tion clearance service of the Nova Scotia department of so- cial services, views the cur- rent philosophical direction of adoption. Mrs. Bissett said social workers, government agencies and child-family wel- fare units are becoming more concerned with persuading prospective parents to adopt older children. The focus of adoption is on "finding homes for children, not children for adopting par- ents." Older children have become the bulk of the adoptable, said Mrs. Bissett, probably be- cause there are fewer chil- dren available for adopting parents. Many unwed mothers now keep their babies and be- come single parents. "And since all we really have to offer now is older children, the trend in adoption is leaning that she ex- plained in an interview. NEED MORE TIME Adopting parents had al- ways been reluctant to con- sider an older child, mostly because older children needed longer periods of time to ac- cept the new parents and per- haps might not accept them at all. Mrs. Bissett said this atti- tude has anchored itself in the thinking of prospective adopt- ing parents despite studies that showed the contrary. "Research has shown that an older child can be as lov- ing and considerate as any child who grows from infancy in the same environment. "All he needs is time to ad- just. Really, the parents are the ones who have to be con- vinced that they can wait un- til he is ready to return their love." But parents now were be- ginning to have more concern for the older child available for adoption. "They have finally realized that every child, no matter how old, has the right to a good home and family life." The traditional adoptable child has practically dis- appeared, said Mrs. Bissett. Few white, healthy, mentally stgble children under two years of age have been avail- able in recent years and this has gradually reduced areas of prejudice against older children. It was not unusual any more for prospective parents to seek adoption of children with physical or mental dis- abilities or children of an- other race. Mrs. Bissett sees a change in the fundamental concept of adoption. "It is different than 'actual childbirth and senseless to try to convince a child that he was not adopted. So now, people will take a child, young or old, even if he or she doesn't like them." A foster home is generally the first step on the road to adoption. A child who, for some rea- son, cannot live with his natu- ral family is generally made a ward of the welfare court and placed in the foster home. RETURN TO PARENTS Here, various social agencies attempt to find the means eventually to return him to his own parents. Some- times no way is found. "We have no intention of just apprehending a child and having him adopted. The best place for any child is natu- rally with his own parents. "But if this is just not in the child's best interests, measures are taken to have the child placed in a foster home." If measures to return him to his natural home fail, social workers attempt to have to eliminate temporary place- ments by having the child adopted. Once in the adopting home, Nova Scotia legislation re- quires a period of six months of waiting before final legal steps securing adoption can take place. HELP US TO HELP OTHERS! The Salvation Army Welfare Services NHd QMkiii. FunitHn. Toys. HoiMfeolft Edicts Call 32I-2MO for Pickup OR LEAVE AT 412 1st AVE. S. Lethbridge Fish Game Assoc. JACKPOT IN 52 NUMBERS BINGO Wednesday at 8 3 4th 8th 10th S25 in 7 GOLD CARDS PAY DOUBLE FREE CARDS EAGLES HALL 13th ST. N. FREE GAMES No Children Under 16 ______ N E W! 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Some illnesses are created through a subliminal fear of growing old, through feelings of inadequacy and anxiety about the future. Sickness may offer a convenient and acceptable escape. It may even cause a certain amount of joy because younger people may become very solicitous and caring. The mind can cure a psychosomatic illness as quickly as it can bring it on. Removing the basic cause of worry or depression often results in what could be taken as a "miraculous" cure. Take the case of Elizabeth Barrett Browning, dominated by her tyrannical father for the first 40 years of her life. For a quarter of a century, Elizabeth was confined to her couch because of a slight back injury suffered at age 15. Then she met Robert Browning, fell in love, and married. Almost overnight, she "recovered" well enough to climb mountains, to travel through Europe and to bear a child. The psychosomatic illnesses which are so common in older people can be prevented by their taking a real interest in life, in people, in every conceivable facet of living. One of the surest ways is by remaining active physically and mentally. Many retirees actively seek activity and new interests at a time of life when many others are throwing in the sponge. But for many more, age 65 still seems a time of "end" rather than a time of fulfillment. They feel that their goals if not achieved by middle age will never be achieved. For them life with any meaning is over. Feelings of emptiness of purpose, uselessness and isolation take over. Life can be a dead end. But it doesn't have to be. The "golden years" of retirement can bring a new meaning to life, to creativity and many years of enjoyable living. It can be, if one is willing to cultivate new interests and work toward new goals using all of the skills, interests, experience, abilities, judgement and maturity acquired through the years. Doctors and psychiatrists all agree that the person who has managed to keep up his interests can make retirement one of the happiest of times. This does not imply that you must fill every waking hour with activity. You have earned a rest. You have a right to relax. But not to the point where relaxation leads to boredom, frustration and vegetation. Plan your activities. This will help to maintain a positive attitude and will keep you from becoming a burden to your friends, your spouse and yourself. On the other hand, planning your activities should not lead to a regimen so rigid that you become a slave to routine. You've probably had enough of that during your career. But a plan will give you a sense of purpose and should enable you to invest your time and energy wisely. If you still have or 20 years before age 65, begin today to broaden your horizons. Involve yourself in activities which will interest you in your later years. Plan in a manner that does not bring too drastic a change in your activities. After all, your main interest must still be to provide for your family. But the transition from employment to retirement should include building interest in those things you want to do after retirement. Keeping busy in these pursuits will also help to fend off the middle-age "blues" and will help to open new and exciting vistas for pursuit. Millions before you have made a successful transition. Keep their example in mind as you approach that inevitable day. Live with the urge to experiment, to discover, to enjoy life to its fullest, and you will be on the way to a rich and rewarding phase of your life. Next: When Are You 'Old'? Individuality encouraged by 'model' school I i By KATHIE MacLEAN Herald Staff Writer A new approach to junior and, senior high school home economics courses has spread deeper into areas of management, family living and housing. Betty Wolfe, home economist at Bishop Carroll High School in Calgary, told home economics teachers at the convention of the South Western Teachers' Association that home economics courses have been too stereotyped in the past and a change was "very much in order." The new course entitled Modern Living, was tried in the (model) Calgary high school and was implemented throughout Alberta schools for the first time last fall. Mrs. Wolfe, who served as chairman for the committee which developed the new curriculum, says it will give students a better background for "future modes of living." Bishop Carroll, a Roman Catholic separate school, was re-organized into.a "model" school by the National Association of Secondary School Principals and is funded by the Danford and Ford Education Foundation. The prospect of developing a "model" school was accepted by the Calgary Calendars THE BETTER HALF Kappa Chapter, Beta Sigma Phi, will meet at tonight at the home of Janet Fisher, 2510 15th Ave. N. The program, pictures, will be presented by Cathy Langston and Linda Godlonton. Co- hostess is Dorothy Matheson. The Aileen Walker Unit of Southminster church will meet at 8 tonight at the home of Bertha Ellis, 63612th St. S. The Lethbridge Chapter of the Sweet Adelines will meet at 8 p.m. Wednesday at the home of Eunice Lothian, 921 llth St. S. The annual meeting of the Lethbridge YWCA wilTbe held at p.m. Wednesday at Sven Ericksen's Family Restaurant. Guest speaker will be Bette Lockwood, past president of Calgary YWCA. Tau Chapter, Beta Sigma Phi will hold its meeting tonight at the home of Judy Fillo, 1803 Ashgrove Rd. Program, reasonable answers, is by Irene McDonnell, Carolyn Tucker and Valerie Meeks. Marilyn Lodoen will give the introduction. The Christian Science Church will hold a prayer and testimony meeting at p.m. Wednesday in the church auditorium, 1203 4th Ave. S. Everyone welcome. Preceptor Eta, Beta Sigma Phi, will meet at p.m. Wednesday at the home of Robbie Robinson, 2703 5th Ave. S. The Hi Neighbor Club will hold a dance from to tonight at the Lotus Inn, 1st Avenue and 8th St. S. The Anne Campbell Singers are performing Wednesday at p.m. in Taber. Transportation for choir members departs at the Civic Centre at 6 p.m. The general meeting of McKillop UCW will be held Feb. 27 at 8 p.m. in the committee room. Mrs. L. E. Larcombe will sbow slides and curios of Japan. By Barnes Parents not allowed at Mad Hatter birthdays Separate School Board and Bishop Carroll is the only one of its kind in Canada. "This new system enables students to select their own timetables and allows great expansion in many she claims. "There's just no end to what you can do." Modern Living stresses individualization and Mrs. Wolfe says it is very successful in Calgary. A Lethbridge teacher claims she is very much in favor of individualization but finds it difficult to spend enough time with each student. Mrs. Wolfe says the new course is designed to "help students motivate themselves and develop their own individuality." The new course consists of three main levels management; family living and housing each requiring a video-tape upon completion. "The day is corning for the telephones with visual aids and someday even job interviews may be conducted in this she says. "The more exposure the kids get with this, the better." "Students, both girls and boys, can really get involved in the modern way of living rather than just cooking and sewing as in previous she says. Mrs. Wolfe claims many of the ideas originating at Bishop Carroll have already moved to other schools. Teachers adapt as many methods and ideas as they can to suit their students in the best possible way, she says. "Of course I don't know the value of a dollar does Ann Landers TORONTO (CP) Absolutely no parents are allowed wnen kids have a party at a restaurant dreamed up a year ago by a university dropout. Nick Green, its manager, said: "They can climb on the tables, stuff their mouths and make their own ice cream sundaes with as many cherries as the dish will hold." The Mad Hatter's Tea Party is the second restaurant opened by 23-year-old Harry Stinson. The first caters to a family trade. But Mr. Green said: "Even in a family-type restaurant, parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts are always telling the kids to behave, sit up, act like little ladies and gentlemen." 1 The Mad Hatter has an Alice in Wonderland decor, with a throne for the host or hostess, table boards on the floor, a birthday cake room, music and art room and an ice cream parlor where you make your own dishes exactly as you please. 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(It's called "transference" in couch Life with a constant critic is like being nibbled to death by a duck. Ttere's only one way to protect yourself. Play deaf. Dear An Luders: I don't know whether or not newspaper columnists have an unspoken agreement not to rat on each other, but I do hope you will print this letter in the public interest. Will you please suggest to those household hint writers that they print only suggestions which are practical and sensible? A lot of nutty women will try anything they see written up as a "work- saver." My not-so-bright wife read in the paper that a good way to save time when making cracker crumbs is to put the whole box of crackers in a plastic bag and ride over it -with a car. A rolling pin costs 50 cents. Our car cost My wife asked me last night to please get the wide, 70-series tires because they would make better cracker crumbs. Knowing my wife as I do, I'm sure she will nag me until I get those new tires. We don't NEED new tires, Ann Landers. What do you suggest now? Irritated In Yonkers Dear Yonk: Sorry, I've got all I can do to respond to readers who have legitimate complaints against MY advice. I can't handle beefs directed at other columnists. Why don't you write to Whatzername? The next letter will give you an idea of what I'm up against at the moment. Even if drinking is the "in" thing in your crowd, it needn't crowd oat. Lean the from Ann Landers'; booklet, "Booze and Yoa For Teeo- Agers (My." Send 35c ia com and a long, self-addressed, stamped envelope to Ana Landers, P.O. Box 3348, Chicago, lilinois 6164. save sale GOOD NEWS! -THE GREAT JANUARY SALE HAS BEEN EXTENDED INTO FEBRUARY} Look! Exciting new Sew and Save specials. Come in right now for fabulous buys on sewing machines and on fabrics and notions, too, at your TOTAL sewing and saving centre. 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