Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - February 19, 1974, Lethbridge, Alberta
16-THE LETHBRIDQE HERALD -Tuttday, February It, Herald- Family Single parent groups combat fear, loneliness BELLEVILLE, Ont. (CP) A sad-eyed woman sits stiffly in the middle of the couch, hands held rigid in her lap When she speaks, her voice is slightly tremulous. "This is all so new to me, I really don't know how to act." She is newly separated from her husband, adjusting to being alone for the first time in 15 years. She was at her first meet- ing of the One Parent Fami- lies Association The Belleville chapter is one of 14 Canadian groups that broke away from the United States Parents Without Partners or- ganization to form a Canadian association. Selma McComb, the Belle- ville president, said; "Now we are entirely Canadian. We have our own head office, in Toronto, our own magazine and our own convention, this year in Kingston. We can be responsible for federal and provincial grants to assist with projects such as summer camping." During any month, the Belleville group holds be- tween 10 and 17 events, in- cluding discussion groups, general meetings, Amigo nights for newcomers, dances, teen parties and children's nights. Membership is confined to people with children who are single because of divorce, separation, death or because they never married. The OPFA offers members a chance to talk to people in the same boat. It organizes activities designed to provide children with the chance to know adults. It brings in qual- ified people to talk about the problems members share. In many cases, people drift away from the organization when their crisis years are over. Others stay involved for a number of reasons. Mrs. McComb; who has been a member for five years, said; "The biggest reward for me is seeing sad people smile again." She is a widow. She has worked for the eight years since her husband died in an accident and left her with two daughters to care for. She said she discovered early in her widowhood that it helped to work for other people. She has been a mem- ber of the Mental Health As- sociation and the Canadian Cancer Society. "I found that ordinary women's groups were uncom- fortable for me. "People sometimes think that widows have it easy, being left with insurance money and pleasant memo- ries. But that's not true. "A partner's death doesn't mean automatically the mar- riage had been a perfect one. A widow simply learns to re- member only the good times. And that's what every single parent should do." Ross was married for 23 years. Three of his iiye chil- dren live with him. His wife has remarried. He said he and his children have become better friends since the divorce; they ap- prove of his active social life. "I'd like to get married again, but you can be sure I won't rush into anything. There's a tendency to guard yourself after divorce, I think." Lome has been separated for six months. The two boys live with him, three girls with his wife, and all five change places periodically. Lome said, "I look to the future, living each day at a time. I don't look back any more than I have to. "I'm not against marriage, but it will be a long time be- fore I consider marrying again." He said he finds the OPFA a great help. "However, I'd never let the club take over my whole life. It is only meant to help me get on my feet again." Lynn has been separated three years after six years of marriage. She has two young children. "I'm twice as happy now. I like myself a lot better. "The attitude of people to- ward single parents seems to be 'God forbid you should be happy.' WeU, I still know I've done the best thing." Beef graded NEW BINGO NEW LOYAL ORDER OF MOOSE 3rd Ave. N. WEDNESDAY at 8 p.m. 24 GAMES Regular Jackpot Number and Cash weakly 10th 7 Nuirtwr 5 Canto for card Doubto Dow MM No One Under 16 Years Allowed to Play ALBERTA TEACHERS' ASSOCIATION SOUTH WESTERN CONVENTION Dear Parents: Students attending schools in the Crowsnest Pass, Pincher Creek, Cardston, Warner, Taber, the county of Lethbridge, and the city of Lethbridge will have a two-day holiday on Thursday, February'211st and Friday, February 22nd. However, teachers will all attend the Convention in an effort to gain something for themselves which may be shared with the students on their return to the classroom. The main segments of the Convention will be held at the Lethbndge Collegiate Institute, the theme this year is -Priyy.t.on is What You Make Because of the many and varied aspects of such a con- vention, several sessions will be held-at schools in the immediate vicinity of the Collegiate. Mav we take this opportunity of inviting you as parents to come and JS session in which you are interested. Parents share wrth the school thetremendous task of providing learning expenence for ?he We encourage you to take advantage of this opportunrty. Somo feature pmMtatiom THURSDAY HORNING, FEBRUARY Zlsl 91 Mr Harry Wong: "Motivating the Educationally Uninvolved, A Mum-Media Happening" Paramount Theatre THURSDAY AFTERNOON. FEBRUARY 21st. TfcM: "POLITICS AND EDUCATWT SlJlklff: Dr. Horowitz: Dr. Schott: Mr, HaraM Owndereon: LC.I. FRIDAY MORNING. FEBRUARY Individual Subject Workshops which include areas as Mathematics, Modern Languages. Early Childhood and more. also Or. ion Sampson: "Education in China- FRIDAY AFTERNOON. FEBRUARY 2ZN. p.M. Retired lawyer exchanges suit for coveralls VANCOUVER (CP) The longest practising lawyer in British Columbia has exchanged his suit for a plumber's aver- al'Tm not going into business. I'm too old for said Al- of character to people who work with their haMrS'Young said he became a lawyer "because it's good to help TStBte business strictly for money now he wouW becomfangelectrician, he said. Mr. Young looks back on years of law practice and remembers Vancouver in the old had almost no traffic then. It was all left-hand driving in the beginning and when you wanted to make a turn you just went around a corner. There was never anything there to hit. A driver's licence was not required. A 0 Mr. Young was born in Japan where his English father had a shipbuilding business. He lived there until he was 17, then came g First World War, he served in Siberia with in- telligence units of the Canadian army. His knowledge served him then and later in business. Until the Second World War Mr. Young had the extensive list of Japanese clients in Canada. Mr. Young plains to devote some of his retirement to fishing, wine and gambling. "I just love to gamble. It's all part of life. You win some, you lose some. After years of working very hard at it, I did well. I broke even. "But first I've got to learn about plumbing. The new-fangled pipes are made from copper and I don't know how to work with that at all. It's time I got busy." Car modified for armless driver Will swim Lake Ontario Fourteen-year-old Angela Kondrak smiles as she leaves the pool where she has been training for a mid-summer swim across Lake Ontario almost 20 years after Marilyn Bell accomplished the feat on Sept. As part of her training she. will have to get used to lamprey eels. Her coach Art Dufresne says he'll "throw a couple at her to show her they don't hurt and can be easily picked off.') OTTAWA (CP) When purchasing beef in bulk for freezers, consumers should note the new beef .grading system in Canada, based on maturity, quality and meat yield, says the Consumers' Association of Canada. Grades range from A-to E. The fat level of the meat should also be noted. Food acts as crutch Overeating is psychological CALGARY (CP) Like the wino with his bottle, fat people are using food as a kind of crutch and the crutch can be deadly, says psychologist Fabien Boulanger. For many people the only permanent solution to a weight problem is learning to relax and not let the clay's ANAF elects officers The Ladies' Auxiliary of the Army, Navy and Air Force Veterans, Lethbridge unit, recently elected officers for 1974 with Ann Slater serving as president. Other officers include Eileen Martin, past president: Joan Arelis, first vice-president; Jan Lutz, second vice-president; Eileen Burnham, secretary; Bernice Schweitzer, treasurer; Chris Miles, sergeant-at-arms; and Ruby Winters, standard bearer. Executive members are Effie MacAulay, Dolly Bergland, Gladys McNeely and Bea Salmon. Members are reminded that 1974 dues are payable. tensions lead to overeating. "It's not enough to lose Mr. Boulanger said in an interview. "You have to get over being an ex-overweight person, that is, a victim of the same causes that got your weight up in the first place and could get your weight up again." Even when fat people inherit their obesity they are usually eating for primarily psychological reasons, said Mr. Boulanger, a doctorate candidate at University of Calgary. He suggested that the fat man is not chuckling when he is poked in the ribs because he is jolly but because he is afraid to poke back. So he ends up going home and eating to get over his misery. That means he gets fatter and has to laugh louder when he is poked. Somewhere between 40 and 80 per cent of the children of fat people are themselves fat whereas only about nine per cent of children whose parents are average weight will become obese, Mr. Boulanger said. At the other end of the life- span, the fat person is likely to die years earlier than the slim one and Mr. Boulanger said if a cure could be found for obesity, the average lifespan of Canadians would increase seven years. More women than men are likely to be fat. Statistics show 65 to 87 per cent of the nation's women over 40 years old are overweight, he said. He recommends obese people learn "basic life namely not getting tense and turning to food when things go wrong. GODERICH, Ont. (CP) Learning to drive was espe- cially hard for Elaine Towns- hend. Elaine, a 23-year-old community college student, was born without arms. But her determination and a specially fitted car have en- abled her to become the only person in Canada to drive with her feet. The car, a standard North American compact, was modified by a Clinton, Ont, automobile mechanic in consultation with the Canadian Paraplegic Association and the War Amputations Association. The "mini" steering wheel is mounted on the floor parallel with the brake and accelerator, which were raised 16 inches. The ignition and dimmer switch were also relocated so they can be reached by foot. "I steer with my left foot and operate the accelerator with my right Elaine said. "With my left foot I can reach the gear shift, the lights and the dimmer switch, the windshield wipers and the heater." She obtained her licence after persuading the Ontario transport ministry the vehicle was mechanically safe. The department had her fasten a cushion to the seat to increase visibility. HELP US TO KELP OTHERS! The Salvation Army Welfare Services Nttd 0-rtiiri. Ftraitwi. Tiys. Hamtold Edicts Call 32I-2MO For Pickup OR LEAVE AT 412 tat AVE. S. save sale 600D NEWS! -THE GREAT JANUARY SALE HAS REEN EXTENDED INTO FERRUARY! Look! Exciting new Sew and Save specials Come in right now for fabulous buys on sewing machines and on fabrics and notions, too, at your TOTAL sewing and saving centre. 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