Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - February 9, 1972, Lethbridge, Alberta
X6 THE tETHBRIDGE HERALD Wednesday, Tcbruory 1972 t li-'i if Professor sees nocd for j Many inhuman rules in the family JOINING THE FUN Donna Sawicki, IB, Ihe reign- ing Miss Canada, joins in a !uy-o-war wilh sl'jdenls from Ihc Ontario School for Ihe Blind in Branlford, Ont., afier opening the winter carnival. In her year as Miss Canada, ends in November, she eslimaies she will have (ravelled about miles and her advice to successors is to leorn lo nap anywhere, nnyiime, and develop a sense of humor. tie, calendar then back to high school f local lly MALKKKN JAMIESON Sliiff Writer (if ccnuminicnlKm is possibly Ihc grenlcjl thai can happen in a family. can deal crj Ijul hmv am I lo drnl vilh all Ih'jsc people' is wlial a family is all ac- cording to Virginia Miss Salir, visiting prdc.s.sor at John Hopkins Univcrsily in Tlallimnrc and Ihc University of Calgary, Ls in Lcllibridjje lo cuiuhic'l a family llmrapy seminar. "We all siavl from and we all come fitini a fam- ily." Klit .said, and ''the family is Uie mcsl diificull place lo live." When problems arise in (ho family, a therapist should start the family and Ihun work doun lo llrj individual, .she siiid. ''Slu.yl wilh the and down lo the pieces Many psychiatrists, and social workers. con- tended. ni'V.M- K'.e il'? uh'Jlc unit. ItKINKOKCI.V; Families are universal and they skirl with two people (he same route and forming a marital relationship. Kvc-ry iiKirilal relalion.ship has a sltm for handling such things as ''.sanieiic.s.s, (lilfcrentmcnl. decision making, ri.ik-Laldiig ir.d .said Mits Salir. IriMlly. th.-c shrni'd he and upi'ii cuinmuniL'aUjn bciv.'ccn members of family." she added. Oiie of the bc.st to learn lo be a family therapist is "to toiue in touch with your own she said. Probably "you tried early wilh your own and fell on your face, but you still have hope, so you Iry wilh other people's." "Why do In meddle with oihcr people's lives'1 she I asked the therapists? "Because von lu do .some guoil." A therapist, according to Miss SfUir. should think of a person in terms of the kind of learnings or growth he lias had in the family, and what kind cf new Icarnir.g he needs. Where there is s-liizophrenia. delinquency, or similar la- Ijyls of immaturity, Miss Salir claimed, everyone in (he fam- ily is suffering in sonic way. S'no said thai in her experience, she has "never found OTIC person had the problem." Negative behavior, she said, can't cxisl without reinforce menl, and I he family is the reinforcing agent. And tht1 parents themselves suffer from the expectancies of Iheir own parenls and sometimes the grandparents. In the of Ihe blended family, a ftcp, faster or live parent may be added lo the list, she .said. "There are many inhuman rules in Ihe Miss Salir ,said. "A man must never let anyone know he feels and a woman feels any power, she's aggressive and stamps it mil. If you cry, you're weak. If yon show feeling, you're vul- nerable and will be taken advantage ct HULKS KKKD CHANGING rules reed lo be changed.'' .she said, and "crealivn experiences make iL possible lo bring the lamily lo an under- standing of these things." In the family "any symptom can be explained and treated terms of the system." "A family with coping difficulties has low self-worth, poor communication, incongmc.ncc, and an unfiltiing outcome which raises such problems as poor harning, delinquency and schizo- phrenia." 5fiid. "Scir-uorth is heightened or lowered by Ihs system'1 by communication, by rules, hy cjlcomcs. 'I should iroat this problem, before gcliing down to specifics, such as "hating she claimed "You can't play around al Ihe top Mi.ss Salir told the therapists. 'Ilicre are certain cxpuclalians within the Jamily that have lo b2 communicated. "The problem i.s where do we go frcm I f lu I'UL ippentnal Male chauvinist of the week KITCHENER. Onl. a'P) to be Miss Camilla, hut sho i moling -licr trips, inicl photo- Miss Canada .says advice [o sin- inteiltis U) finish j graphic sessions. cnlur- hcr successors is In learn lo nap school and eventually become a fains, parties, meets anywlicrc, aJiylimo and develop la'.rycr hlindred.s of people during long a sense of humor. KVKIty I'lIING PI.VN'NKO working days. "IL isn't as many people Donna Sauicki, II'. rngn- I ucn. my lifo would r.ot be my i can keep Ik' engaganent I just ;tt 2 p.m. in gym 2 of the civic ing Canada, ha.- dune a n, cvenlhmg would he lo Hike day by sports centre. Following the cross country lour indndir1.: live for me.1' day.1' inecling. bingo will days at the Alert Her Christmas lioli- I Donna pu! in a apprrn- hmdi served. McmliKrs'hip mere Island and aiso dav her parents, -Mr. and lice-ship Ix'.ure sh.' uot lo li'.'J i UckcLs will available i i, f i Panama. She will have a week Mrs. Waller Sawicfci wa-. nnex-! .Miss Canada conlrsl She has lo improve Ihe sinlus d I and Ihc household duties, unless j uirm preying lor speedy rc- ciieh in Miami and Nassau anil r.iinily imerrupiod hv irips lo been taking muricllnu: lessons, j "'omen by oiiHiiivirig sex dis-; she is ill. wlvn any man would Prefer older women KVKltynilXG working days. The Original Pensioners and; f ''.I'll realized belore I entered i "I really shouldn't plan any- Senior Citizens Society Ladies "3 5 'j'f S S) f? JJJ i) 5 TF11 C T Still llu- Miss Canada eonlest Ilia: if i tiling, because I never know il I will meet on Friday O'L'sLt-tbt Of vj> S i S S f LLO LfLLL liv CAI101. KKXN'EDY i silly rclatlcnship for LO.XDO.M (CT'i A Tory MP j who scuttled a parlii.'nenlary "M> wife does the cooking MONTREAL (CP) A ran- dom survey of Montreal em- ployment, agencies conducted by a local newspaper indicates lhal. allhr.ugh Montreal execu- tives prefer young glamorous secretaries. Ihe agencies prefer every British women's crganiya- i place older women who they tion and spokesmen say that its foci arc morc conscientious and parliamentary fate will not stop 1 have a lower absentee rate. The regular monthly meeting crimination savs be !2 Kiiropcn trips, Jielnre -lie lornniii nun Jlonircnl. since she 12. has worked ns reltrc.s next Nmvmb-.-r. urng m conjimc- -uihor. Labor MP V. i 11 i a m lio'i H-iili H-in HA. n -u r t I Jll aiK COUCT. .10F1 OH mC lion intli ir.c recieauon ae- Hmm fnr us a I meetings. Ciuuch will be held Shrove She says Ihc problems of im- Tuesday. Feb. 15, in the church hall. KJIB 5 Avc. S. Pancake? and will be served igrant and niinoriu 1 ve been of special T over lh- years. A parlicnlar hv lhp mcn of lhe from -nccn is recopnilion immi-1 [o 7 js an cycnt f grants' trade skills to give Ihcm [or ramjly :tlld evciry. chance to compete in the Ca- i one js natlian labor markei. 'We I'.ave rccommenflrrl clini- nalion cf Ihe Canadip.n experi- famous for his -it- lacks on the co.il of the mon- in jrbs and cducr..ion on Ihc same basis as racial discrimi- nation, now to the bottom u i i i i> n i iititiun, iiu vv Kuua LU viIL; UULIUIII archy-had quotwl Bell during I of Uio Ilarliamenlai.y heap 3nd the debate ns saying v.omrn were "inferior, socond-class cit- izens and ouglit lo be [rcrucd as such." Cell maintains hi- said il in a ligluhrarled his uife j Audrey backs him up. liiil in an is unlikely to surface again this session. Women MPs on both sides of Ihe Commons shouted "Shame71 Friday wiien Bell insistc-d on a.s Ili2 seconds of debating time oul ]cM..mR ,m. the crusty en live, a bar- able to move a second reading. rislor by Mill lie t Ti-inlr- In Kn iNln Tn T-n in n -n wanls lo be able 10 is noihing wrcng in OF THESE IS YOU? 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