Lethbridge Herald (Newspaper) - February 7, 1973, Lethbridge, Alberta
-Wednesday, February 7, T973 - THE LETHBRIDGE HERALD - 2X Ann Landers DEAR ANN LANDERS: Please, please give that woman some help. I refer to the wife who felt guilty- because she was "stealing" money from her husband's wallet after he had passed out cold in the bedroom. It seems she had to have money to put food on the table and shoes on her children's feet. You suggested that she talk to him during his sober moments and tell him what she was doing-and then continue to pick his pockets without feeling guilty. It's obvious that you have never lived with an alcoholic. Sober moments, indeed. Like when? In the morning, perhaps, when he is so hung-over he can't see straight, much less think straight. What you should have suggested was Al-Anon. If no Al-Anon Family Group program is available in that woman's vicinity she should contact the nearest A.A. office. With nine million alcoholics in this country, there are DEAR ANN LANDERS: I must comment about the girl who signed her letter "Red Face" because it reminded me so much of my own life. That girl was embarrassed because her mother couldn't seem to get her friend's names straight. I am 16. My sister is four years older. We look a lot alike and I understand why my mother would call me by her name. But what Dugs me like crazy is that the teachers are constantly calling me by my sister's name no maltor how many times I correct them. One teacher was so embarrassed about it that she DEAR ANN LANDERS: Please print this letter. My husband reads your column every single day so I know he'll see it. Somehow I can't tell him this to his face. I would rather die than hurt his feelings. It's his teeth. He's a very good looking guy -until he opens his mouth. He needs to see a dentist. He has so many fine qualities that I just hate to pick on him for any reason, so I keep quiet. But I want him to have a healthy mouth and I also feel it is important that he make a good appearance. Thanks for your help, Ann. -Love The Guy an estimated 36 million peo-rectly affected by the alcoholic. I can't describe to you the improvement that Al-Anon has made in my life. My husband is still drinking, but I have learned how to live my life and not let an alcoholic live it for me. I now have a sense of direction and understanding that have made me a new woman. One day my husband will stop drinking, I am sure of it, but this is something he must do himself. I. cannot do it for him. Until that day comes, I will continue to go to Al-Anon meetings, draw strength from others, and give them some of mine. -From Philadelphia DEAR F.P.: I have been a strong (and early) supporter of Al-Anon, because I know they do a remarkable job. I have recommended it in this space dozens of times and I will continue to do so. Thank you for suggesting Al - Anon for the woman who wrote. Your answer was better than mine. stopped calling on me altogether. Another teacher is now calling me by my last name because she can't seem to get my first name straight. I guess what bothers me, deep down, is that my sister makes such a lasting impression on people that they never forget her-and me, well, I'm just a blob. Any comment you care to make will be appreciated. -Her Nothing Relative Dear Friend: Your teachers call you by your sister's name because they knew her first -not because she was a super-star, unforgettable - or anything else. So stop interpreting the confusion as a put-down. It is no such thing. DEAR WOMAN: If you love the guy, don't wait for him to read this. Call a dentist and make an appointment for your husband. Tell him, but not too far in advance. And by all means, go with him. Most adults who neglect their teeth are afraid of pain. What they need to know is that dental techniques today are much easier on the patient. They are also much less time - consuming, and bear no resemblance to the torture chambers of 30 years ago. Aside from the cosmetic aspects, neglected teeth and gums can cause serious physical problems. Like I said, if you love the guy, help him. THE BETTER HALF By Barnes "Anticipation . . . Suspense . . . Will this be the night I find a two-bit tip under your plate?" COMPLETE AUTOMATIC WASHERS DRYERS AS WELL AS SPIN WASHERS 90 DAY GUARANTEE FAIRFIELD SERVICES LTD. 327-6070, 327-6884 We will also buy any R.C.A. - INGLIS OR WHIRLPOOL ' automatic washers or gas dryers in need of repair for rebuilding. We also have 3 fully qualified service technician* available for other repair services. RICK ERVIM photos Babes in Arms "Let's put the skids on Lee Calhoun's show!" It's a conspiracy by the cast of the oldtime Rodgers and' Hart favorite. Would-be actors and actresses head for Cape Cod to join,a summer stock production written, directed and acted by that famous southern, gentleman, Lee Cal- houn. The plot thickens as the apprentice actors prepare their own show; and the conflict of interests is the basis of the musical production, which ran Monday and Tuesday at the Yates Memorial Centre. Right: Lee Calhoun, played by Dale Martin, imbibes a little southern comfort. Boos, insults ignored Hockey referee keeps mind on game EDMONTON (CP) - Long dark hair, great legs, a beautiful smile - not exactly attributes one usually associates with a minor hockey referee. But Barbara Mandruisiak, 19, has them and more - poise, a sense of fair play, and an ability to ignore taunts and jibes, no matter how crude. Eor OKver Pruden, referee-in-chief of Edmonton's southwest sector, having Barbara in his lineup has presented no special problems. "I told her before she went out there she'd have to be pretty thick-skinned about it," he said. "The language out there gets pretty foul sometimes." During a mite game - the kind with cute little children Monk saved from jail LANCASTER, England (AP.) -A monk who abandoned his vows and abducted a 15-year-old girl was saved from jail here on the plea of the girl's mother. John Hosty, 38, pleaded guilty to abduction and to unlawful intercourse. The age of consent in Britain is 16. Judge Joseph Cautley told him: "I was going to send you to jail," adding he would bo lenient after the girl's mother said she would not oppose the couple's marriage. Judge Cautley placed Hosty on probation for two years with two conditions-that he does not see the girl until she is 18, and that he does not write to her without the mother's permission. If he breaks the conditions he will go to jail, the judge said. Defence Attorney Hubert Andrew said Hosty had taken a vow of chastity and had no sexual experience before meeting the girl. "It was a meeting of two innocent people," he said. in baggy pants engaged In a shuffling - skate action -one little boy carried the puck and two defencemen converged on him. The boy either tripped on a' stick or fell. The youngsters themselves, not yet 10 years old, were simply having fun. But in the stands, there were people who took the whole thing very seriously. Some of them sneered and hurled insults. One charged down behind the player's bench to get closer to the action. Others pointed to the spot where the boy went down and appeared to regard the matter as a flagrant and dastardly violation of the rules. A player was sent out to argue for a penalty. Barbara explained the situation and her ruling. Moments later, a player took a five-step run at his opponent and was called for charging. More boos. More insults. After the game, when asked what effect the shouting, jeering and insults might have on Conference on day care this spring MONTREAL (CP) - Claude Castonguay, Quebec social affairs minister, said here he will organize a federal-provincial conference on day - care centres sometime in the spring. Mi*. Castonguay said the conference would be attended by representatives of provincial departments of education and social affairs, members of pri-vate agencies, and administrators of the federal Local Initiatives Program. "We must decide where the responsibility for these daycare centres lies, and very clearly delegate this responsibility," he said at a news conference. the youngsters, Barbara was lost for specifics. But the impression was that the effect wasn't good. "Don't get the idea all the parents are like that," she said. "In fact, it's only a very few. "I just ignore them. It's the only thing you can do and it's pretty easy if your mind is on the game rather than on what is coming from the stands." Barbara said she was entering into the spirit of refereeing minor hockey "a little deeper than I thought I'd be." "Originally, I just wanted to Dead flyer found alive in PoW camp ATLANTA, Ga. (AP) - In a seven-year span of a single marriage, Marty Halyburton has been a widow, lived the uncertain life of a woman whose husband was missing and-finally-been the wife of a confirmed prisoner of war Mrs. Halyburton is anxiously waiting reunion with,the navy flyer husband for whom she once held memorial services. Halyburton, now a lieutenant-commander, was shot down over North Vietnam Oct. 17, 1965. A few days later, Mrs. Halyburton was told her husband was dead. Sixteen months later, a navy chaplain again knocked on her door. "He told me to sit down," she said. "Don't worry," Mrs. Halyburton told him. "I know Porter's alive." "Whew!" the chaplain replied. "You made my job easier." Finally, in 1968, Halyburton's name was brought out by a released prisoner and he. was a confirmed POW. prove to my brother I could pass the examination." She did - with a score of 85 per cent. When Pruden was told he was getting a female referee, he thought it had been the result of a typing error on some list. But "I figured I'd just send her out there to referee the games like anyone else," he said "One thing though; she hasn't mastered the hockey skates yet, so we keep her ref-ereeng the mites here. They're not so fast." He said he wasn't certain if there are other girls across Canada who are in Barbara's position. "I'll tell you one thing," Pruden said. "She had to have a lot of courage to come out in the first place and a lot more to put up with some of the name-calling." Barbara, who said she comes from a "very hockey - minded family," is talking a year off from studies after having completed one year toward a pharmacy degree at the University of Alberta. She intends to return to the university. Fiftieth ivedding anniversary Mr. and Mrs. Roy Pitcher recently celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary with a family dinner held at Sven Ericksen's Family Restaurant. Their five children and their spouses were present to mark the occasion. Mr. and Mrs. Pitcher farmed for many years in the Woolford district, with Mr. Pitcher serving as bishop of the Woolford ward and also on the Municipal Hospital Board. The couple retired in 1964, moving into Cardston, where they still serve as Temple officiators. Their children are Lorin of Woolford district; Alice Gibb of Picture Butte; Thelma Stevens of California; Mel of Cardston and Ted of Calgary. There are 24 grandchildren and two great grandchildren. DORIS OLIVER . . . provincial president Women elect executive Mrs. Doris Oliver of Leth-bridge as recently elected provincial president of the Social Credit Women at the 35th annual convention held in Edmonton. Other officers include Mrs. Irene Stonehocker of Lacombe, first vice president; Mrs. Ella Ayers of Calgary, second vice president; and Mrs. Miriam Ruemper of Edmonton, secretary treasurer. Mr. H. E. Strom leader of Her Majesty's Royal Opposition, was feature, speaker at the banquet. Both Mr. and Mrs. Strom were presented with gifts from the Social Credit Women's Auxiliaries; and Mr. Orvis Kennedy was also presented with a gift for his years of valued assistance to the SCWA. Golden wedding anniversary Mr. and Mrs. S. Kultgen will celebrate their 5Qth wedding anniversary Sunday with a come-and-go tea, to be held from 2 to 5 p.m. at the Park Plaza Motor Hotel. Friends and relatives are invited to call on this happy occasion. No gifts, by request. 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