Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - February 2, 1972, Lethbridge, Alberta
W.dntldny, Ftbruary 2, 1972 THE LETHBRIDGE HERALD 21 THE BETTER HALF By Bob Barnes "The villain got shot-, but the hero married the girl...Things have a way of balancing out." Marital discord found preventable NEW YORK (MW) There are many reasons for discord in the marriages of the over- 40 set, but some are definitely preventable, according to Dr. Eugene Cohen, Chief of the En- docrine Clinic at the New York Hospital Cornell Medical Cen- ter here. He maintains that the mature woman can avoid con- siderable marital grief, if she makes the necessary adjust- ment early enough to the phy- sical changes that will occur in her life. Dr. Cohen doesn't believe, as some do, that "things will work themselves1 out" once a woman has "lived through" all the phy- sical symptoms of the meno- pause. At the first signs of dif- ficulty, he says estrogen re- placement therapy should be considered because her own body's supply of this hormone has diminished. "This is far more he maintains, "than permitting the situation to continue for two, three or four years." These signs of dif- ficulty, according to Dr. Law- rence Sonkin, another member of the Endoc r i n c Clinic, in- clude: hot flushes, sweats, ting- ling and crawling sensations of the skin, muscle pains and spasms. Often, Dr. Sonkin ex- plains, these can detroy a wo- man' sense of well being, so she becomes depressed and fa- tigued and feels she has lot her ability to cope with life. LOOKING FOR COMFORT "Her husband meanwhile doesn't like coming home to an irritable and depressed wo- Dr. Cohen points out, "so he begins looking for com- fort elsewhere." At the same time, he notes, their children- then adolescents or young ad- ults are having their own problems. "And if the mcno- pausal woman isn't able to cope with these either, further fam- ily discord results." Dr. Cohen cautions that al- though estrogen therapy civ- en after the menopause may relieve a woman's physi- cal symptoms, it obviously can- not repair the harm done to her relationship with her husband and children. "Once you have discord between a husband and a wife, it's like a crack in a he says, "very difficult o patch up." Some cases, he notes, have gone so far to require special psychiatric as- sistance. RELIEF FROM SYMPTOMS Although there's a frequent zndency to view the symptoms of the woman over 40 as psy- chological rather than meno- jausal in origin, many mature women are now seeking ou' medical attention, Dr. Cohen and Dr. Sonkin report. This they say, is either because the woman herself is aware thai her symptoms are menopau sal; or because her friends having already gone through the experience recognize the symptoms and suggest a visi to the doctor. The therapy m each case, Dr Cohen points out, is always in dividualized. "Some womei need very little estrogen to ge complete relief from their symptoms, while others nee< greater amounts. Their own doctors will determine that. STEREO FAIR See Page 7 and out 4 town, Tau Chapter, Beta Sigm; Phi, recently held a farewe1 party at the home of Mrs. Eu nice Kirr in honor of Mrs Kathi Zezulka who is movui to Halifax, N.S. A traditional spoon and bab were presented to Kathi USE WORN SHEETS When sheets begin to wear whip up extra pillow slips o sheets for a child's bed or cri from the sections that are no Ann Landers DEAJl ANN LANDERS: Please rush your answer because we have been having plenty of trouble over this question. I'll put it as simply as possible. Is it fair for a woman to use sex to get her way wtih her husband? Yes or no? DEAK MEMPHIS: It has been said that all is fair in love and war. In your situation I see both so the answer to your question is yes. People cannot be faulted for using whatever weapon serves1 them best. DEAR ANN LANDEKS: Several weeks ago you printed a letter from a Wyoming girl who wouldn't accept a date because she was ashamed to let the boys at school see her shabby home. Her widowed mother worked as a hotel maid and it was a struggle to keep body and soul together. My mother was in the same boat. Our home was the next thing to a shack but it never occured to me to be ashamed of it. Mom kept it spotless and made it as attrac- tive as she could. But most of all our home was filled with love and laughter and Mom taught me to make ev- eryone IfA welcome. Now I am married to a fine nran and we have a lovely place. Mom is a semi-invalid and we made an apartment for her on the second floor. Whenever my friends from the old days come over they never fail to ask if they can go upstairs to see Mom: Isn't that a warm compliment? I hope every young girl who is ashamed of the place she lives in will see my letter and take heart. Friends worth having don't care about DEAB LUCKY: You are more than lucky. You were raised by a mother who had inner security, and that's far more important than financial security. The last sentence in your letter contains a world of wisdom. Every girl who is uncomfortable about the place she lives in should clip it out and tape it to her bedroom mirror. DEAR ANN LANDERS: After a few months of marriage our 19-year-old daughter was badgered into a wife-swapping arrangement by her husband who is really crazy. Lucile fell for the other man and within weeks she lets her hus- band to live with him. I am not defending her because I think they all need psychiatric help. The problem is that my husband will not let Lucile in our home unless she comes alone. She wants to bring her gentle- man friend. (Neither is There are three younger children who miss their sister terribly. I believe her morals are her business. What do you DEAR T: I say if you welcome a married daughter with her swapped boyfriend, you are condoning the arrangement. Lucile should come alone. DEAR ANN LANDERS: What do you think about a per- son who has dinner at your home and the next day gets on the phone and calls up the other guests to ask if they threw up all night, too. Is this a friend? My husband and I entertain frequently and I have a reputation for being a good cook. So far as I know I have never poisoned anybody. The other night I served a fish course as the appetizer. This is what my so-called friend claims made her sick. You know very well that if there's something wrong with fish you can smell it or taste it imme- diately. Everyone enjoyed my creamed sole and there wasn't a snidge left on any of the plates. This morning I had three calls from people who wanted to know if we were sick last night because Mrs. So-and-So had called them to say she was deathly ill and she was sure it was the fish. I'm beginning to think this woman made up the story just to undermine my ability as a hostess. Is this DEAB INDY: It's possible but not likely. I can't ima- gine a person fabricating such a fish story just for the halibut. Since no one else became ill, its' a sale assumption it was not your sole that made her sick, but something she ate elsewhere. (Maybe at Confidential to Trapped Like A Rabbit: Move out at the earliest possible moment and pay your mother whatever you can afford. If you continue to live at home and have a nervous breakdown, how much help will you be to her then? 1 GREEN'S ANNUAL SHOE SALE CONTINUES AND FURTHER REDUCTIONS ON MOST LINES SHOP EARLY FOR BEST SELECTION. WOMEN'S HEEL HUGGER PUMPS PURSES A NICE SELECTION DRESS PUMPS SANDALS LA VALLEY-GOLD-CROSS-PAVEl Selection Reg. to NOW ONLY SAVAGE-WOOLEY-ROSITA Selection Reg. to NOW ONLY NOW CHILDREN'S SHOES MUST BE CLEARED Children's winter boots i eluded. Busier Brown Savage Classmate. 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