Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - February 2, 1972, Lethbridge, Alberta
THE BETTER HALF By Bob Barnes "The villoin got shot, but the hero morried the girl...Things have a way of balancing out." Marital discord found preventable NEW YORK (MTV) There are many reasons for discord in the marriages of the over- 40 set, but some are definitely preventable, according to Dr. Eugene Cohen, Chief of the En- docrine Clinic at the New York Hospital Cornell Medical Cen- ter here. He maintains that the mature woman can avoid con- siderable marital grief, if she makes the necessary adjust- ment early enough to the phy- sical changes that will occur in her life. Dr. Cohen doesn't believe, as some do, that "things will work themselves' out" once a woman has "lived through" all the phy- sical symptoms of the meno- pause. At the first signs of dif- ficulty, he says estrogen re- placement therapy should be considered because her own body's supply of this hormone has diminished. "This is far more he maintains, "than permitting the situation to continue for two, three or four years." These signs of dif- ficulty, according to Dr. Law- rence Sonkin, another member of the Endocrine Clinic, in- clude: hot flushes, sweats, ting- ling and crawling sensations of the skin, muscle pains and spasms. Often, Dr. Sonkin ex- plains, these can detroy a wo- man' sense of well being, so she becomes depressed and fa- tigued and feels she has lot her nbilily to cope with life. LOOKING FOR COMFORT "Her husband meanwhile doesn't like coming home to sn irritable and depressed wo- Dr. Cohen points out, "so he begins looking for com- fort elsewhere." At the same time, he notes, their tiien adolescents or young ad- ulLs are having their own problems. "And if the meno- pausal woman isn't able to cope with these either, further fam- ily discord results." Dr. Colien cautions that al- STEREO FAIR See Page 7 though estrogen therapy en after the menopause _ may still relieve a woman's physi- cal symptoms, it obviously can- not repair the harm done to her relationship with her husband and children. "Once you have discord between a husband and a wife, it's like a crack in a he says, "very difficult to patch up." Some cases, he notes, have gone so far as to require special psychiatric as- sistance. RELIEF FROM SYMPTOMS Although there's a frequent tendency to view the symptoms of the woman over 40 as psy- chological rather than meno- pausai in origin, many mature women are now seeking out medical attention, Dr. Cohen and Dr. Sonkin report. This, they say, is either because the woman herself is aware that her symptoms are menopau- sal; or because her friends having already gone through the experience recognize the symptoms and suggest a visit to the doctor. The therapy In each case, Dr. Cohen points out, Is always in- dividualized. "Some women need very little estrogen to get complete relief from their symptoms, while others need greater amounts. Their own doctors will determine that." avi d ou.t 4 'own, Tau Chapter, Beta Sigma Phi, recently held a farewell party at the home of Mrs. Eu- nice Kirr in honor of Mrs. Kathi Zezulka who is moving to Halifax, N.S. A traditional spoon and baby were presented to Kathi. USE WOIIN SHEETS When sheets begin to wear, whip up extra pillow slips or sheets for a child's bed or crib from the sections that are not worn. Ann Landers DEAH ANN LANDERS: Please rush your answer because we have been having plenty of trouble over this question. I'll pul it as simply as possible. Is it fair for a woman to use sex to get her way wtih her husband? Ves or DO? DEAR MEMPHIS: It has been said that all Is fair In love and war. In your situation I see hoth so the answer to your question is yes. People cannot iie faulted for using whatever weapon serves' them best. DEAR ANN LANDERS: Several weeks ago you printed a letter from a Wyoming girl who wouldn't accept a date because she was ashamed to let the boys at school see her shabby home. Her Tridowed mother worked as a hotel insid and it was a struggle to keep body and soul together. My mother was in Hie same boat. Our home was the next (hing to a shack but it never occured to me to be ashamed of it. Mom kept it spotless and made it es attrac- tive as she could. But most of all our home was filled with love and laughter and Mom taught me to make ev- eryone fpel welcome. Now I am married to a fine irran and we have a lovely place. Mom is a semi-invaJid and we made an apartment for her on the second floor. Whenever my friends from the old days come over they never fail to ask if Ihey can go upstairs to see Mom: Isn't that a warm compliment? I hope every young girl who is ashamed of the place she lives in will see my letter and take heart. Friends worth having don't care about DEAR LUCKY: You are more than lucky. You were raised by a mother who had inner security, and that's far more important than financial security. The last sentence in your letter contains a world of wisdom. Every girl who is uncomfortable about the place she lives in should clip it out and tape it to her bedroom mirror. DEAR ANN LANDERS: After a few months of marriage OUT 19-year-old daughter was badgered into a wife-swapping arrangement by her husband who Is really crazy. Lucile fell for the other man and witliin weeks she her hus- band to live with him. I am not defending her because I think they all need psychiatric help. The problem is that my husband will not let Lucile in our home unless she comes alone. She wants to bring her gentle- man friend. (Neither is There are three younger children who miss their sister terribly. I believe her morals are her business. What do you DEAR T: I say if you welcome a married daughter with her swapped boyfriend, you are condoning the arrangement. Lucile should come alone. DEAR ANN LANDERS: What do you think about a per- son who has dinner at your home and the next day gets on the phone and calls up the other guests to ask if they threw up all night, too. Is this a friend? My husband and I entertain frequently and I have a reputation for being a good cook. So far as I know I have never poisoned anybody. The other eight I served a fish course as the appetizer. This is what my so-called friend claims made her sick. You know very well that if there's something wrong with fish you can smell it or taste it imme- diately. Everyone enjoyed my creamed sole and there wasn't a snidge left on any of the plates. This morning I had three calls from people who wanted to know if we were sick last night because Mrs. So-and-So had called them to say she was deathly ill and she was sure it was the fish. I'm beginning to think this woman made up the story just to undermine my ability as a hostess. Is this DEAR INDY: It's possible but not likely. I can't ima- gine a person fabricating such a fish story just for the halibut. Since no one else became ill, its' a safe assumption it was not your sole that made her sick, but something she ate elsewhere. (Maybe at Confidential to Trapped Like A Rabbit: Move out at the earliest possible moment and pay your mother whatever you can afford. If you continue to live at home and have a nervous breakdown, how much help will you be to her then? I- GREEN'S ANNUM SHOE SALE CONTINUES AND FURTHER REDUCTIONS ON MOST LINES SHOP EARLY FOR BEST SELECTION. WOMEN'S HEEL HUGGER PUMPS Short and Dis- conlinued linei only. 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W.dntidoy, Ftbruory 3, THE LETHBRIDGE HERALD Presbyterian women plan annual meeting The annual meeting of the Macleod Presbyterial WMS will be held in St. Andrew's Presbyterian Church, Letb- bridge, on Saturday. Registration will commence at a.m. with Rev. G. E. Williams, of Riverside Presby- terian Church, Medicine Hat, conducting o short worship when the meeting is convened al 10 a.m. Mrs. E. B. Day, Synodical President from Red Deer, and Mrs. Ruby Walker, Presbyter- inn Deaconess from Calgary, vrill be in attendance as well n-s women from Fort Macleod, .lumbo Valley and Medicine VOL. Lunch will be served at p.m. mid tho mecling will re- convene at p.m. All women of SI. Andrew's nre invilcd In ntlcnd either or morning and aflcrnoon sessions. A TRADITION IN LETHBRIDGE AND 58 four specialty.1 PFAIK 9 r kH It V MRS. MILNE'S 19-oz. AlKIGUTS MRSM.LNES L for 85 prjtpijgre o bM V II V MRS. MILNE'S 19-oz. 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