Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - December 18, 1971, Lethbridge, Alberta
S6 THf IFTHBR1DOE HERALD '.uiurdoy, December 18, J-amily Santa visits psychiatrists too! F5y MAUREEN JAM1E50N Marriage is tn prM! It's bad enmi.uh when flic rrcpc hangers about l.he "I a had marriage, bill when start in on lho ones, it's lime for this average, marriagee to gird up her Iritis and do battle. If you've risked Hie contempt of your literary friends and sneaked a peek at the Reader's Digest this montli you'll have rome .'.cross a fascinating lit- tle item about good marriages going bad. Now I ask you haven't v.e got enough trouble with the rotten ones, without people digging their claws inlo the good ones and ripping them aparl? Boredom, it says, is one factor. Now how can anyone possibly be bored. Jolly little jobs keep springing up ail over the place: darning socks, wash- ing dishes, ironing pants, scrubbing floors and lots of other Ami lor exciting nigbtime entertain- ment, how about carrying innumerable drinks of wa- ter in to the children'.' Is it any wonder we also have what the R.D. calls "fantasies about other mar- where people also darn socks, etc. and carry innumerable drinks of water Then, as in all marriages and marriage articles, sex rears its head The ideal picture of course is the little woman reclining on a chaise lounge and smelling of something at MOO an ounce.elegantly coif- furecl and almost-gowned in a cloud of filmy black, just waiting to melt inlo his I weedy or nylon arms. Reality usually bits him when he comes charging through the door and battles his way into the smoke filled kitchen, switching on the fan to clear the air and see if she's home. There she stands, the love of his life, a pan of burned carrots in one hand, wresting last nigiil's pot roast from the cat with the other. What's more, he's darned lucky if she's made it to the mirror and dragged a comb through her hair. And truthfully, v.hal man married for more than a year or so can maintain a high level of interest in his fenime with hunger pangs in his lummy and assorted children hanging on to his coattails. Mind you. it isn't only the R.D. that's spreading all this matrimonial gloom. Only last week a local pyschiatrist hinted darkly that not all people who think they have good mar- riages do liif; only thmk they do. Personally, that's a delusion I'm all for keeping intact, and'a on (he man who wants to destroy it.' "I don't think you can have a perfect relation- ship unless the partners are free to he also said. Now that's really hitting below the belt! All these years I've thought the .lamiesons. even if a borderline case, were at least on the plus side of the marriage ledger. To suddenly discover, after all this time, that we've had the skids underneath us and not, known anything about it, is a pretty shattering experience. Mind you. I don't really mind William feeling free to go. It's just that when he goes, I like to feel he's firmly shackled to his conscience and can't do anything 1 wouldn't want him to anyway. Of course 1 also like him to remember he's free to come and spend a little time at home now and then, too: in between badminton, swimming, sea ca- dets, working overtimci'.'i and so on- Come to think of it, maybe we're on Dip right side of the ledger after all. f can say with perfect honesty he's free to go at anv lime. There's only one tiny hitch he lakes the chil- dren, and I take the monev ARDIS BRATRUD Alberta Aberdeen-Angus Ouei n Pert cattle queen says job is THRISTMAS Is Bale. Santa IBS risen above the scepticism of his detractors and will ride ir.yirily through the skies this Christmas Eve. Two Lethbridgo psychia- trists, asked Ihcir profes- sional opmiion of this very important personage, bolii quoted the late Dr. Brock Chisholm, former president of the World Health Organi- zation. According to Dr. Lawrence Kotkas, Dr. Chisliohn's atti- :nde was that benevolent old llr. C. is "a symbol of the materialistic attitude." Dr. James 'ITiompson said te thought Dr. Chisholra had "a slrong point" when lie said it predisposed children to psychiatric illness, helped fern lose faith in their parents and trust in people in general. People should "explain it as what t is right he .said. However mim unhesitatingly and mihlushingly ad- mitted that the old gcnlleman will be visiting their homes on December '1A. "I think they still believe in Santa, said Dr. Thom- son, speaking of his younger children. "1 don't fellow that rule with my own children." Dr. Kot- I as explained, carefully adding "we can try and find out more about what it means and how it effects children; how it molds attitudes towards hypocracy. Maybe it does harm hut the majority discovers it "pleasant [iction, but fic- tion nevertheless. The Santa Clause lie said, "is good basically, with those caveats." After all, "presents are concrete evidence of parents' love for their children and they want to show them the whole world loves them." Christmas loo commercial? 'I wouldn't agree with said Dr. Thompson. "There is no harm in commercialism. It is part of tire way of life in North America, and you've got to accept that. 1 wouldn't use the term commercialization at "Christmas really isn't the kind of holiday it should said Dr. Kotkas. Although be considers he has the traditional -ithtude that it is too commercial, "my feeling about il is similar, but on a different basis." "The thing that strikes me is that instead of being a happy holiday, it really becomes the re-enactment of the cru- cifixion usually for the mother, or for both parents. he said, "turn themselves inside out lo make it a big deal fcr the but "they are trying so hard tn make It n big deal they destroy themselves m the pro- cess. So they can't give the kids much of themselves, which Is what children really need and want." Can cause emotional strain "This is a bad time for people who don't have very Dr. Koilias said, and part of the problem is compe- tition with neighbors, cither by parents or by the children who bug Lbeir parents for things. "Parents don't have the self-esteem and self-confidence to say 'you don't need that, you've get he added. Many people arc separated from their relatives, which la destructive of human good, according to Dr. Kotkas, and at this season "attempt to fill the void with material things as a substitute." "And it's often an emotional strain for other he explained. People who are depressed or unhappy find their noses being nibbed in the fact of their less-than-perfect life at this time. Dr. Thompson, who was associated with the mental In- stitute in Ponoka for many years before coming to Lethbridge, said in effeel when people are cut off from the community, Christmas becomes especially important. "Some patients at the mental hospital that's what they live for Christmas day, and opening their cards and Is there a Chrismas spirit? "It's a good thing. It gets a lot of people together helps them get over old differences. Some people say it's tisst tiir.e of the year, ii would be shame tn destroy Dr. Thompson said. It's also real to Dr. Kotkas. "At Chrislmas time, many people do consciously try to open up to other people.'' however he added the warning that "this can result in emo- tional pain if (the person is) rebuffed." "One good thing we should emphasize a lot more than we do is that our whole trend is to emphasize just material things." "We should be using our tremendous human resources he said, citing as an example, people in an old folks tome who have taken a group of retarded children under tlsir collective wing. "People need to be needed, he said. And the Christinas spirit is a good place to start. and the Leave off Leftover ham CHRISTMAS PERM SPECIAL PERMS JS0-W PERMS Reg. 12.50. NOW HAIRCUT, SHAMPOO AND SET. Rccj. 5.75 Specials t-ood on Monday, Tuesday, Dec. 20 and 21. Also Tuesday and Wednesday, Dec. 28 and 29. 11.75 8.75 NOW 4.00 THERESA'S BEAUTY SALON 14 Professional Bldg. 740 4th Av V.'h.if ran a pretty 17-year-old gal with pc-reonality, charm j sparkling eyes possibly' contribute to a livestock show j other than filamor? j Ardis Brstrud, Alberta Aber- j Queen from Turn- j or Valley provided the glamor j and contributors provided the Iho Rocky Mount a'n Livestock Khow and Sclo in 11 fi put on the largest j Angus show in Lethbridge his- lory. Gkimor I? really a bonus far th? and the Her real job is pro sent ing ribbons and trophies to to winners. Mic participated in the Cal- gary livestock show before corning to Lethbridgc. Correction Members and new members of the Lelhbridge and District i u.fKmKTs Pemmican Club may i p i i t t r t kcls for the an- n 1 1 '1 i Dec. or 30 from 2 IF lit" club rooms lo- j c ted t i n St and Ave. S. A high school senior at the Tumor Valley Hipb School, Ar- dis enjoys horseback riding and basketball when she is not gracing the show ring. Being queen i.s just plain fun for her and "meeting people is the best port." She was named queen after beinu peleek'd by fho women's auxiliary to the Alberta Aber- deen-Angus Association in .Tan- uarv. I When in doubt as you sew! Don't throw away the last of homemade garments, leave off ham. Dice it and add to con- I rsther than add extra row of i denied black bean, bean and 1 tucks or lace, braid, ribbon or j bacon, cream of chicken or j bows. i any of the vegetable soups. HELP US TO HELP OTHER51 The Salvation Army Welfare Services Needs Clothing, Furniture, Toys, Household Effects CALL 328-2860 FOR PICKUP SERVIC1 OR LEAVE AT 412 1st AVE. 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