Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - December 17, 1970, Lethbridge, Alberta
18 THE IETHBRIDGE HERAtD Thuridoy, Docembor 17, 1970 For The Record By MARILYN ANDERSON Herald Family Editor THE necessity for prompt legislation on a "coming of age" or'the age of legality was pointed out. in a rather small incident in Edmonton courts last week. The inHdent was small, that is, in that a youth charged for obtaining liquor under the legal age is neither novel nor unique. But the circumstances were. In Alberta the age of legality is still 21. Attor- nev-General Edgar Gerhart has stated that the prov- ince favors a lower age and it certainly can t come The to determine the age of legality re- mains with the provinces, and thus it differs across the country. f This presents few problems to the majority ol travellers, unless you're between the age of 19 ana il. One expects when travelling from country to country to run into a different set of laws and regu- lations" laws and regulations being formed as a part of the culture of the country and to satisfy the so- cial mores of the people. One hardly expects that one Canadian is con- sidered an adult, whereas another Canadian of the same age and circumstances living 10 miles away, Tlie Edmonton situation is a case in point. The young man had just passed his 20th birth- day and was being charged with obtaining liquor under the legal age of 21. He had just moved here from Saskatcnewan where the legal age is now 19. He told the magistrate that he is finding it dun- cult to have been given adulthood and then move to another province and have it taken away. One can say that he knew the Alberta regulation and even surmise that perhaps he was purposely ig- noring it. It doesn't matter. His statement is valid. In B.C. a 19-year-old can obtain liquor, (the most familiar vote in a provincial election, and many without parental consent. The same holds true on the other side of the border in Saskatchewan. The consideration to lower the age of legality was made last spring at the first sitting of the legis- lature. Discussion now seems to centre as to whether it should be dropped to 19 or IB. MLA John C. Landeryou says he favors 18 be- cause young people can be accepted into the army, and that 18-year-olds now are more mature than yesteryears youth. We can't guarantee that age is maturity; that a 25-year-old is going to be mature, but if a limit has to be set, let's at least give the 19-year-old a chance. Many of them hold down responsible jobs. Many of them are teaching school. Some of them are providing much of a family's financial support. It's only realistic to assume that adulthood is synonymous with responsibility. What a scream there would be if we took it away like the right to vote if it weren't exercised in three years and probably the right to consume the grape would get a louder reception. Canadian will hold the annual Christmas vesper service in McKi Hop United Church on Sunday at 7 p m The service will iucluile congregational carol singing and nativity tableau HERE WE COME A-CAROLLING Members of Tau Chapter Beta Sigma Phi visited the Auxiliary Hospital this week to sing Christmas carols with patients. Wel- coming the sorority members, and joining in the singing were patients left to right, Joseph Kortin, Austin Crapo, Cecil Hutton and Avie Johnson. ______ -'ill Wl il a.m. in the College Mall. DONE IN OUDTSHOOHN, South Africa A farmer said one of with ill) i his liens laid a six-ounce egg, and nativity tauiecut i iu'vi ails and 10 leaders to the mu- three times the normal size w r, n- i dimbcd off her nest and dropped dead. sic of Mrs. R. L. F. Lewis. Fea- lined guests will be Miss Judy Kaipiak, department president and Mrs. D. MacKay, superin- tendent. Everyone is welcome. The Lethbridge Old Time Dance Club is holding a dance ?nd Christmas party on Satur- dav at the Assumption School (2ilh St. and 14th Ave. SJ at p.m. Everyone welcome. Music by the Westerners. a 'Hie Southminster Junior Girls Choir, the Anne Campbell Singers and the Teen Clefs will meet in the Civic Sports Cen- tre, Saturday at a.m. to board the bus to Calgary for the choral festival in the Westbrook Vall. All members are request- ed to bring a bag of lunch and teouired uniforms. Tau Chapter of Beta Sigma MAKING COMEBACK TORONTO (CP) Homo canning is making a comeback, says a spokesman for one com- pany that makes lids for glass canning jars. Gord Keller, sales manager for Anchor Cap and Closure Corp., of Toronto, said his company's sales of canning jar lids were up this year com- pared with last. Breaking the communication barrier part four Family life education Fathers pay out to deserted wives, children EDMONTON (CP) More; Mr. Way said in an interview than men paid an esti-l that a change in divorce laws mated S752.COO in 1970 to sup-: in July, 1968 is one reason for port wives and children they: the increase but "increased had deserted in northern Al-; population and increased mo- berta. Gerald Way, chief coun- i bility also have to be consider- sellor for the family court in ed." Edmonton said here Applications for maintenance The court handles non sup- or support in family court fell port cases from Red Deer to i under the Domestic Relations the Northwest Territories nor- j Act and about 90 per cent of der. j the cases involved separation There were 579 applications j not divorce, for support in the family court j A married woman may apply in fiscal 19iO. which ended I for maintenance if she is sen- March 31, compared with 374 in! arated from her husband, even fiscal 1967 j if she has no children. The amount a man may be ordered by the court to pay for support is usually consistent with the amount he earns and the size of the family. "Some men pay as little as a month while others may pay as much as or 5250." Mr. Way said Alberta has a reciprocal agreement with all provinces except Quebec to to- j cate husbands and inform them of their financial rcsponsibili- fjk i ties and encourage them to pay support money. In Quebec free u'nlc-ss him that he has a moral obli W IN DOUBT GIVE HIM GENUINE SEALSKIN BOOTS SEE OUR WINDOWS BENEFIT SHOES LTD. 615 4th Ave. S. Phone 327-7300 OPEN THURSDAY AND FRIDAY TILL 9 P.M. By LEROY ANGLE Lellibrictgc Family Service fOHN and Mary's marriage was smooth most of the tiir.e. However, periodi- cally they would have a real argument, and it seemed to be always about money. John and Mary were not rich, though John earned a good salary. They bought some furniture and household necessities on credit, which took time to off. Then there was the ex- pense of a new baby. And John needed a new car. Mary need- ed an automatic washer and dryer while the children were small. So it seemed they need- ed one thing after another, and they were always buying on credit. John felt uneasy alwavs owing money and would have loved to have had all his bills paid so they could pay cash. But it seemed he could never catch up. As a result, John began to feel discouraged, and became quite irritable when his pay cheque would not go as far as he hoped, or when Mary bought something he didn't think was necessary. For some time he did not let his emotions show, but lately he has not been able to control the anger of frustra- tion that has been building up within him. So he has lately been quite "short" with Mary when she bought something he did not think was necessary. She just never seemed to listen when he told her that they were going to have to cut down on tbeir spending! Mary tco has become angry. For a time she did not say any- thing when John got angry. How ever, lately it has become too much. She" has not spent money foolishly nor selfishly. She too would like to get out of debt, but the cost of living is rising and money will only stretch so far! And there are minimum neces- sities which a family has to have! It seemed that she could not make John understand that she was doing the best she could with the money available. He just never seemed to listen when she tried to tell him these things. He just never seemed to lis- ten! Or she just never seemed to listen! John and Mary's frus- tration regarding their financial s'.ruggle has produced a sense of frustration with one another, 'i hese g r o wing negative feel- ings ate away at their emotion- al affection and t h r c a tened I heir communication as well as their entire marriage. When- ever they discussed money-mat- ters they would go through the same argument and end up at identically the same where! Nothing seemed to change! The other just never seemed to Because Mary became very concerned about the feelings that had developed between them she took the initiative to go to a family counsellor for help. As she related her story to him she expressed her feel- ing that John just didn't seem to understand her. Try as she might by quiet discussion or heated argument he just didn't seem to understand her point of view. After hearing her sine of the ttory, the counsellor asked her if she would describe John's feelings about their budgeting. To her surprise and some em- barrassment she found that she had difficulty doing so because she was not tco sure how he did feel about it. She would have to go home and ask him. She had learned that in her de- sire to have John understand her. she did not really try to understand him. She had ac- cused him of not listening! Was she not listening either? When Mary got home and told John what she had done, he also went to the marriage coun- sellor. He also discovered that though talking and listening suem to be such simple things to do they do not always result in communication. With the help of the marriage counsellor John and Mary learn- ed to discuss their emotional feelings with one another and how important this is for com- munication. Of course they still do not always agree with one enother especially concern- ing money matters. They still have their difference of opin- ions. But now they are able to communicate so that they have the feeling that the other lis- TAKE CARE Keep stairways uncluttered and adequately lighted and be sure your stairways have steady handrails. PUBLIC BINGO 16 GAMES JACKPOT IETHBRIDGE ELKS LODGE ROOM (Upstairs) EVERY THURS.- 8 p.m. (ASTEDO I FURNITURE Phone 327-7711 522 5th STREET S. CFFALL FURNITURE ON THE FLOOR LAMPS TABLES CHESTERFIELDS _ ODD CHAIRS Odyssey house closed Odyssey House, 1001 2 Ave. S. has been closed as of this week according to owner Made- liene Soderstrom. The house was was converted into a student co-op with students of the Leth- bridge Community College, Uni- versity of Lethbridge and other interested persons. There was no further financ- I [lit: IIULIOC Quebec "the man is scot; transient youth hostel under 11................-------...... unless we can convince (iircctjon of the Youth Services ing available to keep the house -U1! Council during the summer in operation and (lie project has gallon to provide for his wife months. On Oct. 15, the centre I been completely terminated. and family." I "The guy in Quebec can tell I us to go to hell, and we can't I do anything about it." i In cases where the husband i can not be located or lives in Queliec but will not pay, the department of social develop- i ment allocates funds to the wife and-or children. JACKPOT BINGO This Thursday Evening, December 17th STARTS P.M. SHARP PARISH HALL CORNER nil. STREET B AND 7th AVENUE NORTH Jackpot Sfarls al and is Won Every Thursday Z5t PER CARD OR 5 FOR ALSO FREE CARDS, FREE GAMES AND A DOOR PRIZE untlor 16 years not nllowed Sponsored by Indies' Aid of Si. and 51. 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