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Lethbridge Herald, The (Newspaper) - August 19, 1970, Lethbridge, Alberta 16 THE LETHBRIDGE HERALD Wednesday, August 19, 1970------ 15 Children IiiThe Ileliner Family Foster Parents Draw Children Into Warm Circle Of Love By MARILYN ANDERSON Herald Family Editor There was an old woman who lived in a shoe the rhyme doesn't quite fit Mrs. Bud Hel- mer, but with a family of 15 children, she is surrounded hy children every day. Young, blonde and vivacious, Mrs. Helmer has become a mother to many youngsters in the past seven years. She and her husband are two of the city's foster parents, and of the 15 children now in their care, two are their natural children, nine are foster children and four are "just visiting." "They're staying with us until the mother has things straight- ened out a explains Mrs. Helmer simply. One might hardly know what to expect upon entering a house with 15 children. At the Hel- mers' you might find it was fairly quiet, with the younger children and babies in bed for a nap, the middling ones watch- ing Snow White on television for their quiet time and the older teen-agers off on their own tasks. The children are wards of the Alberta government under the supervision of the Department of Social Development and will remain so until they are adopt- ed, reunited with their own families or reach the age of 21. Mrs. Helmer said the first foster baby was the hardest to let go. They had intended to adopt it and at the last moment the mother and father were re- united as a family and wanted the baby back. "I didn't want to take any more after that." she recalls, "but a social worker called and asked if we would take an- other, and here we are with 15." The most the household has held is 18 children. The problems of managing a family with 15 children are not too different from those of a smaller one. Shopping for instance, means larger quantities and bulk buy- ing especially meat, but the items are the same. "It's a real catastrophe if we run out of peanut butter, ketchup, or strawberry jam. And I have to go shopping soon because I'm out of cheese. You can't be out of cheese in this says Mrs. Helmer. A dishwasher eases the load and the automatic washer is going every day. Organization seems to be the keyword for Mrs. Helmer's suc- cessful routine. She likes to have her cleaning done by limchtime and prepares supper vegetables early in the day. She even finds time to sew clothes for herself and her chil- dren. Mrs. Helmer has taken 12 of the children shopping at a time and can't understand mothers who want to drop off their one or two with neighbors. Holidays were out this year due to the size of the family, but trips include everyone. "We either all go or no one emphasized Mr. Helmer, Park Lake trips are frequent as Mrs. Helmer find swimming pools too crowded to keep track of them all. "You should just see us when we pile out at a drive-iii restaurant" laughed Mrs. Hel- mer. Christmas is a very special time in the Helmer household even though it incurs extra ex- penses. The children are given a little money each to buy gifts and small they may be but everyone is equally included. Mrs. Helmer has her own philosophy of love, patien-ce and discipline about raising chil- dren. [I never put anything away like an ornament or vase. Chil- dren have to learn what they can touch and what they can't. My sewing machine is safe from little hands, so is my purse." Perhaps her most important characteristic is the concern she feels for children, her own natural children, or her foster children. This concern is evi- dent thoughout her conversa- tion. "I wouldn't ever make any distinction between any children in my home. Every- one gets a birthday cake, and presents and party we're one family unit. "Some of the children haven't had parties and cakes and pres- ents before. and they don't un- derstand what we're doing. "The older girls we've had are especially suspicious of us. They'll say 'why arc you doing this for us. What do you want us here for? You don't know us. You can't love us.' One young woman, now a part of the Helmer family, said the knowledge that the Helmers cared about her made a new and different person out of her. "I'd been in and out of foster homes and when I came here I was a spoiled brat. I'd close right up in a shell. When things went wrong I'd leave a note for Mom which you in a couple of weeks.'" "Once when I tried taking off, she came after me and hauled me right off the bus." Mrs. Hel- mer explained. "I told the bus driver that I wanted to take my daughter off Uie bus. He said there wasn't anyone young enough to be my daughter. "Oh, yes, there is, I said, and I'm taking her home." And she did. Yet there's a difference be- tween this stow of force and another more subtle one in the home. None of the children, even the teens, are given jobs to do or made to help in any way. "If they want to .'.it in their rooms all day and just play records that's up to them. I won't make them do anything. It just takes a while though be- fore they realize that being part of the family is being in- volved in the family." Mrs. Bud Helmer enjoys a quiet moment outdoors with a mere ten of her 15 children, the majority of which are under 6 years. Two are her natural children, nine are foster children and four are "just visiting." That's what the Helmers of- fer children, a family and a home. Home for the Helmers is a seven bedroom two storey house, which includes an addi- tion built especially for an en- larged family. The Helmers applied for and received a government license in order to be able to have more than four foster children at one time. The license insures that wir- ing, plumbing and other health and safety features of the house have been inspected. The children are not stacked ia bedrooms. They each have Helmer that he is "your very own boy." Children don't just come and go at the Helmers'. "We've had and still do have a number of children with medical problems who might be considered un- adoptable. Most adoptive par- ents want babies. I'd like to adopt them all, but I couldn't possibly begin to afford it." Special shoes, medical bills and a living allowance is paid for by the provincial govern- ment. There's one little chap with a continuously cheery smile who needed a back brace when he was still liny. Another wee her Do Accomplishments Of Young Affect Old? The Fight Of The Feminists: From Suffrage To Status By ALISON GODDARD Even though the advertise- ment assures women have "come a long the femin- ists insist their sex is just taking its first baby steps to- ward equality. So on August 26 they plan RIPLEY OPTICAL DISPENSING OPTICIAN "Where service means serving people" 618 3rd Ave. S. PHONE 328-7626 a day of protest. That date is special because it marks the 50th anniversary of the ratifi- cation of the Constitutional amendment guaranteeing women the right to vote. Ear- lier feminists, the suffragettes, fought for this. Their modern successors range from the militant groups (WITCH, SCUM and others) to the more conservative NOW, organized originally by author Betty Friedan. She be- came high priestess of the movement with the publication THE LETHBRIDGE COMMUNITY COLLEGE AND THE ALBERTA ASSOCIATION OF REGISTERED NURSES WILL ORGANIZE A REFRESHER COURSE FOR INACTIVE NURSES If there are sufficient applicants Interested Nurses should contact the SCHOOL OF CONTINUING EDUCATION LETHBRIDGE COMMUNITY COLLEGE, LETHBRIDGE in 1963 of her best-seller, "The Feminine an indict- ment of the traditional image of the American housewife. Unfortunately, the image of the feminist cause has been distorted somewhat by the anti-family, anti-men and anti- bra adherents. But the move- ment is picking up both mo- mentum and converts daily among middleclass, middle- aged suburban housewives. AIMS Essentially, t h e feminists seek social, political, economic and domestic equality. They hope to achieve this with the repeal of abortion laws, estab- lishment of day-care centres for women who choose, to com- bine marriage and a career (almost 11-million women with children under 18 are working a sharing of paren- tal and domestic duties, and an end to laws that discriminate against women. These range from "protective" laws in many states that effectively ex- clude women from better jobs and higher pay to laws that Avenue has the very newest in University and Campus Style Shoes For on and off the Campus SEE THE NEW "TEAR DROP PLAY PEN" With outside heel in black patent. Priced from NEW TAN SUEDE CREPE SOLE 2 Strap Loafers Ideal for long, long, long, wear. Pair, only 12 ASK TO SEE THE NEW OBUQUE TOE SHOES The current rage across tho country now being featured at Avenue Shoes. We've many new styles to choose from, reasonably priced from 10.35 SEE THE NEW "WET LOOK" Blue and Red will be the colors for Fall see our many exclusive styles high chunk, medium chunk, and flattie heels. WE CANNOT IMPRESS YOU ENOUGH WITH WORDS TO SEE AVENUE FIRSTI AVENUE SHOES McFARLAND BLDG., LETHBRIDGE deny women independent credit or exclude them from obtaining a mortgage to pur- chase a house. In some states husbands can sue for divorce if the wife fails to keep the house clean; in one state a woman's clothes legally belong to her husband. CHANGING HOLES Both the Civil Rights Act of 1964, which prohibits discrim- ination in employment on the basis of sex, and the civil rights protest movement help- ed boom the feminist cause. Also important are the nearly 30-million women now in the labor market, the majority in relatively low-paying jobs. Ameri can women represent 51 per cent of the population. By the year 2000, according to experts, they will be in an even greater percentage, particular- ly among senior citizens. In their grandmothers' genera- tion, the average woman's life ended with her reproductive capacity. But now women live well beyond the menopause, with a life expectancy of over 74 years. Understandably, the long- er life span can bring changes in the health, well-being and sex life of women. For in- stance, many menopausal problems have been traced to hormonal unbalance because at menopause the female body's production of estrogen declines. But'it is now possible to relieve menopausal symp- toms by replacing the estrogen through medication. TOMORROW'S WORLD The majority of mature wom- en, according to reports, are hostile to the feminists. Many tend to view this movement as another demand for change in a society that has already changed too much. Along with the changes in family life are others in that once helped strengthen the family religion, school, law and gov eminent. Added to these are the revolts of the young, typi fied by the hippie cult, the drug scene, the sexual revolution campus unrest, nudity in fash ions and pornography in masi entertainment. Reception For Father McCann Father McCann, of St. Pat rick's Roman Catholic Church will be honored at a reception Sunday prior to his leaving the city. The reception is to be helt in the parish hall at 8 p.m The public has been invited to attend. Father McCann takes up new duties in Vancouver on August 30. FROM NORTH LETHBRIDGE'S NEW TEEN SPECIALTY STORE You'll find Back-To-School clothing designed to please. All the very latest styles at grealy reduced prices. LADIES' AND TEENS' AND PANT SUITS CHILDREN'S WEAR LOWER FLOOR OFF GOBY'S FASHIONS "Catering To The Young At Heart" 322 13th St. N. Phone 327-5687 child needs privacy and something that belongs to him, says Mrs. Helmer firmly. "We could handle wiiu vvuuu Hum iiui nap was promptly cuddled by one of the teens. After patiently posing for pictures, the parade of youngsters headed outside to little girl or little boy but more Helmer said the neigh- "In tine first place we haven't complained about have teen-age boys in the children. "They think house not when we have crazy." A petition wenl age girls and we have four the neighborhood when When we took the first Helmers requested permis- girls someone asked why to add on to their house didn't take just one to start it didn't go too far. we have the usual chil- "I didn't know fights. Our children tone about teen-agers because be very protective about own two were still little, other and take sides I felt that two teen-agers outsiders." better company for each other. They can talk about little tots pad in from outside "for a cracker." One. and clothes and have more three four, five a common. So we took two for each one. Bud Helmer says he takes more than care or that the women gang up on for foster parents to occasionally, but it's all in on other people's children As a typical father to It takes love. age girls, he escorts them when the Helmers give the aisle at their weddings love they have, they're get- their own request. He's also there to listen when they it back 15-fold. to talk to someone, and with the younger THREE STEPS The majority of the at the present time are six under. Three will start this year and two the next. One child has been HELP ed about the use of his name at school. He thinks STOP himself as a member of Helmer family and tells Part USE OUR COMMERCIAL USE OUR SOFTENED USE OUR PURE SOAP CONCENTRATE Soap is FREE shouldn't be, But each victory the come and see, ists win will change the out of our tree! tions, if not the Eves of women. Richard E. 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