Florence Morning News Newspaper Archives Oct 13 1957, Page 30

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Florence Morning News (Newspaper) - October 13, 1957, Florence, South CarolinaMarriage is a one Way Compromise by Katherine create i became a Bride like most Young wives i was Given something old something new a Cookbook he Adful of romantic platitudes. My Mother insisted that the Way to a Man s heart is through his my aunt winked knowingly and suggested that both the lord and she loved big families. And my Mother in Law told me to Stop working at once for two can live As cheaply As no one not even our forthright Clergyman burdened this innocent Bride with the real facts of life. I m not talking about the Birds and bees but rather the first Rule of marriage is a one sided Compromise. Perhaps does t take a Bride Long to learn this Little lesson. One Friend told me she discovered it As she climbed into the car after her wedding. Happily anticipating the Honey Moon trip her Groom had secretly planned she begged him to reveal their destination. You he teased. She asked hopefully. Bermuda new York to each the Young Groom Shook his head. Then o for most of us the Awakening is not so rude. We do get to Bermuda or Florida or Coney Island any sooner or later All of us learn that marriage rests 80 percent on the wife . One of my relations a woman now in her sixties often tells the Story of her Early married life and her Hopes for a House. She knew what she wanted she d even seen the compact Little Home of her dreams. But each time she pressed her husband about a House 6 family weekly october 13, 1957 he said wait our Bank account is still too she waited. Finally one Day they went for a drive. I be a Surprise for the husband said parking his car in front of a Large barn like Structure. I bought this House for you last week and to simplify things i got the rugs and furniture As the Young wife walked through the sunless rooms packed with ugly furniture her eyes filled with tears. Troubled the husband said look if you re still unhappy after we be tried living in it a while Why Well she was unhappy about that House through three children five grandchildren and 35 years. But like mrs. Calvin Coolidge whose first Home was bought for she lived in it. Most wives these Days Are allowed some say in buying and furnishing a Home. But after the last has been added How often is an oversized Footstool or a shabby easy chair rolled Back into the living room to ruin the decor and what does a conscientious spouse say when her husband growls it s my House in t it Don t i deserve a Little there s a simple thing like food simple that is if you serve what he likes the Way he likes it. Generally this Means the Way his Mother used to make it if you Don to then it s even simpler for As All brides quickly learn you eat the Stew tears. My Mother talked about a Man s heart and stomach but she neglected to mention a Man s taste. She had illusions of pheasant under Glass and shrimp Dejonghe. Little did she realize that her daughter would one Day keep Romance alive on frankfurters. Looking around though i consider myself Lucky. I May have said a permanent Farewell to poultry rare meat mushrooms and a Long list of other delicacies but at least my husband eats leftovers. I know plenty of wives who Haven t served their favor Ite food for years and who be never served the same dish two Days running yet Are criticized for straining the family budget budgets How weary i get of the old saws about the Little wife breaking the family Bank and depriving her Young of All for the Sake of a gorgeous new hat. Most of my friends go hatless and furless and they stay that Way because their Hus bands would rather drive a new car. Lots of women Are Long Range planners and savers who work hard to boost their family s Standard of living but fail because their husbands can t resist monogrammed shirts fishing tackle or outboard motors. Men believe in budgets until they want some thing badly then everything is forgotten. There is no better example of a Man s Way in a Man s world than hobbies. This is True of camera and diets do it yours Elfers and Amateur artists but Golf ers Lead the Field. If a wife is Lucky she likes the game. About 10 percent of our five million golfers Are women largely wives who Limp about the links on the theory that if you can t fight pm join the widows stay Home and supper for social lives and hopefully for Winter. In our House the budget and the Balmy Days Are spent on the Blue rather than on the for the head of our House is head Over heels in love with a Small boat Piso Facto we go boating every free moment of the summer. Do i like making sandwiches would i prefer base Ball or Tennis do i even like boats frankly i can t remember Ever being asked either i keep the family afloat or i sink into a Long summer alone. Co7tlinucd on Page is

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