Wednesday, August 23, 1995

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New Braunfels Herald-Zeitung (Newspaper) - August 23, 1995, New Braunfels, Texas j0 HeraldZeitung 0 Wednesday August Opinion To talk with Managing Editor Doug Loveday about the Opinion page call 6259144 ext 21 Opinion Online contact To submit letters and guest columns electronically by way of online services or Internet or to simply contact staff members the HeraldZeitungs address is Again and again the most careful of polls will record at one and the same time public opinion applauding the press for its watchdog role and condemning it for abuse of that Michael C Janeway journalism dean 1994 EDITORIAL Hospital foundation Formation of corporation another smart move to maintain McKennas health Exhibiting the foresight and wise management that has been its hallmark since the origins of the hospital those who guide and direct the affairs of McKenna Memorial Hospital have set about forming a foundation to help fund the hospitals future The foundation is a corporation separate from the hospital itself It is needed hospital officials say to help find ways to cope with declining sources of revenue such as reimbursements from Medicare and Medicaid and increasing demands for a variety of services such as preventive wellness programs and acute care and for the latest technology in a world where todays latest is tomorrows Gifts to the foundation will be kept private and contributions are tax deductible A variety of ways to contribute are available ranging from direct cash contributions to bequests A list of the foundations leadership can do nothing but instill confidence in the quality of its management The foundations chairman is Dr Stanley Woodward its vice chairman is Dr Bill Reeves its secretarytreasurer is Dennis Heitkamp and its membership includes Bill Cone and David Speakers are available to meet with civic groups to talk about and answer questions regarding the foundation To arrange that or just to seek more information yourself call Jennifer Covington at 6069111 extension 442 Todays editorial was written by David Sullens editor and pub lisher of the New Braunfels Write us The New Braunfels HeraldZeitung welcomes letters on any public issue The editor reserves the right to correct spelling style punctua tion and known factual errors Letters should be kept to 250 words We publish only original mail addressed to the New Braunfels Herald Zeitung bearing the writers signature Also an address and a telephone number which are not for publication must be included Please cite the page number and date of any article that is mentioned Preference is given to writers who have not been published in the previous 30 days MaU letters to Letters to the Editor the New Braunfels HeraldZeitung Drawer 311328 New Braunfels Texas 781311328 New Braunfels HeraldZeitung Editor and Publisher David Sullens General Manager Cheryl DuVall Managing Editor Doug Loveday Advertising Director Tracy Stevens Circulation Director Carol Ann Avery Pressroom Foreman Douglas Brandt Classified Manager KimWeitzel City Editor Roger Croteau Published on Sunday mornings and weekday mornings Tuesday through Friday by ihc New liraunfels HeruidZeilung USPS 377880 707 Landa or Drawer 3 1 1 328 New Braunfels Cumal Counly Tx 78 1 3 1 1 328 Second class postage paid by the New Braun fels HeriMTfims in New Braunfels Texas Carrier delivered in ComaJ and Guadajupc counties three months six months one year Senior Citizen Discounts by cauier delivery only six months one year Mail delivery outside Comal County in Texas three months six months one year outside Texas six months one year Subscribers who have not received newspaper by Tuesday through Friday or by on Sunday may call 210 6259144 or weekdays or by 1 1 Children appreciate schedules This is the third article in a series addressing what children need from their parents following divorce These are general guidelines only but can help par ents be sure the needs of their children are addressed as quickly as possible The first article addressed the need for children to be free to love and be loved by both parents and their significant others as that and to have time with both parents with out loyalty binds The second article addressed the need for parents to establish and maintain respectful communication with each other Ongoing conflict between parents is a main contributor to childrens emotional distress and poor adjustment to the divorce The negative effects of parental conflict are worsened when the hostility is passed to the other parent through the children This article will address childrens need for pre dictability of schedule and expectations The fourth article will address the need for children to be finan cially supported in a responsible way and given enough quality time with parents As a general rule children even adults tend to do better when their lives are managed in a routine Children usually function better if they get up at a similar time have a similar daily routine activities homework meals hygiene bedtime and go to bed at a similar time Routines are typically good for all children but become even more important when life situations become disrupted when a child or the childs family becomes emotionally distressed Frequently the children I see in therapy have moderate to severe behavior problems One of the more common aspects of the families even intact families with behaviordisordered children is that the children often have no routine This may be due to the children resisting routine or the parents not feeling routine is important but regardless the child does not have enough structure or limits Some common problems include kids having no bedtime even twoor threeyearolds up until mid or kids refusing to sleep in their own bed and instead sleep with their In some families chil Nancy Logan dren resist eating healthy foods or using ageappropriate table manners and instead are allowed to snack all day eating fatty fast foods with their fingers Frequently children are not responsible for ageappropri ate chores because monitoring that the chores get done or toler ating the complaints appears hard er than doing it for them The list goes on and on These kids almost always have problems fitting in to society Parents are not really helping the kids although it is usually their intent to do so They want their kids to be happy and dont want their kids to cry or be mad at them Parents are tired and dont want the fuss that comes with setting limits The problem is that the solution makes the problems worse These problems seem to become even more com mon when there is a divorce and parents are feeling guilty When feeling guilty parents often become too permissive and do not provide enough structure for kids KIDS NEED STRUCTURE AND ROUTINE firmly but lovingly enforced Furthermore parents who are emotionally hurting may turn to children to help meet their own needs They may keep kids up later for company or let children sleep with them because they dont like sleeping alone They may try to win a favor over the other parent and become more a buddy than a parent It is important for parents to remember that as life gets more difficult structure predictability and rou tine become more important As another example when parents divorce visi tation becomes an issue The days of the week the child will be with each parent needs to become clear ly established and routine When possible bed times meal times after school routines should be coordinated to reduce the confusion for children Kids need to know which home they will sleep in each night and who will pick them up after school or daycare Some parents get into what is fair sharing of the kids without thinking of the best interests of the children I have heard of custody arrangements in which the child alternates between parents homes each night Some kids live one year with one parent and another year with another parent in a different town or state so the child loses their whole support system every year These crazy schedules wreak havoc on childrens stability in friendships family consistency When planning visitation think of the lifestyle of the children and their need for friends social support networks the best interests of the kids not just what is statistically fair for the parents needs to be the guideposts In addition to routines kids do better when parental expectations for behavior are similar It also helps when parents back each other up with discipline For example if a child is grounded from watching TV for a few days for say watching TV when suppose to be cleaning the room it would be great for the oth er parent to support the grounding and refrain from letting the child watch TV until the time is up Agreeing on a routine and expectations is a critical step in accomplishing this difficult task I encourage parents to work toward common routines and expec tations for the good of their children If necessary get help to reach compromises either through joint friends a psychologist a mediator a clergy or some other source Do what it takes to develop a schedule expectations and routines that both parents will sup port Children need and deserve a safe reasonable con sistent and predictable set of standards from their parents to help them stabilize after their parents divorce Expectations and schedules consistently managed in a loving atmosphere by both parents will help children adjust to divorce Disclaimer All materials in this column are pro vided for general information only It is not intended nor should it be construed as psychological advice or instruction Dr Logan is a psychologist in private practice in New Mi China may try Wu quickly before conference By TERENCE HUNT AP White House Correspondent Send address changes 10 the Nfw foaunfelf HeraklZeiiwg Draw er 3 1 1 328 New Braunfels Tx 78 1 3 1 1 328 WASHINGTON AP China may put human rights activist Harry Wu on trial in the next few days and clear up his case perhaps opening the way for Hillary Rodham Clinton to attend an international womens conference in Beijing next month The first lady has pointedly delayed her decision about whether to participate in the conference in hopes of seeing progress in Wus case There are some indications he may be tried on charges that arc unclear at this White House press secretary Mike McCurry said Tuesday Were not certain what that means to his He said it appeared that a trial might occur in the next few days The womens conference sponsored by the Unit ed Nations is set for Sept 415 Upwards of people from around the world arc expected to attend Analysis the conference and a related NonGovernmental Organizations Forum Republican congressional leaders have urged Mrs Clinton to boycott the meeting in protest of Chinas human rights abuses Wus wife Ching Lee Wu also has pleaded with the first lady not to attend as long as her husband is held On the other hand womens activists say her par ticipation would focus a sharp spotlight on abuses of women around the world Mrs Clinton has made clear she is keenly interested in attending the con ference to represent womens causes Wu 58 a Chinesebom American citizen who has secretly filmed abuses in Chinese prisons was arrested June 19 when he tried to enter China from Kazakhstan He was charged with espionage a crime punishable by death Publicly the administration has insisted there is no linkage between Wus case and Mrs Clintons deci sion whether to attend the conference Yet private ly officials acknowledge the two are intertwined in a difficult political issue for the administration A quick trial and the release of Wu might open up the possibility of Mrs Clintons participation in the conference a senior administration official said The Embassy in Beijing refused to say whether it had been notified by the Chinese of any impending trial plans Court and government officials in Wuhan the central Chinese city where Wu has been held also refused to say anything today The expected movement in Wus case comes as a senior administration official Undersecretary of State Peter Tarnoff heads to Beijing in hopes of mending relations which are in their deepest slump since the 1989 Tiananmen Square massacre of prodemocracy advocates Besides the Wu detention the administration has Today In History By The Associated Press Today is Wednesday Aug 23 the 235th day of 1995 There arc 130 days left in the year Todays Highlight in History On Aug 23 1927 Italianborn anarchists Nicola Sacco and Bar tolomco Vanzctti were executed in Boston for the murders of two men during a 1920 robbery On this date In 1754 Frances King Louis XVI was born at Versailles In 1785 naval hero Oliver Hazard Perry was born in South Kingstown In 1838 one of the first colleges for women Mount Holyokc Female Seminary in South Hadlcy graduated its first students In Japan declared war on Germany in World War I In 1926 silent film star Rudolph Valentino died in New York at age 31 In 1939 Nazi Germany and the Soviet Union signed a nonaggres sion treaty In 1944 Romanian prime minister Ion Antoncscu was dismissed by King Michael paving the way for Romania to abandon the Axis in favor of the Allies In 1947 an audience at the Holly wood Bowl heard President Tru mans daughter Margaret give her first public concert as a singer In 1960 Broadway librettist Oscar Hammcrstcin 11 died in Doylcstown Pa In 1972 the Republican national convention meeting in Miami Beach nominated Vice President Spiro T Agncw for a second term In 1982 Lebanons parliament elected Christian militia leader Bashir Gcmaycl president However Gcmaycl was assassinated some three weeks