Santa Fe New Mexican, October 2, 2005, Page 121

Publication: Santa Fe New Mexican October 2, 2005

New Mexican (Newspaper) - October 2, 2005, Santa Fe, New Mexico SEXCETERA Shes worried about his genes By Steve and Mia Philadelphia Daiiy News Question Ive been dating this really great almost a year now We love each other and I definitely see a future with him But I have one concern He recently told me that his father grandmother and an uncle all ended up in mental homes with schizophrenia Should I be worried that he or our children might develop mental Mia Yes you probably should Who wants to give birth to psychobaby while her husbands already locked up in a straitjacket That said everyone has a family history of something But before you procreate I would get checked out by doctors for any genetic or psychiatric problems they might be able to find Steve The idea of geneticsdetermin ing whether you marry someone or not makes me nervous And I dont say that just because I have a lot of insanity in my family Talk to a doctor sure but when it comes to love sometimes you just have to close your eyes and jump Question My boyfriend and I recently got engaged Now he wants to abstain from sex until our wedding night In seven months He says it will make the experience more pure I say its ridiculous since weve already had sex And if we have to go through the stress of wedding planning without any nooky I may go insane What should I do Mia Seven months Youll be revir ginized by then Couldnt you cut the time down to the two weeks prior or something Surely thats enough time for the big night to be spiritual AND mindbl owing Steve Actually five days would do the trick But If he insists tell him you want a vibrator Question I had a really great first date with a guy introduced to me by mutual friends Its been four days and I havent heard from him He said he had a great time and we kissed goodnight Should I call him Would that scare him off I cant stand waiting by the phone Steve It might How much do you know about him Maybe hes dating three other women I know its tough to do but try not to get emotionally invested after a great first date Keep your eyes open for opportunities with other men If this guy never calls cest la vie Mia Heres what I would do Wait ITOUP FRANNIE I WANTEP TO STOP HAVING SEX SO OUR WOULP BE A MORE PURE EXPERIENCE PO YOU A6REE LEMME PUT IT WAY MOTHER ANP I CELEBRATEP OUR ANNIVERSARY EXPERIENCE PRI6TIN until a week has passed and if you havent heard from him give him the benefit of the doubt and call or emai him once asking if hed like to get together again If he responds and you have a great time then chalk it up to cold feet If he doesnt put his name on your list of loser men and move on Question Ive been renting an apart ment with a close friend for the past year and things were fine until three months ago Her boyfriend began spending more and more time here Now he is here at least five nights a week Having a man around really limits me not to mention that their loud sex some times wakes me up I hate to ruin a good friendship but I cant continue living this way What can I say that wont cost me our friendship Steve As politely as possible tell your friend what you told us Shes being selfish and if she doesnt respect your rights move out Mia You could start that they spend some time at his place that its only fair if they do it half and Brad J Daily News half If that doesnt make things liv able gently remind her that he doesnt pay rent there and if they want to be together all the time maybe they should get their own place Steve not his real name is 50some thing and has been married to his second wife for 20 years Mia not her real name is a 20something single immersed in the Center City dating scene If you want answers to your romantic troubles email them at com or write Daily News Box 7788 Philadelphia Pa 19101 magazine Oct 28 2005 SUNDAY 37 ;

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Publication: Santa Fe New Mexican

Location: Santa Fe, New Mexico

Issue Date: October 2, 2005

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