Cedar Rapids Gazette, March 4, 1974, Page 9

Publication: Cedar Rapids Gazette March 4, 1974

Cedar Rapids Gazette (Newspaper) - March 4, 1974, Cedar Rapids, Iowa By Abigail Van Buren DEAU ABBY: I am 16 and my problem is my over sexed brother in law. I babysit for their two year-old child. My sister Would wring his neck if die knew how fresh he gets with me and every other female who comes within two feet of him. (He’s even propositioned my mother and she’s 60.) My sister and this lecher are building a new home now and he tells everybody that he and my .sister and their little daughter bathe together. My sis is, seven months pregnant now and this oversexed dude says he is looking for a king-sized bathtub so they can all bathe together after the new baby comes. He says there is nothing wrong with nudity or sex and anyone who says there is is evil-minded. Tell me, Abby, is he nuts, or am I evil-minded? SI SSIE DEAR SISSIE: There is nothing wrong with nudity or sex under the proper circumstances, but any man who’d proposition his mother-in-law is nuts. *    *    * DEAR ABBY: Regarding your item concerning the women who are interested in obtaining false fannies: I would like to make a contribution. BABE IN OMAHA DEAR BABE: After me. ♦    *    * DEAR ABBY: I am a widow woman planning a tour with a friend. I’ll be ^sharing a room with her which will create a problem    because    I    snore.    I know I snore loudly because those who have heard me say it is most annoying. I’m    told I    sleep    with    my mouth open, so that must be the reason. My friend doesn’t know about my snoring, and I hesitate to tell her before attempting to remedy it. Any suggestions? SNORING PROBLEM DEAR PROBLEM: First see a nose and throat doctor. Often a minor surgical correction will solve the snoring problem. Some have solved the open-mouth problem by applying adhesive tape over the mouth, or using a chin strap, lf all else fails, buy your roommate some ear plugs. * * * CONFIDENTIAL TO "NEEDS A NEW SECRETARY”: I agree. A new broom sweeps clean. But next time try to get one that doesn’t come with an old witch attached to it. ♦ * * DEAR ABBY: I hope ifs not too late to add another gem to your collection of far-out Christmas card messages: "Joe and I hope you have a very nice Christmas and a wonderful New Year. We will never forget all the good times we had together. Please understand, though, that we intend to continue with our lawsuit against you. Love, Mary.” SIGN ME “SUE-D” DEAR SUE-D: Ifs never too late for a good chuckle. *    *    * CONFIDENTIAL TO ZENO C. ON ALLEN COURT: lf a line or two    is    dropped    from    my    column,    I    prefer    to believe that the editor felt that in the interest of saving space it needed slicing, rather than that in the interest of saving face it needed de-spic-ing. *    *    * Problems? You’ll feel better if you get it off your chest. For a personal reply, write to ABBY: Box No. 69700, Los Angeles, Calif. 90069. Enclose stamped, self-addressed envelope, please. /J"    .    I Personalized This Week's Quotable Women By the Associated Press Here are some quotable quotes from women during the week: "We pioneered our kind of series and got it down to a roo tine. I kind of hale to call a halt lo ii, but there are plenty of Other things to do yet ” Lucille Ii (i 11, announcing that her weekly television series will he discontinued next full, ending the longest-running prune time series. * * * "A simple change in the bylaws is not going to get Mory’s liquor license back. The men-only membership rule is arbitrary, invidious and capricious discrimination against women.” Kathryn Emmett, feminist lawyer who filed a suit against the New Haven, Conn., alehouse-eating club which resulted in revocation of its liquor permit. * * * “We have come to recognize our 'artists as part of our national heritage. Although we may be remembered as the country that put men on the Beame moon, art is the signature of civilization.” Opera singer loverly Mills, addressing the New York legislature in Albany about increasing the state budget for the arts. * * * “I don’t believe there’s a place in the law for the words ‘man’ or ‘woman’. We’re all persons. Even in areas where the law protects women, tools for change are not used.” Karen DeCrow, activist attorney and author of “Dexist Justice”, a new book on women and the law. * * * . “Ifs going to be kind of pleas ant living here, especially if you don’t have to clean. Believe me, there’s a little sadness, hut I’m going to keep seeing those marvelous people that I’ve cultivated for years.” Mary Hearne, wife of the new mayor of New York City, on moving from her Queen’s apartment into Crude mansion, home of city mayors. Sociologist Says that Doing Nothing' Is a Benefit of the Energy Crisis By Patricia McCormack NEW YORK (UPI) - That wait in the gas line is good for you. Ifs a time to do absolutely nothing. A sociologist says “doing nothing” now and then is necessary for survival. Before waiting in the gas line, when did you allow time to do nothing on a regular basis? The Rev. John L. Thomas, S. J., sociologist at Georgetown university in Washington, D. C., said in an interview that we all need to “learn to do nothing better.” Beneficial To the extent that it’s slowing us down, the energy crisis probably is beneficial, Father Thomas says. ‘‘I believe the whole energy crisis is a way to stop us rushing,” he said. “It may enable us to look around and see things instead of rushing bv everything. “Just to keep rushing by is pretty much tearing us apart. We’ve become almost incapable of leisurely relationships.” Doing nothing isn’t the same as playing golf on weekends for business contacts, playing tennis for sociability, flying kites to spend more time with the children, walking the dog to exercise him. All those things have a purpose. They are not valid "nothing” pursuits. Frame of Mind Father Thomas, with the Jesuit Center for Social Studies, suggested a frame of mind for doing nothing. "You stop being driven,” he said. That’s how waiting for gas comes in. Just set yourself free during that period. Don’t use it to be frustrated over time-wasted, don’t use it to figure a solution to the oil crisis, don’t use it for anything — except "doing nothing.” A generation ago families did a lot of “nothing” together. Father Thomas figures homes had a more comfortable look to them then. There were saggy, baggy chairs v— from people sitting in them, doing nothing so often. Work Ethic Now, with everyone driven to activity, there’s not much time for relaxing on the home-front. Mast living room furniture has that unlived-in look. “I think we have more of that old Puritan work ethic in us than we realize,” Father Thomas said. Kids today are so scheduled that they don’t have much time to watch the clouds drifting or do other satisfying things. If they’re Scouts, they’re busy earning points for merit badges. If they’re avid readers, they’ve lost the pursuit of recreational reading. The reading all has a purpose behind it—career guidance, inspiration for a hobby. Not so much time for "nothing” on the hook front — thumbing through randomly selected books. “From childhood on,” Fa ther Thomas said, “we are patterned to speed through life, and if we’re not careful, we won’t know how to stop. Draining “This is draining us physically, emotionally and morally.” All persons caught in this rat-race can be kept from being torn apart by realizing that a rhythm of relaxation is a necessary part of life. This is what “doing nothing” is — letting go and taking it easy. When the time comes, you can shift back to intense work with renewed freshness. The easiest way to let go is to shill the mind into something different, according to Father Thomas. “lf you are, for example, working on a hard problem at the office and want to relax, you can’t do it by playing tennis with great intensity,” he said. “You can do it simply by watching the sun rise, a flower grow, or a fire burn in the fireplace. “Sometimes it helps to have several people doing nothing together.” They'll Do It Every Time Just whew soc twin* xxjVe run UP AGAINST AIL KINPS OF TRAFFIC PROBLEMS*** Service! for women DOWNTOWN 108 ie Tower TOWN & COUNTRY Shopping Center Laundering tips to help you save money and conserve energy... • Plan your laundering so you wash and dry full loads of clothes each time. With fewer loads, you’ll save water and energy. • Never overload your washer. It will do a better job if clothes can move about freely. • Choose the cycle that is appropriate for your laundry job .. . and, except for heavily soiled items, many loads will come clean in warm or cold water. • Keep the water faucets that supply your washer turned off when you are not laundering. This will prevent a water loss if a leak develops In a hose or valve. • Clean your dryer’s lint filter after each load, and be sure the dryer is properly vented to the outside of the house. • Don’t overdry clothes. Overdrying wastes energy and is hard on materials. It also causes wrinkling, which increases your ironing chores. Clothes should be removed as soon as they are dried to avoid needless wrinkling and ironing. For additional ideas on how to conserve energy and save money . . . visil any lowa-l 11 inois office and ask for your copy of the pamphlet “31 Ways You Can Conserve Fnergy This Winter.’’ Energy is precious . . . use it wisely! ERA Needs Support of Five States By Peggy Simpson WASHINGTON (AP) Supporters of the Equal Rights Amendment are optimistic of approval at least by 1975. But they expect additional setbacks before ratification by the needed 38 states. “The three states that are key now are Illinois, Florida and Louisiana,” said Pat Keefer, who is coordinating the Common Cause lobby for the ERA, January Goal “If we won the battles in these three states, that would bring us up to 36 and then it might be possible for other bor-! derline states, such as Oklahoma, to ratify this year also,” she said. But some temporary setbacks are expected in other states and supporters have set a goal of January, 1975, for ratification, she said. Five more states must ratify the constitutional amendment banning sex discrimination before it becomes law. With an assist from organized labor and the White House, ERA proponents have won ratification this year in Maine, Ohio and Montana. Georgia’s house defeated the proposed constitutional amend-1 ment in January. There were two contradictory actions this week. In Virginia, the house privileges and elections committee defeated the ERA 12-8, a predicted turndown. In Missouri, the senate rules committee reported out the ERA by a 5-2 vote. Nixon, AFL-CIO Support The proponents’ optimism stems partly from a recently repeated endorsement of the ERA by President Nixon and the turnabout of the AFL-CIO to favor the measure. They are sure of approval by the 1979 deadline, partly because of precedents that a state cannot undo its ratification. as Nebraska has voted to do and other states indicate they may try to do. Proponents do not plan to challenge Nebraska’s vote to rescind unless the 1979 deadline I nears and its vote is needed for ratification. Among the groups devoting full-time efforts to the ERA are the National Organization for Women, which is pushing candidates who oppose anti-ERA legislators; the League of Women Voters, which has so far contributed to the fight about $65,000 from the sale of bracelets with the letters ERA on them; and the citizen's lobby, Common Cause. The Cedar Rapids Gazette: Mon.. Mar., A, tf)7t Clad sic Heat rd)re SS Hor dtjvrinrj Has Ii ions Leo Narducci / 72893 w * Leo Narducci has designed this handsome tent dress with dassie lines. The center front zipper extends into the collar. I he main part of the dress falls from a front and back yoke. The sleeves arc long and cuffed at the wrists. Welts on the skirt simulate pockets. Fabrics: Light or medium*weight wool, challis, knits, flannel, crepe, silk, novelty cotton, synthetic blends. I attern 72893 is cut in misses’ sizes 8-16. Size 12 requires approximately 3 yards of 54-Inch fabric. To order pattern 72893 send number, size, name, address and zip Pattern price $2.50 postpaid. New spring-summer supplement — all new designs SI. A bonus coupon worth $1 toward the purchase of any Spadea pattern is included in each pattern book. Send orders to: Spadea, Box N, Milford, N J. 08848, Dept. CX-9. Peaches 'n’ Cheese Add diced cling peach slices to cheese cake mix when you’re making dessert a little more special. Save a few slices to garnish the top. too. . Ii . A rn •» • *    * •sr v/-v Rib tickler. No bones about it. coffee glazed ribs 'n kraut is a great winter classic. Especially when served with a pot o’ beans to satisfy cold weather appetites. (Makes 8 servings) 5-6 lbs. spareribs in serving pieces, I c. strong coffee, Vt c. ea. light molasses and cider vinegar. 'Ac. prepared mustard. I T. Worcestershire sauce, few drops hot lapper sauce. Arrange ribs I layer deep on bed of Frank’s Quality Kraut. Heat and stir remaining ingredients ‘til blended. Bake uncovered. 350°, 2!4 hrs., basting frequently. IRANK'S. For a real ribbing. Look for the cabbage on the can. Jars and kraut juice, too. “I was a bridesmaid a lot. But then, I was a lot of bridesmaid!’ Edna Shuey- Fine Grove Mills, Pennsylvania “At 176 pounds, I found it easier to catch bouquets than boyfriends. I tried diets but always gained everything back. “The instructors at Elaine Powers were very encouraging. During the first four months, I lost 30 pounds and 40 inches. After a year, I had lost 64 pounds and 65 inches—from a size 18!2 to a 7! "At my own wedding, some of the relatives who hadn’t seen me in a long time hardly recognized me.” When a body needs a friend. (at a price any body can afford). Ejaine Powers Figure Salons b $9 per month. Complete 4'iiionth Call today for your free InHtnited visits. fi«UrC Sn intrust, no .mini..I pmenUttt ult ! Mon. thru Fri. 9 AM 9 PM, Saturday 9 4, Town & Country Shopping Center PHONE 364-9909 or 364-9929 ;

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  • John L. Thomas
  • Karen Decrow
  • Kathryn Emmett
  • Leo Narducci
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  • Pat Keefer
  • Patricia Mccormack
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Publication: Cedar Rapids Gazette

Location: Cedar Rapids, Iowa

Issue Date: March 4, 1974

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