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Kokomo Tribune (Newspaper) - May 8, 1994, Kokomo, Indiana Local May Kokomo Tribune A3 Mothers Day has anguish for moms Birth mothers in adoptions look for niche By CATHARINE FERNANDO Tribune staff writer Mothers Day is one of those Hallmark holidays held sacred by families the world But even Hallmark has yet to come up with greeting cards for those children who were given up for adoption at birth and have been reunited with their birth At a recent meeting of the Indi ana Adoption Coalition in Oak a group of parents and adoptees talked about their their search and their yearning for those lost years that can never be Lynda has been reunited with her 33yearold son for 12 years and still feels the pain of not having held him in her arms as a It took her three frustrat ing years to find fighting the bureaucracy and welfare officials who couldnt spare any more of their already harassed schedules to help reunite parents who had given up their children for adop tion umpteen years Olson said she became pregnant in 1961 when the pall of illegitima cy cast aspersions on the entire My parents made the decision for Olson I didnt have a I never held him in my I wasnt even allowed to see It was only when she began the search that Olson saw the letter the welfare department had sup posedly sent to In she had agreed to give up all claims to the When he was Olson I named him Kevin Now he has a old whom he has named Kevin Olson said finding her son filled a void in her Now I see him all the she Hes part of my family together With my Lori said she had always felt the need to find her birth but Indiana laws did not permit legal She was the first in the state to act when the Indiana General Assem bly last passed legislation to allow adoptees access to identify ing unless the birth parent had filed a non release form with the state regis Its like a big hole in your soul is how I even though my adopted parents will always be Birth mother Lynda Olson with her son Photo provided my mom and Baxter She sought the help of Candy Jones who acted as her guardian ad litem to locate her birth moth The guardian ad litem is appointed oy the court to conduct a search and to maintain the confi dentiality of their findings and report back to the court if the party sought wishes to make con The main thing I wanted my mother to know was that I under stood why she had to put me up for adoption and that I didnt judge my parents and to tell my mother that she did the right Baxter Baxter also met her birth father who has But they con nected so Baxter that she is suffering pangs of guilt and is unable to visit the grave of her adopted I know I have to go to his she said through her Tracing your lineage is also important from the medical per as Barbara will Sometime last Wolfson felt an instinctive need to find the son she had given up for adoption 27 years I just felt that he was in or and that he needed she She too turned to Jones for At about the same her son who was living in had an attempt to trace his roots because he had a health problem for which doctors needed some knowledge of his genetic It turned out to be a minor health but it was important to get some Wolfsons problems began when she was pregnant with a second and going through a When the child was a frightened single par allowed her social worker to convince her that adoption was the best thing she could do for her newborn All this she penned in a journal which she gave her the first meeting was not between the son and his moth but between the two He never knew he had a full blooded brother or twin halfsis Wolfson When the brothers the first thing my 35yearold son said I don t think we need a DNA I felt like I was looking at In Wolfson and her husband Len of 25 who fully endorsed her met with her second adopted There were pictures of my son at various stages of all over their It was over whelming because I never knew him as a Their son is now engaged to be and when the time comes for his Barbara Wolfson knows that her position is It will be up to my son and his family to make the she When he was 47 years Rick McFall decided he should try to seek his natural With his Debbies he went to Jones to do the Jones contacted his mothers sister who arranged for McFall to tele phone his mother who now lives in It was probably one of the hardest phone calls Ive ever made in my McFall I rehearsed beforehand what I would say to but when the time I forgot all my When they met in his mother begged that he not judge her and he had to reas sure her repeatedly that he who had always wanted found that he had three At least I know where I came and I feel like a whole per son McFall Olson summed up the one thing all the people in these situations have learned and that Even though youre you cant go just have to move forward from this point because there is no shared Indiana Adoption Coalition fears politics may undo adoption gains By CATHARINE FERNANDO Tribune staff writer One group that is concerned over Brad Bayliffs loss to James Buck for the Republican nomination for Indianas District 38 House seat is the Indiana Adoption Bayliff was the incumbent for District which includes Howard and Tipton His loss in the primary was an We are concerned that he might undo everything we have fought so hard for in the area of said Candy the most outspoken advocate of the Of course we dont know if Buck will get but were keeping our fingers crossed that if he were not going to lose Jones Their concern is fueled by the fact that Bucks supporters include John who while state representative from 1960 to impeded the cause of the Jones and her group has been fighting state legislation since 1984 wnen the law closed records to adoptees searching tfreir roots and birth parents seeking their Prior to Jones the judges had discretionary So if an adoptee or a birtn mother petitioned the the judge would grant access accord ing to the merits of each The coalition found a supporter in who has since champi oned various changes in state laws regarding In July summer hearings were held by the Family and Childrens Ser and it was recommended that a medical history and an adoption history registry be estab The state legislature and that law went into effect in July After three in Bayliff was successful in getting House Bill 1103 which allows adoptees access to identifying information unless a birth parent had filed a nonrelease form with the state Even in this years short session of the Indiana General Bayliff and John D passed a version of a Baby Jessica bill that creates a putative father registry that will Kelp determine the identity and location of an undisclosed father who may have conceived a child who is the subject of an The bill was filed in the wake of the highly publicized story of Baby who was at the cen ter of a dispute between her birth parents in Iowa and her adoptive parents in The courts ruled that Baby Jessica belonged with her birth parents even though she had been living with her adoptive parents for more than two Today both adoptees and birth parents have greater access to the courts because House Bill 1103 was designed so that petition could be filed in any court in the United Jones The law was also designed to be cost efficient and allowed individ uals to file their own petitions without incurring attorney Jones said many including Howard will not grant a hearing without an attorneys As far as she Jones said she is the only guardian ad literri in Howard that one who conducts searches i for adoptees and birth parents and reports back to the Jones said anyone seeking to find a child or birth parent should Register with the state Petition the any court in any state in the United Once the petition is filed the judge will appoint a guardian ad litem to conduct a search and report back to the Valvoline LubeOilFilter f Only 1 U Cars Gall for Service Evacuate Recharge Light Cars Trucks Dwight Fouts Tire US 31 Bypass North IN 4577274 I Jeff and Debbie Lewellyn would like to invite family and colleagues to a Retirement Party in Honor of our Parents Norman Roberta Lewellyn Saturday May Western High School Cafeteria Please bring one piece of memorabilia about the school or local events to add to a memory box for the German visitors Five Group Study Exchange visitors from Rotary District 1930 in Germany tour the fire station in uptown Kokomo to learn about life in Led by Werner past presi dent of the Rotary Club of Hochschwarzwald in the group returns to Germany The group was hosted by Mayor Robert Kokomo Police Chief Lynn Rudolph and Kokomo Fire Chief Joe Zuppar Tribune photo by Tim Bath Alpha Chi honors inductees Thirteen Indiana University Kokomo students were recently inducted into the Alpha Chi Indi ana Kappa Alpha Chi is a general scholar ship honor society founded at a conference of Texas colleges in Chapters are in small col leges and universities across the United The local chapter was chartered in Students recently inducted listed with hometown and were Seniors Bea general studies Amy Ree mathematics Melinda Janel social and behavioral sciences Sandra Mary Ann Kin English Sherry Lynn gener al studies Scott Russi elementary education and Linda nurs Juniors Sharon nursing Stephanie nursing Joyce general studies Amanda Exmeyer social and behavioral sci ences and Paulla L Koko IUK Chancellor Emita Hill presided over the induction cere mony at Kejley Student Center with William vice chancel lor of academic and Gary faculty MEMORIAL DAY SPECIAL WE HAVE OVER 1500 MARKERS AND STATUES IN STOCK READY FOR QUICK THESE MEMORIALS ARE ALL REDUCED IN PRICE FROM 10 TO OVER COMPARE OUR CRAFTSMANSHIP AND AND YOU WILL UNDERSTAND WHY WE ARE THE LEADERS IN THE MEMORIAL HI TIME WYNIENT AVAILABLE HI YOUR CHOICE OF FIVE POPULAR COLORS PRAIRIE MOUNTAIN BARRE ROSE and BLUE AS MUCH AS ONLY THOUSANDS OF OTHER MEMORIALS IN OVER 20 DIFFERENT ON SALE Bring this ad in with you and receive an EXTRA OFF the monument of your m HI LongWearly Monuments 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